How would you explain this fetish?

[Cryptic71]

How would you explain this fetish to someone who was completely unfamiliar with the concept of fetishes in general? Someone who doesn't even know what a fetish IS. Someone who has probably never even watched porn in their entire life.

You can use videos and references if you absolutely must, but plain words would be best.

(And don't say "I'd just tickle them and let that do the explaining.")

 

[Volsung1]

I wouldn't make a big deal about it. Just say, you like tickling... a lot.
The other person needn't know you have a clinical condition... haha.

 

[arachnid95]

"Alright, so... you know how you've got a sort of a thing for redheaded twins? And you know how you have those fantasies about wanting a threesome with redheaded twins? Well, it's kind of like that, but for me, instead of a threesome with the redheaded twins, I'm tickling the redheaded twins. Or the redheaded twins are tickling me. Hey, don't judge! You're the one fantasizing about group sex and incest!"

Probably like that. I like to draw parallels between my fetish and the vanilla world to explain it, and I've often found that disturbing people gets the point across pretty well:

"Wait, so... if your mom were to tickle you, the way moms do, would that turn you on...?"
"No. If you saw your mom's boobs, would that turn you on?"
*expression of mild horror and revulsion, mixed with sudden understanding.*

 

[TKLVR181]

"Wait, so... if your mom were to tickle you, the way moms do, would that turn you on...?"
"No. If you saw your mom's boobs, would that turn you on?"
*expression of mild horror and revulsion, mixed with sudden understanding.*

Best explanation of anything in the history of forever xD

"Y'know how kids actually really like being tickled? I didn't grow out of that, I grew into it." xD

~K

 

[wolfman28]

I would explain it as, erotic, sensual, playful, stimulting, sexy, harmless fun, played between consenting adults!

 

[DarthGrinn]

I once dated a very sheltered and conservative girl. We had a very typical transition from acquaintances, to good friends, to best friends. Then one day, after frequent 1 on 1 "not date" hangouts, we just zinged. We had an very awkward and emotionally charged "I really like you!" conversation, and we both found out that we had mutual feelings for each other.

So, how "conservative" was she? Well:
1. Culturally, her family believed in segregation and arranged marriages. She wanted no part in that lifestyle, but unfortunately (for her) her parents were very set in their ways. It took us a year of dating to realize that her parents would never accept me. But we parted ways as good friends.
2. On a personal level, she didn't even know how to pleasure herself (and felt the idea was taboo, at first).

So needless to say, the concept of a fetish had to be taught to her. I had to break to her in the most basic way I knew how:

1. I first asked her how seeing me made her feel, and we discussed the variety of reactions: tummy butterflies, heart flutters, etc. Basically we established that we both understood how we physically and emotionally were attracted to one another.

2. Then we talked about the birds and the bees lol. We established how important physical intimacy is, and what it entails, in a tasteful and subtle manner.

3. I then expressed how I find other things attractive, that some people wouldn't consider "typical". This piqued her curiosity, and that's when I asked her if she had ever noticed how I complimented her feet a lot, or how I enjoyed tickling. I then went on to explain how on one level, the tickling is innocent and playful, but on another I get as much of a rush from it as one would from other intimate activities.

4. She's a smart gal, so she put two and two together.

And that's how I explained what a fetish was, and what my two fetishes were, to a person who was completely sheltered from the entire thing.

I also taught her how to pleasure herself, and opened her world to something that I believe helped her explore her own body, relieve stress, and just make her over all a happier person.

 

[Cryptic71]

2. On a personal level, she didn't even know how to pleasure herself

When I read that, I paused for a second, my eyes opened wide, and (in the middle of my dead silent basement) I just started cracking the fuck up. I think I probably woke the cats up I was so loud.

That was wonderful... Oohhhh, but in all seriousness though, if you really liked the girl... I'd have just said "to hell with your parents, we can find our own way." I'm assuming you were of adult age, and had the means to support a family at the time. If you'd have been out on the streets, then yeah, you made the right call. No harm in hitting her up again though. She might be single still (and free from her iron-fisted parents).

Her parents sound like the kind of people that I would have absolutely no reservations or regrets about offing. People that treat children like property rather than CHILDREN are nothing more than human-trash. Especially children that are old enough to decide for themselves. (16 and up for the most part) At that point you're not protecting a child, you're keeping a slave. I would slit your throat and drain the blood from your agonized body with a smile on my face. Then raise the empty corpse by the neck on a flagpole and leave it to rot.


.... I have problems.

everyone else

Thanks for all the replies. I ask because I foresee the possibility that I may have to explain myself to one who comes across as very... innocent, shall we say. Nowhere close to a relationship yet. Just friendly banter, mayhaps even flirting. However I happen to be quite the patient individual. An opportunity will present itself sooner or later. Till then I'm just biding time.

I too like to draw parallels with normal sexual acts though. That's probably what I'm gonna end up doing.

More replies are quite welcome. Don't be shy.

 

[DarthGrinn]

When I read that, I paused for a second, my eyes opened wide, and (in the middle of my dead silent basement) I just started cracking the fuck up. I think I probably woke the cats up I was so loud.

That was wonderful... Oohhhh, but in all seriousness though, if you really liked the girl... I'd have just said "to hell with your parents, we can find our own way." I'm assuming you were of adult age, and had the means to support a family at the time. If you'd have been out on the streets, then yeah, you made the right call. No harm in hitting her up again though. She might be single still (and free from her iron-fisted parents).

LOL! Yea I had to throw that bit in just to drive the point home that this girl had a very conservative and sheltered life. It was a good experience for the both of us; I learned not to take the little things for granted.

As far as our choice to break up is concerned; for some of us, life is less cut and dry when it comes to big decisions like long-term relationships.For some, eloping works. For others, they have other considerations.

I'm a meat and potatoes guy; I like simple. I believe relationships should bring families together, not tear em apart. And so, if I feel a relationship has the potential to just cause a lot of pain, I'd rather just let go, and move on.

I'm currently in a very happy relationship, thanks for caring. As for the aforementioned ex, it seems to have worked out for her as well!

Sorry for the tangential reply. Carry on.

 

[Volsung1]

I think we are basically Sensualists.

 

[SNSDMaya]

(And don't say "I'd just tickle them and let that do the explaining.")

Actually that was more or less how my ex girlfriend sensed my tickling fetish.
She said something about how I looked a bit unusual when I tickled her, then she asked me about it. It took me all of my courage to explain it to her, that tickling can get me sexually turned on.
For further "help", I used wikipedia and some pictures and videos of erotic tickling.

 

[BlackFeather51]

Two words:
"Google Knismolagnia"
Easy
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