Is it a deal breaker?

[Dialon]

I wouldn't mind if they weren't ticklish or hated being tickled, as long as they tickled me i'd be fine with it. So really not a deal-breaker for me!

 

[kopfhorer]

Probable deal-breaker for me. I once had a girlfriend who was sexually dead-on for me but who hated tickling, not just gettin' it but givin' it as well. Not sure I'd let that slide this time around.

 

[Em Es]

Not necessarily

If she isn't ticklish but likes to tickle, I could live with being the 'lee in the relationship if she brings home girlfriends we can both tickle. I expect that to happen as soon as Ed McMahon rises from this grave to deliver one of those sweepstakes checks to my door.

More power to the rare couple who clicks in the tickle department. Beyond that, I think ticklers and ticklees married to somone who just doesn't get it should find tickle buddies, platonic friends we can tickle or get tickled by, on the side. Life's too short to deny such a consuming need.

 

[ticklehound]

If she says she hates being tickled... it wouldn't be a deal-breaker. Like I've always said... everything is negotiable...

 

[OnnaOtaku]

If I met a woman and we clicked, why should her being ticklish or not get in the way. The way I see it is that there is more to life than tickling. Why let one thing ruin something that could be great?

Infinitely agree! There IS more to life than tickling. I wish everyone here felt that way.

 

[chicago]

At 25, I'm not looking to settle down, nor do I really have a problem meeting guys, online or otherwise.

If I was worried about dying alone, having a problem meeting someone, then maybe I'd question if I was being too picky.

At this point in time, I'm more worried about having fun than settling down and even then, when I cross that bridge - I don't think I'll have to choose between being sexually satisfied and being emotionally satisfied. Who says you can't find a significant other that's great in bed and out of bed?

You don't have to settle. I mean, shit, there's enough people on here stuck in joyless marriages, where one goes sneaking around behind another's back because they don't see eye to eye on the whole fetish thing.

And then, you see all the forum members who've met the love of their life on here.

It doesn't make you a heartless horndog for wanting what you want or being choosy about who you date / the things you look for.

 

[shygirl08]

Picture this: A beautiful, smart, classy, nice, ambitious man/woman is interested in you. You like to be with him/her and things are great. But wait! He/She isn't ticklish! Is that a deal breaker?

Not at all for me.. I'm a 'lee. If he's not into the idea of being a 'ler.. at least once in awhile I think I'd be bummed but it wouldn't be a deal breaker. Part of the fetish for me is that the 'ler WANTS to do it. So if he didn't want to, it really kills it for me.

 

[besttickler27]

Heck yeah it's a deal breaker! haha. I know it sounds kinda bad, but I refuse to date a girl if she is not extremely ticklish and willing to let me tickle her at least sometimes, if not 24/7!

 

[NonConTickler]

This is why the last time I've even attempted to meet anyone was over 20 years ago when I was in high school, and prefer to pay for what I want instead. Getting what I want, when I want it, getting my own way in general, is more important to me than having someone in my life. Relationships are about compromise, hard work, commitment, too much work in my opinion. Not worth it. Besides, there would be bad times too and my outlook in general is, I'll pass up all the good times just to avoid any bad. I'd rather just stay at home and play video games and masturbate to tickle porn.

 

[kopfhorer]

@NonConTickler: You sound a bit like this guy.

 

[big bill 77]

I was in a long term relationship with a women awhile back and she came in at about a 2 on the tickle scale and hated being tickled and everything about it. She would on special occasions let me tickle her but it was never very good because as I said she was not very ticklish and when she would let me she would complain the entire time! Do I think it is a deal breaker? No. I feel it is up to the person I was very much in love with this women and was willing to put some things aside for the bigger picture (I.E. the two of us being together) I think it also depends on how far your fetish goes. For me personally I was happy that even tho she hated it she was still willing to on occasion let me. That meant alot to me.

 

[ManInDistress]

I can't say for sure but it might be, it's one of the things I hate about having this fetish, beggers can't be choosers as it is and with this fetish on top of that it's disheartening

 

[obama666]

I've always separated the two for sanity purposes.

 

[stockytickler]

My bf tickles me every single day. We go to sleep together and wake up together, and he's the sweetest man I've ever met. Yes, we met through a fet site, and our tickle fetish is a good portion of what drew us together, but we've also built a pretty amazing life together and I can't imagine -- except with a profound sadness -- going back to that dull, gray, boring life I was living before he came along.

Before I met him, the women I dated -- and it was exclusively women -- were cold, distant and resisted letting me touch them, let alone tickle them. I'm happier than I've ever been in my life and a good part of that is that I'm dating someone who shares my love of tickling.

So is it a deal-breaker? If it wasn't before, it sure SHOULD have been, and I can tell you, it for DAMN sure is now.

 

[deadlywiffeathr]

Not for me. Not initially anyhoo. My style of tickling is more soft and sensual touching anyway, so I can get away with using soft tickles just as a way of being intimate and close with whomever I'm with - it doesn't have to tickle her out of her mind. As long as she's receptive to the idea of me touching her, which most well adjusted partners are, she doesn't have to be ticklish at all. If down the track however she developed a problem with being tickled in general and she genuinley wasn't willing to accommodate me, as it's my primary way of showing affection and playfulness, I'd have to reassess things me thinks.

 

[aussietickler1]

I was in a long term relationship with a women awhile back and she came in at about a 2 on the tickle scale and hated being tickled and everything about it. She would on special occasions let me tickle her but it was never very good because as I said she was not very ticklish and when she would let me she would complain the entire time! Do I think it is a deal breaker? No. I feel it is up to the person I was very much in love with this women and was willing to put some things aside for the bigger picture (I.E. the two of us being together) I think it also depends on how far your fetish goes. For me personally I was happy that even tho she hated it she was still willing to on occasion let me. That meant alot to me.

Definitely this. I was with my last girlfriend for around 3 and a half years, we met when we were 18 and just pretty much fell in love. I found out really early on (like before we started dating) that she wasn't ticklish...like not at all. But at the time it really didn't bother me - maybe because I wasn't as mature sexually and was just interested in having a girlfriend or maybe because I just really loved her as a person. We had an awesome relationship but the whole no tickling thing definitely affected the sex side of things, for me anyway. I don't regret that relationship at all and I'm definitely glad I didn't NOT date her just cos she wasn't ticklish, but I think I learned alot from it and would really look for someone who was both ticklish and willing to indulge my kink in future.

 

[Lao]

Brii isn't really ticklish. I've been with her for years, and we're getting married. She is ticklish in some places and has gotten more sensitive over time, but when we started, it was pretty much nothing.

I'll tell you this: you don't get to choose your fetish, and it won't go away. You will have a LOT of sexual frustration, and clips will only go so far in satisfying you.

Now, Brii and I are both doms, so she's totally cool with bringing in another girl just so we can tickle the hell out of her, and that does it for me. I have a both physical and emotional relationship with Brii. With anyone else, it's just a release of the pent-up energy, no sex involved.

But I think I'm pretty lucky in this case. You may not get the chance. And if you don't think you can stand the frustration of not satisfying your fetish IRL (trust me, you WILL be frustrated), then you should keep a friend and move on.