Escorts discuss a tickling request

[matt62]

I've seen posts on this website discussing the subject of hiring escorts or hookers for tickling. A while ago on the internet I found a website used by independent escorts which has a thread where they are discussing how they should respond when they receive a request for tickling from a client. Possibly some of you may have come across it already, but here it is and I found it very interesting reading:

http://saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=866.0

One thing that I notice is that several of the women instinctively seem to feel that tickling is in some ways even more powerful and intimate than sex, and they are more wary of saying yes to it with a stranger than they are to having sex with him: "I don't like the feeling of not being in control"..."It has always been with men I trust"..."I couldn't base a booking round it with a stranger, I do think you need the rapport building first" - yet they have sex with strangers, presumably often without much preliminary rapport-building.

The other thing that struck me was the one who says "I wasn't sure what to do so I replied [to the tickling request] and never heard back, but that's probably a good thing because I'm far too ticklish to cope"! It makes me wonder how clear/unclear the issue of consent could be in this situation if the girl is not 100% sure of what might be involved or where her limits are. You hope the client would be meticulous about giving her a safeword. Most escorts would be alert to this but this one's response shows that when it comes to tickling there is a certain amount of confusion.

 

[CapturedDoll]

My Norton software is blocking me from accessing the website. So I can't read further.

But that's interesting... very interesting indeed. You would think tickling would sound like a cake walk compared to full blown sex... I mean... the fear of contracting STD'S alone I would think would make tickling sound heavenly. Wow.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

This is why I tell people they're better off hiring a pro-sub or switch. Most escorts probably would be sacred or not know how to handle fetish and BDSM sessions because what they mostly cater is sexy time activities with mostly Vanilla's(They're probably mostly Vanilla themselves.). Now I am not saying kinky escorts don't exist, but they are harder to find. Pro-subs and switches are trained to cater fetish and BDSM sessions/clients(Most of the ones I ever ran into were also already kinky or in the lifestyle to some extent.). So long story short if you hire an escort yes she'll fuck you and if the sex is what you want the most then go for it, but if you care more about having your fetish/BDSM desires met then go with a pro-sub or switch who will better understand you.

 

[The Internet]

My favorite are the comments like this: "All the guys I meet find out somehow that Im ticklish and takes the oppurtunitu to torture me!"

I guess it just goes the territory!

I think a lot of their confusion is due to the fact that they think it's a 2-hour non-stop tickle assault without breaks or breathers.

 

[chicago]

Or the fact that a lot of hookers get murdered so why would you let some random shady dude tie you up

 

[OscarTheMonkey]

That's always interesting.My wife and I have wanted to tickle another woman for a while, and I've considered escorts. I see one who specifically state they are "fetish friendly", but it also seems against protocol to ask any questions when booking one. I've never used one for anything, so I'm not sure. I would like to make sure that first off, she was actually ticklish, and secondly, that she was in board with being restrained and tickled for an hour ( or 45 minutes) by a couple.

Like Captured Doll said..I also would think that compared to intercourse or blowjobs ( or the hundreds of crazy things they are asked to do that I'm sure I can only imagine) being tickled for a bit would be much more mundane) . But while I understand the reluctance to communicate in advance, it just seems like a big roadblock to not be able to ask if someone is willing to do what you want.

And Porcelaindoll2, what you say seems to make sense, but I'm not seeing any pro subs near my area. And...I have researched it....

And of course...the people on here in the Personals section would seem to be the best choice, but I have seen nothing but flakiness from women who want to be tickled ( think they would feel more comfortable with a couple rather than single guy) and respond to a few messages and disappear.
And with regard to that, I can't even find another guy to help me tickle my wife, which really surprises the hell out of me.

 

[TickleUEmo]

I wonder if you can request what the escort wears to the session (within reason of course, a chicken suit I'm sure costs extra). But for me personally a woman showing up in a T-shirt, shorts and flip-flops would be a lot more exciting than having her show up all fancied up in a dress and high heels. The more casual outfit would make it feel more like I'm tickling one of the many ladies I see in the course of an average day that I'd like to tickle.

 

[CapturedDoll]

And of course...the people on here in the Personals section would seem to be the best choice, but I have seen nothing but flakiness from women who want to be tickled ( think they would feel more comfortable with a couple rather than single guy) and respond to a few messages and disappear.
And with regard to that, I can't even find another guy to help me tickle my wife, which really surprises the hell out of me.

This REALLY leads me to think we need to start a support group at this point. I see so many people that cannot even make 1 post. It's unhealthy to live like this. I understand not wanting to be found out by family... by co workers... but... amongst US? THIS board. OK... some people are not comfortable posting on a sexual fetish board. OK! But... when I look at what I have been through... I feel so much better now that I am actively participating. So much more ALIVE. This does not mean people have to do anything they don't want to. But what exactly are people doing in their own time to find their voice? Their inner brave soul? To push their boundaries to be able to finally relax and find joy?

A lot of the LGBTQA community of which I am also a part of being Bisexual... well... can you imagine for a moment what so many have gone through? The murders... the violence? We as Tickling Fetishists do NOT have these things happening. So the fear stems from childhood insecurities. Or... being un masculine somehow. Etc... Now... I KNOW the Tickled Documentary did not help anyone's insecurities.... but that doesn't mean we keep living "in the closet"

I encourage those who live in larger cities to begin, in person support groups. If we can have a few support groups in every single state... I think it would be an immense help. And... something the Millenials have now is Skype. I have to think talking about it out loud is helping them. But I don't ultimately know. I know for myself making the audios and videos has helped ME IMMENSELY! So... skype support groups should become a tool in helping everyone. Using myself as my own study... I from time to time do a mental check in. How am I feeling... how was that rp... how did the story I wrote make me feel... etc etc etc. Growing within this IS in fact a process. And no one can stay stagnate. It's asking too much of yourself. RP'S... private messaging... the chat room... its a temporary bandage masking the larger problem. Hiding. Not feeling good enough about yourself as it pertains to our fetish.

 

[duderino84]

My Norton software is blocking me from accessing the website. So I can't read further.

But that's interesting... very interesting indeed. You would think tickling would sound like a cake walk compared to full blown sex... I mean... the fear of contracting STD'S alone I would think would make tickling sound heavenly. Wow.

I think they're subliminally addressing the male need for "power". A guy is basically willing to pay for an escort because he isn't getting normal needs met, no? If I strip the occupational title and just read it from the perspective of. ....dating women, it's looking like they want some portion of control over themselves, and they're looking for any sign of an event going south that they can find.

Guys unfortunately come off like entitled, brass balled assholes that are looking for their fix and then the exit sign. So to see (or hear about) such worry is expected.

This REALLY leads me to think we need to start a support group at this point. I see so many people that cannot even make 1 post. It's unhealthy to live like this. I understand not wanting to be found out by family... by co workers... but... amongst US? THIS board. OK... some people are not comfortable posting on a sexual fetish board. OK! But... when I look at what I have been through... I feel so much better now that I am actively participating. So much more ALIVE. This does not mean people have to do anything they don't want to. But what exactly are people doing in their own time to find their voice? Their inner brave soul? To push their boundaries to be able to finally relax and find joy?

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It is unhealthy, sure. But what would someone hear? That we have to "find someone compatible" or "simmer down until you know them"? I don't think it's possible to get people to universally change. I think my fetish is a symptom of a problem with me. Kind of like with another thread it was revealed a lot of ticklers don't favor penetration equally to tickling (some severely so). I Think the answer is to get back to basics. Like "Dating for Dummies". Removing all the sexuality from the idea of attaining relationship because frankly, I think the fetish (and other social problems) makes people jump the proverbial gun.

 

[Park CollegeO]

@OscarThemonkey

How far away form Denver are you? Id recommend contacting Pavlovia Denver (www.pavloviadenver.com) and asking if any of their pro's would be willing to switch for a tickling session. I've had conversations with one of the ladies based there who was visiting my area and they do a lot of tickling work there (clips for c4s). so im sure you can find someone there if you're close to Denver

 

[CapturedDoll]

I think they're subliminally addressing the male need for "power". A guy is basically willing to pay for an escort because he isn't getting normal needs met, no? If I strip the occupational title and just read it from the perspective of. ....dating women, it's looking like they want some portion of control over themselves, and they're looking for any sign of an event going south that they can find.

Guys unfortunately come off like entitled, brass balled assholes that are looking for their fix and then the exit sign. So to see (or hear about) such worry is expected.

I think its true also that most of these women have a slew of bad experiences under their belt. Aside from tickling and even with tickling from childhood experiences. I guess Tickling is a universal word that represents in every language loss of control. So you make a good point. What about male escorts...? I'm sure some feel the same way depending on their experiences. And yet some might be open. The bondage aspect if included I would understand without hearing a back story. But now that you have brought this up...yes.

Also yes some Men can be assholes. But so can some women.

I recently read an article from a Gay man who wrote how women who go into the Gay clubs and will be so unbelievably aggressive.They get drunk and expect that they can do and act however they want. Pushy in getting drinks. Putting their hands where they don't belong on the men... being just so obnoxious and inappropriate its flat out scary. So its to say some women can be aggressive... just maybe in different areas of life. And as far as some Men we have heard countless awful stories in relation to Prostitution. But so far as I can see... Men here are more shy then aggressive. (just from what I see on the board.)

 

[duderino84]

I think its true also that most of these women have a slew of bad experiences under their belt. Aside from tickling and even with tickling from childhood experiences. I guess Tickling is a universal word that represents in every language loss of control. So you make a good point. What about male escorts...? I'm sure some feel the same way depending on their experiences. And yet some might be open. The bondage aspect if included I would understand without hearing a back story. But now that you have brought this up...yes.

Also yes some Men can be assholes. But so can some women.

I recently read an article from a Gay man who wrote how women who go into the Gay clubs and will be so unbelievably aggressive.They get drunk and expect that they can do and act however they want. Pushy in getting drinks. Putting their hands where they don't belong on the men... being just so obnoxious and inappropriate its flat out scary. So its to say some women can be aggressive... just maybe in different areas of life. And as far as some Men we have heard countless awful stories in relation to Prostitution. But so far as I can see... Men here are more shy then aggressive. (just from what I see on the board.)

I always kind of thought guys would think it were easier to just. ...kinda go in and get their cock pulled on. But I'm sure being that I'm one that I have a bias. I think there's probably less male stigma toward the idea of being tied up, actually. Like it's a rare opportunity or something.

Women can be assholes. But I think it's the reinforced idea that certain people deserve certain things or that their actions are only "in response" to someone else's actions. I hear the discussions like "I can leave a relationship for a day, walk out in the street and pick up a guy with no effort" or the stories of how failed relationships are opportunities to hook up more (I've been on some odd dates). Like I think the open mention of polyamory that I hear about is kind of selfish/spitting in men's faces.

I guess I'm more of a recluse than I thought because I haven't really experienced the whole "asshole side" of women, just the complaints that men have the approach of "nice tits, wanna fuck?"

 

[The Internet]

Or the fact that a lot of hookers get murdered so why would you let some random shady dude tie you up

Who said anything about tying a girl up? None of the women (escorts) in those two pages mentioned anything about bondage nor were they worrying about being murdered. They all were talking about how they didn't think they could deal with the tickling.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

@OscarThemonkey

How far away form Denver are you? Id recommend contacting Pavlovia Denver (www.pavloviadenver.com) and asking if any of their pro's would be willing to switch for a tickling session. I've had conversations with one of the ladies based there who was visiting my area and they do a lot of tickling work there (clips for c4s). so im sure you can find someone there if you're close to Denver

Yes that is something worth pointing out that a lot of pro-Dommes will usually switch for tickling only because they consider it to be relatively harmless as say getting tied up or spanked. Plus you get the added bonus of ticking a woman who is normally in charge. I have met many pro-Dommes who will switch for tickling.

 

[Park CollegeO]

Yes that is something worth pointing out that a lot of pro-Dommes will usually switch for tickling only because they consider it to be relatively harmless as say getting tied up or spanked. Plus you get the added bonus of ticking a woman who is normally in charge. I have met many pro-Dommes who will switch for tickling.

Exactly this. I usually use my references if i'm contacting a pro domme and asking her if she would switch for me. my ideal session is always a 2 hour switch session and so it's always fun when they agree. Now, it hasn't worked out all the time, some just don't sub at all even if you have 10 credible references. But for the most part, if you're reasonable about it they tend to give you the benefit of the doubt

 

[chicago]

Who said anything about tying a girl up? None of the women (escorts) in those two pages mentioned anything about bondage nor were they worrying about being murdered. They all were talking about how they didn't think they could deal with the tickling.

Couldn't open the link either, but they do go hand in hand (bondage and tickling). Was just making a guess as to why, (possible safety concerns) like everyone else here.

 

[The Internet]

Couldn't open the link either, but they do go hand in hand (bondage and tickling). Was just making a guess as to why, (possible safety concerns) like everyone else here.

If you can't read the content, why comment? Why even chime in?

Ok, people who can't read the content, but still feel like commenting, let me sum it up for you: It's a message board, not unlike the TMF, of (supposed) escorts trading notes. One had been asked by a client to do a tickling session and was not sure about it, and was asking advice. A bunch of other escorts (two pages worth) chime in with their experiences. it was an interesting read, and very lighthearted.

(And no, bondage and tickling don't necessarily go hand in hand, some prefer more physical interaction. In fact, that's what some of the escorts mentioned they enjoyed about it, the "playfighting" , the "being chased around" as well as the laughing.)

It also turned out in the end that the person who had requested the session was looking for an F/M situation, not the other way around.

Thanks for the link, Matt62.

 

[kralizec]

I thought it was a good read and was very light hearted.

 

[chicago]

If you can't read the content, why comment? Why even chime in?

Ok, people who can't read the content, but still feel like commenting, let me sum it up for you: It's a message board, not unlike the TMF, of (supposed) escorts trading notes. One had been asked by a client to do a tickling session and was not sure about it, and was asking advice. A bunch of other escorts (two pages worth) chime in with their experiences. it was an interesting read, and very lighthearted.

(And no, bondage and tickling don't necessarily go hand in hand, some prefer more physical interaction. In fact, that's what some of the escorts mentioned they enjoyed about it, the "playfighting" , the "being chased around" as well as the laughing.)

It also turned out in the end that the person who had requested the session was looking for an F/M situation, not the other way around.

Thanks for the link, Matt62.

Because I can? Because it's an open forum. Thefuck you care why or even if I comment anyway?

Can you copy and paste something instead of giving your take on it? So people can then come up with their own?

I imagine male escorts have to deal with a lot of various requests, uncomfortable interactions, or safety issues as well. It's not a female exclusive issue.

For many, bondage and tickling do go hand in hand often times, though yes not always.

 

[The Internet]

Because I can? Because it's an open forum. Thefuck you care why or even if I comment anyway?

Duh fuck i care about why or even if you comment? lol. I don't! I don't think it helps keep a thread "on topic", Sheriff, if you make ignorant comments about the participants fearing being murdered without having read their words.

Can you copy and paste something instead of giving your take on it? So people can then come up with their own?

No.

I imagine male escorts have to deal with a lot of various requests, uncomfortable interactions, or safety issues as well. It's not a female exclusive issue.

I lived with a male escort, my ex was an escort for a time, and her best friend as well. I saw some pros a few times. Everything is negotiated in advance. If a guy is paying, usually he's got something in mind. My girl said that most guys were bashful, happy to see her, and easily handled. I think ticklephiles and foot fetishists are probably a lot easier to deal with than coked-up drunks at 3 in the morning.

For many, bondage and tickling do go hand in hand often times, though yes not always.

Right. Exactly what I said. And like I said, the word "bondage" does not appear anywhere on the two pages. (you're just gonna have to take my word for it, sis).

 

[The Internet]

I thought it was a good read and was very light hearted.

Maybe you'll take Kralizec's word for it?

 

[okdremur]

Really not that difficult. I've done it numerous times, with good results. Just being up front about what I want, what she can expect, and how long, even what I wanted them to wear. I don't tie them down, I give breaks when shes winded, and it has always been good experiences. I've actually had 3 different women in particular that said they were "too ticklish", and was hesitant, but after more explanation they agreed to give it a try. Every last one I've seen has said they'd do it again, that it wasn't anything like they'd expected, and they actually enjoyed it. Tickling can be done, just be up front and have fun.

 

[chicago]

Duh fuck i care about why or even if you comment? lol. I don't! I don't think it helps keep a thread "on topic", Sheriff, if you make ignorant comments about the participants fearing being murdered without having read their words.



No.



I lived with a male escort, my ex was an escort for a time, and her best friend as well. I saw some pros a few times. Everything is negotiated in advance. If a guy is paying, usually he's got something in mind. My girl said that most guys were bashful, happy to see her, and easily handled. I think ticklephiles and foot fetishists are probably a lot easier to deal with than coked-up drunks at 3 in the morning.



Right. Exactly what I said. And like I said, the word "bondage" does not appear anywhere on the two pages. (you're just gonna have to take my word for it, sis).

Lol then why are you up my ass so much? Save that weird shit for p&r. I was responding just like anyone else, others couldnt read the article either, why don't you crawl up their rectums?

And I don't take anyone's word, don't take it personal, bro. Telling that you could type up a summary but not copy and paste shit. Lol

 

[The Internet]

Lol then why are you up my ass so much? Save that weird shit for p&r. I was responding just like anyone else, others couldnt read the article either, why don't you crawl up their rectums?

Because you're the one who engaged me, not them! As usual, kiddo, you piggybacked on my comment, not the other way around. Maybe you can tell me why you are up my ass! The other people said they couldn't see the link! You didn't! I'm not a mindreader! You didn't know what you were talking about, I pointed it out, live with it!

Chicago, are you going to hijack yet another thread into one of your patented 8-page bickerfests? Save it for the P&R Forum? LMFAO! Have you looked at your own posts, in this very section? GTFO! You have zero self-awareness, kid, just so you know: you are synonymous with the terms "up somebody's ass" and "crawling up people's rectums" (keeping it classy, I see....remind me to call you "kid" more.....lol).

And I don't take anyone's word, don't take it personal, bro.

Well then you're out of luck because I'm not copying and pasting two pages of message board posts for you, sorry. (Someone else can do it, though!)

*****

Keeping it on topic: the horror stories I've heard firsthand are actually more on the escort side. My ex would get too drunk and pass out and become a real problem. Once she awoke and a very nervous guy was driving her home, carried her into her apartment, didn't take her money, didn't take advantage of her, just really perturbed, nervous and put-out. My ex's best friend would leave hidden notes for wives when she found out a guy was married. I once had a girl who kept trying to get me to pay for another (more expensive) "act". So most definitely, pros have to deal with assholes, but it works the other way too, it's a risk. I'd recommend not having an escort come over to where you live. Here in NY, there's at least two places I know that caters to tickle fetish, one advertises on the board (though I never have gone, so I can't tell you about it).

My ex never had a tickle client, but did get tickled on the job a few times. Reading this conversation that Matt62 posted was a beautiful peak into how these women perceive tickling, and also about the nature of men ticklers (one mentions that she has some "older clients" who like to tickle her during massages.....I thought that was interesting, that it was her "older" clients. Another mentions that every guy she's with finds out she's ticklish. Another is "my favourite client" who tickles her from time to time.....she's the one who says she thinks you need to first build rapport and wouldn't be able to just do a tickle session with a complete stranger)

I also always thought that being ticklish for a prostitute was a liability and that most probably aren't. But reading this told me a different story!

 

[The Internet]

Really not that difficult. I've done it numerous times, with good results. Just being up front about what I want, what she can expect, and how long, even what I wanted them to wear. I don't tie them down, I give breaks when shes winded, and it has always been good experiences. I've actually had 3 different women in particular that said they were "too ticklish", and was hesitant, but after more explanation they agreed to give it a try. Every last one I've seen has said they'd do it again, that it wasn't anything like they'd expected, and they actually enjoyed it. Tickling can be done, just be up front and have fun.

Exactly. See? He's not tying them up either! This was pretty much my experience as well.