Persephone
2nd Level Red Feather
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So recently my friend finally convinced me to just go for it and make a fetlife. What can it hurt? I have heard both the negative and positive aspects of having a FetLife. However, I won't really know what something is like unless I experience it for myself, right? It has taken a lot for me to gain the confidence to join FetLife. It has taken several years for me to get comfortable with my tickling fetish, so now to add my interest into the bdsm culture into the mix, it's a hard pill to swallow.
I am not so much uncomfortable with my interest in bdsm...as I am curious. I guess you could say I am completely vanilla when it comes to first hand experience of bdsm. I have never had a real dom or "master." However I do know that I am completely submissive...I don't feel like I have a dominant bone in my body, unless I am just goofing around.
Anyway I felt like FetLife might be a good place to make some friends (maybe even luckily enough local people) who share my interest in bdsm, are new to it, still nervous yet curious...and that kind of thing. I haven't met anyone completely new yet...most of my "friends" on FetLife are people I know either from the TMF or TT. That is where the negative aspect of it pops in.
I know with any fetish related sight there will be creepy people sending inappropriate messages by PM...because when the message is private they can act like a big shot *rolls eyes.* Mostly it's just from doms nearby who are usually midage and so forth, with pictures of their cocks as the main picture on FetLife...and that totally turns me off, LOL.
I don't mean to complain about FetLife...but I do see the bad and good sides of it. It's a delicate balance and I just have to take it with a grain of salt. I just wondered what everyone else thought of FetLife? Good? Bad?
And why is it so hard to find a normal dom...even just a mentor? LOL.
I am not so much uncomfortable with my interest in bdsm...as I am curious. I guess you could say I am completely vanilla when it comes to first hand experience of bdsm. I have never had a real dom or "master." However I do know that I am completely submissive...I don't feel like I have a dominant bone in my body, unless I am just goofing around.
Anyway I felt like FetLife might be a good place to make some friends (maybe even luckily enough local people) who share my interest in bdsm, are new to it, still nervous yet curious...and that kind of thing. I haven't met anyone completely new yet...most of my "friends" on FetLife are people I know either from the TMF or TT. That is where the negative aspect of it pops in.
I know with any fetish related sight there will be creepy people sending inappropriate messages by PM...because when the message is private they can act like a big shot *rolls eyes.* Mostly it's just from doms nearby who are usually midage and so forth, with pictures of their cocks as the main picture on FetLife...and that totally turns me off, LOL.
I don't mean to complain about FetLife...but I do see the bad and good sides of it. It's a delicate balance and I just have to take it with a grain of salt. I just wondered what everyone else thought of FetLife? Good? Bad?
And why is it so hard to find a normal dom...even just a mentor? LOL.