Have you ever been outed?

[Jezebel Lee]

I’m just wondering if anyone here has been outed against their will for being into tickling. If so, what happened? Did you lose friends? Was it all fine? I’m curious.

 

[FFT32]

I was outed at a high school party back in the day in the act of tickling a girls feet. She was being very flirty in an attempt to cheer me up after a rough break up I had. We were separated from the rest of the people in the basement at that point. I actually played with this girls feet once in class because she was poking her foot along the side of my desk. So her cheer up attempt at this party included her feet. We had fun and she definitely cheered me up.

A while later when we were both back amongst the party crowd, we started talking again and I wanted to tickle her feet some more so we went into the bathroom to play. We didn’t think to lock the door and people came in and busted us mid-tickles. Her laughing drew them in.

I believe I handed it correctly by acting like it was no big deal. There was some teasing and comments, but nothing very serious. I ultimately was very glad it happened because I met and tickled two other girls as a result of that incident.

I’m not ashamed or shy about my interest and appreciation of pretty feet and tickling.

Great thread. Can’t wait to read other comments and experiences.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Friends of mine that I've explicitly not told about my shenanigans have dropped pretty explicit hints they're fully aware of what I'm up to. It didn't help we ended up sharing a broader social circle with people who have gotten involved directly with said shenanigans that I didn't initially know. Nobody seems particularly interested in it one way or another though.

A younger me did have trouble remembering to delete the browsing history on the family computer, though.

 

[SoleMates]

Yes, I was outed once or twice when I was younger. Apart from this one time involving a family member, there was never any negative repercussions over it. These days I'm totally up front about what I do and nobody cares.

And frankly, if anybody did care, I'd drop them. Life's too short to deal with judgemental bullies. I'd go so far as to say anyone who reacted badly was never really your friend in the first place.

 

[quinn65]

Same as Comfort Eagle. I told my friends who helped with the video stores of course, but not all of them were involved. Still, pretty much everyone found out eventually. No big deal.

I think I'm in the midst of being outed right now as a rigger, if not a tickler. Pretty sure I already told this story out here somewhere.

My wife Laura and I follow a lot of local music, and often hang around certain venues and festivals. We have a friend group around this who are not in the know about any kinks.

Earlier this summer, Laura was talking to a group of ladies at a windy outdoor show while nearby some guys from a band were fumbling around trying to get a banner tied up to a shitty frame. It was going poorly, so I walked over to help. The band just kind of stepped back and let me at it, so I untied and retied everything while they finished setting up. With the right knots and tie-off angles, it went fast and we had a nice, smooth, secure banner in no time.

The ladies with Laura noticed and began asking her whether I was a sailor, or a fisherman, or a scout troop leader, or...? Finally she just said I was a "hobbyist."

They've been teasing her like crazy ever since, and she says they've all but asked her if we're into bondage. We were out again just last night, and when one of my buddy's girlfriends got a little out of hand, another one suggested I tie her up. So it's only a matter of time, if it hasn't happened already.

Who knows, maybe it'll get interesting...

 

[Pragmatic]

If I was "outed", it was by someone who was far more prolific a tickler than I was.

Had a female friend in middle and high schools who was very ticklish but either liked it or didn't dislike it. There were many, many occasions where I'd tickled her. A mutual friend (more hers than mine) was part of a duo who would regularly hold this girl down and tickle her for extended periods of time, from before I even knew them through at least college. This mutual friend once made some snarky comment about me being a tickle monster, apparently unaware that I knew about her penchant for tickling our friend much more often and for more extended times than I ever did. Since I do not suffer the human curse of being concerned with what people think of me, it didn't get to me the way she intended for it to. I simply countered with a comment about her proclivity for our friends ticklish feet far exceeded mine, and she got a gobsmacked, open-mouthed look of shock and then very quiet.

The irony of this girl was that she had, visually, perfect feet for tickling and was absolutely not ticklish.

 

[CapturedDoll]

My ex Bf outed me to his MOTHER!! Saying to her that I was obsessed and spending way to much time online. And even tried to have me locked up in a mental hospital with a friend of mine on his side- who refused to even acknowledge my side in all this agreed with HIM.

I knew that was the end of us that day. For a man who hardly ever got involved with this part of me. Never read my stories, or looked at anything I created... and barely EVER tickled me for more than 60 seconds or less? Lot of nerve that guy.

 

[Angel_2]

I've never been outed but I've kept this part of my life to myself. One girl did point blank ask me if I had a foot fetish but other than that nobody knows this is a part of my life.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

Interesting stories everyone. I’ve not been outed for being into tickling as far as I’m aware, at least not to the extent where it would have an effect. Like I’ve not lost any jobs because of it, and whilst I’ve had friends be uncomfortable with the tickle stuff it was me who disclosed it willingly.

 

[duderino84]

Not too much of it. A bit of shaming from a friend who was worse off than I was. Couple girls as friends who would post shit on my Facebook wall about tickling.

I think though one of the times I really felt it was when I was seeing this girl and we went to some redneck wedding for her friend, and while he initially thought it was kind of funny when I met him that I tickled her, I guess she shared around that it didn't manifest any significant sexual moves (or sexual enough for her), because on the way out after the whole shindig he decided it was appropriate to mention something to the effect of "hey, y'know, it's OK to just have sex, right? You don't have to keep on tickling.".

All the other shit about people saying tickling is childish or "for babies" or whatever shit I can let roll off me. But that's the one thing that just fucks with me.

 

[jamesatgmail]

If I was "outed", it was by someone who was far more prolific a tickler than I was.

Had a female friend in middle and high schools who was very ticklish but either liked it or didn't dislike it. There were many, many occasions where I'd tickled her. A mutual friend (more hers than mine) was part of a duo who would regularly hold this girl down and tickle her for extended periods of time, from before I even knew them through at least college. This mutual friend once made some snarky comment about me being a tickle monster, apparently unaware that I knew about her penchant for tickling our friend much more often and for more extended times than I ever did. Since I do not suffer the human curse of being concerned with what people think of me, it didn't get to me the way she intended for it to. I simply countered with a comment about her proclivity for our friends ticklish feet far exceeded mine, and she got a gobsmacked, open-mouthed look of shock and then very quiet.

The irony of this girl was that she had, visually, perfect feet for tickling and was absolutely not ticklish.

so the girl who was tickling the other girl didnt have ticklish feet? or the girl that you often tickled didnt have ticklish feet?

 

[Candygirl]

Only once.

So my first boyfriend and I dated for many years. Afterwards it was an on again off again situationship I guess so to speak?

Anyhow, we were both very playful people by nature. So he would always tickle me when I would get too sassy with him or steal his hat or maybe throw a stuffed animal at him playfully or something. Never for too long and always a very playful nature to it but it was kind of a staple of our relationship and he would do so whenever he felt the need to do so whether we were in public or around friends or what have you.

So I remember this one time that we went out to a movie together and the boyfriend I had at the time was aware of the relationship I had with this guy being my friend still and he was okay with it because it wasn't sexual anymore. Just friends. My boyfriend was working late that night and there was a movie that I really wanted to see on opening night so he suggested that I go with my friend. So we went, and we had a good time. He was going to stay with me until my boyfriend got home as there had been some break-ins in the area recently and they both wanted me to be safe, again totally cool with it. They had been together in enough situations that they too had become friends. And I remember as we were walking up the path to the door, I had noticed that the water sprinklers were on. So I playfully shoved him into the stream of water, just briefly, but enough for him to get a bit of a shower. And then saw the look on his face that I was too familiar with.

"Oh you are so going to get it," he said. "SO getting it."
I laughed and turned to run to the door. He continued "I'm gonna tickle you SO bad you're gonna wish you didn't do that. I'm going get you SO bad you're gonna wanna go back in time and turn that sprinkler off. I'm gonna tickle you SO much...wait....Candy?" (Obvs he used my real name but I'm not)

I had gone silent. Blushing so brightly I could almost see the glow on my cheeks. And I was fumbling with the keys moreso than would be considered acceptable in trying to find the right key. There were only like 4 of them lol

"Wait...I think maybe...tickling you turns you on, doesn't it?"
I dropped my keys. I closed my eyes tightly and said "you know, I...I...I don't think I know what you mean, I mean, turn on...I wouldn't say, ok maybe I'd say, you know...you know what I don't think I wanna talk about this."

"Have you told your boyfriend about this?"

"No. I mean No! Why would I? You're delusional. It's definitely not a thing." (I was completely embarrassed and didn't like the idea of anyone knowing. At the time. Now idgaf)

"Oh he needs to know. He's gonna know. I think I need to know."

"You know nothing! Let's just drop it."

Of course, he did not. And as soon as we got in the house he attacked my sides and hips and made me admit that it turned me on but promised to keep it to himself as I said I wasn't comfortable admitting it to myself let alone anyone else and I'd tell my boyfriend when I was ready.

I never did. And he did tickle me on occasion after that even knowing what it did to me. But other than a few boyfriend's I had going forward nobody else ever knew.

 

[Pragmatic]

so the girl who was tickling the other girl didnt have ticklish feet? or the girl that you often tickled didnt have ticklish feet?

The tickler was not ticklish herself (my apologies for the lack of clarity). The ticklee was one of the most ticklish people I have ever known.

 

[camble4eva]

I was outed by an ex girlfreind many years ago, I have written about it in another section of the forum:

https://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?350641-When-having-a-tickling-fetish-went-sour

 

[ShannonAquarius]

I've never been "outed" in the way it seems to be implied in this thread. No one has ever announced my attraction to tickling to other people in an attempt to expose, embarrass, etc. me. However, I think you could logically say that I gradually get outed to people as I get to know them closely. I'm the type of person that, as I get to know people well and get comfortable with them, I might sneak in a quick tickle or gentle rib poke in response to friendly teasing or playful banter. Likewise, I've tickled every boyfriend I've ever had until he cried, so I guess I was outed to them, too.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Yep- By my mother and one of my older sisters.
It was this whole ordeal that left another TMF member probably feeling threated and outed as well.

AND she felt betrayed by all the TK community people whom she knew by name (some of whom she had talked to on the phone for very vanilla reasons).

She exclaimed, "____________________________ too?" "And ___________ too?"
Insert Community Member's Names

It was very much "Et tu, Brute?" style. And the nights I woke up to her praying AND CRYING that I would be "saved" from my sinful tickling.... And asking me where this all came from.

Finally my little sister (whom had known about me before I knew about myself! And whom had attended NEST with me) told my mother to stop being so dramatic. I could be into far worse.

It ended up (my part of it) being something that we all laugh about now, but at the time, my mother acted like it was the end of the world.

AND I CUT SOME STUFF OUT!. LAWD!!! SMH!

(My college ex outed me out to some mutual friends. They stopped talking to me. But.... that didn't bother me TOO much. Wasn't like I was going around my mutual friends asking to play. By that point, I was rather silent about it unless people were in the kink community.)

 

[Jezebel Lee]

Jesus, some of these stories are nightmare fuel!

 

[4Pawz]

Yes. My daughter's dad found out. But he also asked? Nothing bad happened. He even started reading posts on here for a while. But otherwise, no. I tell no one lol.

 

[Oddjob0226]

Yes. It's pretty embarrassing.

In the old VHS days, while I was in college, my parents caught me trying to buy some of the Tied & Tickled videos using their checking or credit card account (I can't recall which.) The yelling wasn't so bad, but them "knowing" (especially since I'm convinced my mom drew this interest out of me when I was a little, little kid!)

I had a friend get nosey and just started playing a tickling VHS tape after he saw that it was loaded into my VCR. He was mostly amused and explained that it was considered foreplay and not actual sexual pornography. Well, I know that!

I'm certain one of my college roommates was looking through my 'stash,' since at one point a regular Dungeons & Dragon game we were playing with a few other guys suddenly, out of nowhere, had this weird turn with a bondage/tickling scene. It was played for laughs & was not one of my roommate's "things," so I'm pretty sure he did some peeking.

At least once, maybe twice, I returned a video to Blockbuster with the wrong tape inside.... I NEVER went back and asked for my tape to be returned. I just went at night after closing & returned the correct tape through the drop-off chute, sans box.

Oh! I have suppressed this! When I just started a new job after a move to a new city, I had some Paradise Vision recordings delivered to my work, under my name. But the good southern Baptist secretary opened the package. Thankfully, she got me alone, apologized, and gave the package to me. Nothing ever happened - she probably has her own secrets - but once she found a new job elsewhere, I did feel a little relief.

 

[natscott6282]

Yes. It's pretty embarrassing.

In the old VHS days, while I was in college, my parents caught me trying to buy some of the Tied & Tickled videos using their checking or credit card account (I can't recall which.) The yelling wasn't so bad, but them "knowing" (especially since I'm convinced my mom drew this interest out of me when I was a little, little kid!)

how did ur mom draw this interest out of you? intrigued!!