Sultrybrunette said:Life is not easy no matter how you look at it. Trust me, woman have the same urge to just get up and disappear. I know because there have been many times I have felt that very way. There is so much more stress now days and it seems the mentality is just to turn around and leave instead of facing up to the responsibilities you have created. I believe alot of people have been in that situation and thats the reason they understand it, even if they don't condone it. Some people are stronger than others and can handle it better. And Danny, even if there is love, sometimes outside forces factor in to still want to up and leave.
TicklishLurker said:I'm sure I'll have my butt flamed both here and in PM for this - but my answer is - abortion.
There's times I can understand it - rape, medical problems, situtations like coming from a small town and finding out your dad's the town whore and your boyfriend is also your half-brother. But those people who are too lazy to use birthcontrol and get abortions more then once.... those ones I don't understand. (Or like that lady someone mention who's fetish was terminating pregnancies. Someone like that should have her uterus removed.)
There's so many people who want to be parents and can't who'd love to adopt an unwanted child. Give them love and a home.
And there's so many different forms of birth control. Lubes with spermicide, vaginal spermicidal inserts, condoms, the pill, etc, that people can get - sometimes even for free.
Yeah, I can understand doing it maybe once. Like if you have a boyfriend you realize is a jerk you don't want to be tied to forever. I don't condone it because I believe from the moment of conception it's a baby and has a soul. But if God can understand and forgive, so can I.
But the ones that do it repeatedly, them I don't get.
lojak said:Many people that leave are not cowards or spineless they are people that been beaten down or just broken. As you stated that you have your mother and sister for support, but he have no one; I can feel his pain where do he turn when he is overwhelm? Who do he talk to, who is going to support him? Many just are too stress out, depress or overwhelm and need to get away if just a couple of months. When you don’t have anyway to escape they will run.
But again I don’t condone it.
kis123 said:He had me and an 18 month old son-that should've been enough!!
You know what he has now-a bunch of daughters who barely speak to him and a 21year old son (mine), his only son, who doesn't know him and has no desire to get to know him. He has my ex who raised him and calls him "daddy." He doesn't deserve to be his father if the spineless deabeat coward walked away from his responsibilities.
My son is autistic and mentally handicapped-what if I would've walked away from my responsibilities to him because I was stressed out and broken? Who would he have then to rely upon? He'd have the foster care system to care for him, right? When my son spent three years of adolescence running away and having violent fits that included destruction of property (mine and others), you didn't think I wanted to bail out on him? Hell yes I did; I even had thought of moving away while he was at school and he'd come home to an empty house. So don't give me that crap about being broken-I was fired from three jobs and didn't work for over a year because of my son's behavior! I know what broken is! I lost my daughter to his antics-she went to live with her father because she was broken and couldn't take it anymore. I lost 5 years with my daughter over it-did I leave my responsibilities to my children?? Hell no and I went through far more than the average family.
No one, man or woman, is condoned or understood when they walk away from their kids. If I can hang in there, so can they, IMO!
lojak said:i notice most of your replies surround you and your problems. i speaking in general. I don't know about anyone problems but mines, i can't say why your ex left i wasn't there. but, what i can say is this. people has many reason for leaving, it's not my place to judge if those reason was valid or not.
We had a woman leave her 2 kids 13 & 7 in a grocery store because she couldn't feed them. Is she a coward or spineless? Or was so overwhelm and depress that she did what she thought was right?
To blankly statement that your a coward or spineless because you left your family without knowing the reason why it wrong specially when you don’t have all the facts.
lojak said:personally i'm tire of this, i will no longer respond to any of your post or replies and i request that you do the same for me.
thank you
kis123 said:Sometimes, when you start mess, you'll get some back. Maybe you should think about that before you start your "thread-making."
If you post in public and I find it response-worthy, I will respond-thank you very much.