fetish advice

[number1234]

Hey everyone this advice is for my guy friend who has a tickling fetish, he doesn't know im into it, and I don't plan on telling him. but I noticed hes becoming obessed with it a lot
so heres what ive known so far, he loves being tied and tickled so much that not only does he go for tickling sessions with dominatrix, but aswell he messages random people on facebook and pays them to tickle him out of his own money, he has a fetlife, aswell,
hes even messaged the wrong people on facebook and now their using his fetish as a sexual harassament, and keeping it a secret unless he pays them to shut up about it, and yah they are a bit younger then him.

ive been telling him this week to stop with the tickle jobs idea, because all your gonna do is lose money and waste it, hes even recorded a few sessions hes had with people who have tickled him, so far all ive said to him was stop doing the jobs stop messaging random people.
and just ignore the people who are threatening you. other then that I don't really know what else to say to him lol, ive never dealt with a friend whos this obessed over something so silly, so if anyone has advice they can give please let me know so I can help him control his fetish thanks!

 

[Jagermeistered]

Well, he is a free-spirit that does not give a shit(at this point in his life)! He could die tomorrow, but at least he is living the life he wants to live today! His form of just being spontaneous is immediate gratification, and who cares about his "enemies"? I do not think he really cares(thus, you are correct, ignore your 'blackmailers').

When in doubt, if he wants a future career without their bullshit; move-on or move-away, and/or getaway from social media(his current username).

 

[The_Kev]

From what I understand based on your post, it sounds like it's worth the money and trouble to him. Until that changes I'm not sure there's much you can do.

 

[iloveddub]

When you say " obsessed over something so silly", to him it's not silly, and unless that changes, nothing you say or do will change him. It's his money, he's happy, so let him be.

 

[Nate6]

Well if you're his friend and you care about him that much maybe you should tell him that you're into it and possibly offer to tickle him or be tickled by him every once in a while. Maybe then he'd agree to chill out with it a little because now he knows someone well who isn't obsessed with it but is still into it at the same time.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Well if you're his friend and you care about him that much maybe you should tell him that you're into it and possibly offer to tickle him or be tickled by him every once in a while. Maybe then he'd agree to chill out with it a little because now he knows someone well who isn't obsessed with it but is still into it at the same time.

I do not think she is attracted to him.

 

[Nate6]

She's still his friend and it's not about her it's about getting him to stop being obsessed with it.

 

[Jagermeistered]

She's still his friend and it's not about her it's about getting him to stop being obsessed with it.

Nate, Destiny2012 - is Hot! I do not think her friend will become "less obsessed," if she throws herself under the bus.

 

[Nate6]

He's spending his money because he doesn't know anybody into it that would do it for free. If he has an option to do it for free once in a while it shows that he can still enjoy tickling without paying for it. So it gives him an option to stop spending so much that hadn't been there previously. And obviously she cares about him because she started a thread about him whether she's hott or not?? That's also kind of a shallow statement to dismiss her involvement because of her appearance.

 

[Jagermeistered]

He's spending his money because he doesn't know anybody into it that would do it for free. If he has an option to do it for free once in a while it shows that he can still enjoy tickling without paying for it. So it gives him an option to stop spending so much that hadn't been there previously. And obviously she cares about him because she started a thread about him whether she's hott or not?? That's also kind of a shallow statement to dismiss her involvement because of her appearance.

You missed the last part of her OP:

so if anyone has advice they can give please let me know so I can help him control his fetish thanks!

That is impossible... The only way to control your fetish is thru self-control. The spending of money is just a effect of his fetish.

That's also kind of a shallow statement to dismiss her involvement because of her appearance.

-Nate

How is that shallow? She is not interested in him as a tickle buddy, re-read:

he doesn't know im into it, and I don't plan on telling him.

That is not being shallow, but honest...

 

[Nate6]

It's really not impossible first of all, 2nd I saw that she said that she wasn't planning on telling him i was asking her to change her plan. It was a suggestion not an overlook. She's looking for advice because she doesn't know what to do and no one has even tried helping her, just basically telling her to leave him alone which seems to not have worked.

 

[Jagermeistered]

It's really not impossible first of all, 2nd I saw that she said that she wasn't planning on telling him i was asking her to change her plan. It was a suggestion not an overlook. She's looking for advice because she doesn't know what to do and no one has even tried helping her, just basically telling her to leave him alone which seems to not have worked.

So, you think she should just become a tickle doll for him, even if she is not sexually interested in him? What if she finds a guy or gal she is actually interested in, and stops being a 'piece' for her friend? Will he not go back to his previous pattern of behavior?

 

[Nate6]

I don't see how she's a tickle doll if she offered to share in something she is also interested in on an occasional basis? You chose the words tickle doll and you also grouped in tickling with sex. From what i understand he's not having sex with the people he's paying to tickle/be tickled so what does sex have to do with it? Especially if they are just friends in the first place. I'm sure they have the ability to be mature about it. And he might go back to that behavior at some point unless he finds someone he's interested in as well in that time. Maybe after not spending his money for a while he will already know the benefits of having the extra money he doesn't decide to waste. But again i made a suggestion it doesn't mean she has to do it? Let it go.

 

[Jagermeistered]

I don't see how she's a tickle doll if she offered to share in something she is also interested in on an occasional basis?

But, she said she would not - never mind.

Whatever you say, Nate...

 

[chicago]

How does he not know you have this fetish?

This is the most popular site dedicated to that very subject and your pictures are all over you profile / signature.

Just saying, this whole scenario seems weird.

Advice? Don't get involved. Let people make their own mistakes.

 

[Lopa]

I agree with Annie.

 

[Luvs2tckl]

I find myself doubting that Destiny is who she says she is...

This story belongs in the fiction section as far as I am concerned.

Annie, you made the right call for sure.

Luvs

 

[Lopa]

are people seeking inspiration from the story section to attract public attention?

 

[monstertickles]

I find myself doubting that Destiny is who she says she is...

This story belongs in the fiction section as far as I am concerned.

Annie, you made the right call for sure.

Luvs

I have my doubts after a few messages with 'her' and a Fetlife encounter..

 

[Candygirl]

I agree. Things don't exactly add up. If he's a friend, why wouldn't you want to tell him that you have a common interest?? You can have something in common without engaging in it together. For example, I have a friend who I share a common interest of being physically overpowered with and it's a turn on for both of us. That doesn't mean he and I have regular wrestling matches in our living room.

This whole idea is just silly to me. But the best advice has already been given. He's a grown man. Let him live his life. Good luck.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

How does he not know you have this fetish?

This is the most popular site dedicated to that very subject and your pictures are all over you profile / signature.

Just saying, this whole scenario seems weird.

Advice? Don't get involved. Let people make their own mistakes.

Good advice and shrewd observations.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Has anyone else noticed Destiny hasn't chimed back in since posting this thread?

 

[Ms Regan Black]

Hello, Destiny-

Without knowing 100% of your friend's situation~

An obsession with a fetish can make a person make unwise decisions, which one may call contacting unknown or unreferenced people and giving them personal information to be used later. I have seen it happen and have helped people with the obsessive behavior, or advised them to professional therapists if the obsession has become extremely harmful.
On the other hand, it may also be possible the danger / blackmail / random contact may be integral to his tickling experience or even a fetish in and of itself. This also happens more than one may think.
In either case, he should make a point to seek out know ticklers with experience (and, very importantly, references!) for that sort of play. Some of the danger aspect can be roleplayed instead of actually experienced, which will be safer for him in the long run.

I sincerely hope it all works out for your friend.

Regards
-Ms Black

 

[Sandisk444]

I don't agree with the "letting it go, it's not your problem" approach. If it was just an emotional issue then yeah, let him make his own mistakes but this is involving (what sounds like) some substantial amount of money which he's tossing around to an addiction rather than a fetish.

No one gets into these situations casually, he's addicted to the tickling and it's taking a rather unhealthy turn so all I can suggest is to help him see what he's doing and the trouble he's putting himself into, get some help with it so it doesn't happen again. Don't rush in guns blazing and force him to stop because that'll never work and you'll lose him as a friend, allow HIM to realize his mistake and WANT to make a change.

 

[Destro]

I have to agree with Jegermeisterd. She clearly is not attracted to him, otherwise why would she not want to tell him about the same fetish that she says that she has? I think she believes him to be a little overly possessed by the fetish. Just having someone to do it for free does not necessarily mean that he will stop paying for it. I have met many men who have very sexually accomodating wives but that didn't stop them from seeking out sex in the world of porn & prostsitution.