As I may have posted before, I watch the HBO show "Big Love", the premise of which is about a Mormon family in Utah, with the husband played by Bill Paxton from Apollo 13, who is a Polyagamist, and has three wives.
While the show is interesting, it seems that Paxton's character has his hands full. He has three wives, three houses, seven children, and a "schedule" of nights which he spends with each of his wives. It also seems that, since each wife gets only two nights, or sometimes, three, each week, that he is obligated to "perform" sexually, every night, to keep all of the women satisfied.
One episode had Paxton popping Viagra to be able to perform, and another one had him requesting a "Seventh Day Rest" from sex and responsibilities, to catch his breath, to which is first, legal wife, played by Jeanne Tripplehorn, said "This is what you signed up for, Bill, no seventh night off". There have also been scenes of the show, showing all three wives screaming at him, at once!
So, my question is, for both sexes. If bigamy or polgyamy were legal, would you want more than one spouse?
After watching the show, I've mused this question for myself. I would for one reason, but wouldn't for two very important others. If I had two wives, and, for example, found someone with all the qualities, who was not into having her feet played with, or being tickled, I could then theoretically have a second wife, who I could do the fetish things with. "Big Love" shows this in regard to oral sex. There is a scene where Chloe Sevigny, who plays the second wife, witnesses Ginnifer Goodwin, who plays Paxton's third wife, giving and receiving oral sex. On Paxton's night with Sevigny, he tries to give her oral sex, and she refuses.
I would balk at having multiple wives for two other reasons. One, the "morality" of being married to one person for life, and two, I wouldn't want the hassle of having to deal with the complexities of relationships with more than one wife. Emotionally, sexually, etc.
While the show portrays Paxton as being "moral", as he supports all his wives, and all his children, and everyone knows about the goings on within the family, I know that from a real sense of "morality", the most moral thing is to be with one wife. Then..I start to think, what about men who leave their first wives, and dont pay alimony and child support, while living comfortable lives with their second wives? To me, that is less "moral" then what Paxton does in the show.
So, the question is, if it were legal to be married to more than one person, would you do so?
Mitch
While the show is interesting, it seems that Paxton's character has his hands full. He has three wives, three houses, seven children, and a "schedule" of nights which he spends with each of his wives. It also seems that, since each wife gets only two nights, or sometimes, three, each week, that he is obligated to "perform" sexually, every night, to keep all of the women satisfied.
One episode had Paxton popping Viagra to be able to perform, and another one had him requesting a "Seventh Day Rest" from sex and responsibilities, to catch his breath, to which is first, legal wife, played by Jeanne Tripplehorn, said "This is what you signed up for, Bill, no seventh night off". There have also been scenes of the show, showing all three wives screaming at him, at once!
So, my question is, for both sexes. If bigamy or polgyamy were legal, would you want more than one spouse?
After watching the show, I've mused this question for myself. I would for one reason, but wouldn't for two very important others. If I had two wives, and, for example, found someone with all the qualities, who was not into having her feet played with, or being tickled, I could then theoretically have a second wife, who I could do the fetish things with. "Big Love" shows this in regard to oral sex. There is a scene where Chloe Sevigny, who plays the second wife, witnesses Ginnifer Goodwin, who plays Paxton's third wife, giving and receiving oral sex. On Paxton's night with Sevigny, he tries to give her oral sex, and she refuses.
I would balk at having multiple wives for two other reasons. One, the "morality" of being married to one person for life, and two, I wouldn't want the hassle of having to deal with the complexities of relationships with more than one wife. Emotionally, sexually, etc.
While the show portrays Paxton as being "moral", as he supports all his wives, and all his children, and everyone knows about the goings on within the family, I know that from a real sense of "morality", the most moral thing is to be with one wife. Then..I start to think, what about men who leave their first wives, and dont pay alimony and child support, while living comfortable lives with their second wives? To me, that is less "moral" then what Paxton does in the show.
So, the question is, if it were legal to be married to more than one person, would you do so?
Mitch
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Exactly.
