FeatherFeet said:
nothing you have said there proved me wrong in any way at all. In fact I have no clue why you even responded to it.
I said those who dont like to be tickled usually have insecurity problems. And they have problems with feeling out of control. You say your life is in your control and you say you like being tickled. isnt that EXACTLY proving what I'm saying? lol maybe you misunderstood my origional post
A person's life is in control until someone tickles them. Even if they gave the person permission to tickle them, their body naturally fights the sensations which is why you have to strap them down right? Think about the person who simply doesn't like the body's natural flight response, but the person kept tickling away? What does that have to do with being insecure? I just learned to like being tickled over the last 5 years or so. Someone showed me it was more than just a weapon used to dominate. Prior to that, the perpetrators were the ones with the insecurity problems. They were the ones with control issues-not me.
No, didn't misunderstand it at all. Just that there is an exception to everything and I feel I was the exception to your statement. People who don't like being tickled, don't like being tickled. People who like to tickle people who don't like being tickled are the ones with the problems. There is nothing funny at all about non-consentual tickling. Being a fan of non-con and writing stories about it is one thing-to actually do it to someone pretty much borders assault.
Many people who abused with tickling because it's a good way to gain control over someone who is in control every other way (hence my descriptions of the sensations). Many use it to "take down" someone they'd have no other way to take advantage of. Many use it as a means of controlling and manipulating others they otherwise could not control. It's even been used as a pre-cursor to rape and some tortures (real-life, someone could actually die, torture). Tickling is a stronger method than people who frequent this board think. But that doesn't mean that the person who hates it is insecure-it simply means that they hate it.
Fear of tickling is no different than someone who has fear of heights, snakes, bugs, or anything else. I don't hear anyone saying they have insecurity problems. Most on this board love tickling and even love the loss of control associated with it. There are a small percentage on this board who love to tickle but absolutely hate being tickled. Some have even said they'd rather be beaten than tickled-are they insecure too? I feel this way to a certain degree and I don't have any insecurity problems and I don't suspect that they do either. The hate of tickling might not even be associated with fear at all-the person just might hate the feeling of it. Again, nothing at all to do with insecurity.
It has a lot to do with fear (or hatred in my case) of someone else having that much control/power over you and making you feel overpowered and helpless-plain and simple. It has something to do with being in your personal space (possibly uninvited). How many people just walk up to someone and just start tickling them? To some of you, that's hot. To me-it's absolutely offensive! I don't like someone in my personal space unless I invite them in it-once again nothing at all to do with insecurity as it does with respecting my body and personal space.
I didn't misunderstand you at all-I certainly hope I've cleared the air. If not, to each his or her own.
So if someone on the "outside" tickles me, or threatens to tickle me, I flip out and beg them not to, and totally mean it. Strange, huh?
