Wow! There's several things to correct here, but let me just point out the ones that are GLARINGLY obvious to me...first of all:
The tall handsome guy that has a 6 pack, makes 6 figures and is good with dogs and people is far more compatible with most women than a guy who is short, overweight and lives with his parents and has a dark temperament. Guy 1 has hundreds of soulmates in his town…Guy 2 has zero.
Hundreds of soulmates? Even if you believed in that idea, which you already claimed you didn't, that's not how the concept works. Hundreds of compatible matches, maybe, but 'soulmates, no. Though I do agree with you that they don't exist and the notion of anything otherwise is laughable. However ...guy 2 having a "dark temperament" I'm not sure if that's the term you meant, but to ANY self respecting woman of any age or background, that should be a red flag regardless. Because that term would imply that the guy is prone to things like jealously, spitefulness narcissism, greed, machiavellianism, and even anger. So of COURSE any woman would naturally shy away from this type of guy, even if he were handsome with a great job.
Secondly...
With women out earning men, and social media…women’s standards are higher than ever, and few men meet those standards.
Women outearning men, I can ASSURE you, is definitely not happening as women STILL are only making 75-80% as much as men do working in the same fields. That's fact. Not opinion. More women are becoming successful I think is what you mean. More women-owned business. More women investing and networking as they aren't just trophy wife stay at home moms anymore. (Not that there's anything wrong with those types of women who are) More women making a name for themselves and standing up for their gender maybe. But earning more? Definitely not. Not even equal yet.
Additionally, if few men meet these imaginary standards you say most women have now, that would mean, by the opposite, that most men don't and therefore most women remain single and that's also not happening.
It sounds to me like you're projecting. "Most women" don't have obnoxiously high standards. That's the myth.
The truth is, the answer is no, you won't find a soulmate here. Or anywhere else for that matter. The term implies a man/woman who is "exactly what you're looking for". Checks off ALL your boxes, so to speak. Your completely opposite equal, if that makes sense.
It's a myth because nobody, no man nor woman, is perfect, therefore no relationship/couple is perfect. Relationships are a two way street that takes effort and patience and compromise from both parties willing to make things worth.
The trick is to find someone who you're comfortable being yourself around and who loves you for being you in spite of your oddities and flaws. Or maybe because of them, no judgement lol
But the point is, you'll never find someone who's perfect. But finding someone who is perfect for you can happen anywhere at any time. You just have to keep your heart and eyes open.