ArizonaTickler
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- Joined
- May 19, 2004
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Hi everyone,
I am sorry to report that the tickling situation between my wife and I has not been great of late. I have had success putting my feelings down in writing for her before. I drafted a letter to her, but I am not sure if I want to share it with her right now. I was wondering what you all think of it, have any advice, or if you just want to comment saying you have the same feelings as I do towards tickling.
“ I am writing you regarding a subject that has made you uncomfortable to discuss verbally; tickling. I am hoping that communicating why I enjoy being tickled using your love language, words, I can at least help you understand where I am coming from. As you know, my love languages are actions and touch. And certainly being touched by you, whether it is a tickle or not, is exciting. However, the idea that the action of a tickle creates a reaction that I enjoy is even more exciting. And the idea that digging into my ribs creates a different reaction than dragging your nails across my stomach, that you would notice and care about the difference from one moment to the next, is thrilling.
You mentioned previously that you do not enjoy tickling me because it makes me seem weak or unmanly, and strength is something that excites you. And I can see why you would think that, with me cackling and flailing around beneath you. However, I believe it is actually a show of strength. First, I think you will agree that I can take a lot of tickling, hopefully a fest of strength. When tickling, you are in the position of inevitable victory, eventually I will be worn down by the tickling, and there is nothing physically I can do to fight back. However, I do not just accept the tickling for a minute and give up, knowing that it is bound to end like that. I want to go for 30 minutes, 45 minutes, even an hour. I want to see how much I can take, like an endurance run. I think of tickling as a battle of wills. I hope to have the willpower to resist and withstand the tickling. I would even like to taunt you while you are tickling me, saying “That’s the best you can do? I can take this all day!” At last until I cannot anymore.
I also hope ticking could tap into our competitive streaks. If being in the position of inevitable victor does not excite you, you could have a goal to get me to give up in a certain amount of time. And if I were to win, and you didn’t like setting me gloat, you are still in complete control. You could say “best two out of three, right now, back to back” and I would be in no position to argue. Even if I did somehow win twice in a row, I would not have the energy to gloat afterward!
It could also be a stress reliever, helping you feel more control in an increasingly out of control world. If you had a bad day, I would be happy to be your human stress ball to take it out on.
I hope this will help you understand where I am coming from and why I enjoy being tickled.”
I am sorry to report that the tickling situation between my wife and I has not been great of late. I have had success putting my feelings down in writing for her before. I drafted a letter to her, but I am not sure if I want to share it with her right now. I was wondering what you all think of it, have any advice, or if you just want to comment saying you have the same feelings as I do towards tickling.
“ I am writing you regarding a subject that has made you uncomfortable to discuss verbally; tickling. I am hoping that communicating why I enjoy being tickled using your love language, words, I can at least help you understand where I am coming from. As you know, my love languages are actions and touch. And certainly being touched by you, whether it is a tickle or not, is exciting. However, the idea that the action of a tickle creates a reaction that I enjoy is even more exciting. And the idea that digging into my ribs creates a different reaction than dragging your nails across my stomach, that you would notice and care about the difference from one moment to the next, is thrilling.
You mentioned previously that you do not enjoy tickling me because it makes me seem weak or unmanly, and strength is something that excites you. And I can see why you would think that, with me cackling and flailing around beneath you. However, I believe it is actually a show of strength. First, I think you will agree that I can take a lot of tickling, hopefully a fest of strength. When tickling, you are in the position of inevitable victory, eventually I will be worn down by the tickling, and there is nothing physically I can do to fight back. However, I do not just accept the tickling for a minute and give up, knowing that it is bound to end like that. I want to go for 30 minutes, 45 minutes, even an hour. I want to see how much I can take, like an endurance run. I think of tickling as a battle of wills. I hope to have the willpower to resist and withstand the tickling. I would even like to taunt you while you are tickling me, saying “That’s the best you can do? I can take this all day!” At last until I cannot anymore.
I also hope ticking could tap into our competitive streaks. If being in the position of inevitable victor does not excite you, you could have a goal to get me to give up in a certain amount of time. And if I were to win, and you didn’t like setting me gloat, you are still in complete control. You could say “best two out of three, right now, back to back” and I would be in no position to argue. Even if I did somehow win twice in a row, I would not have the energy to gloat afterward!
It could also be a stress reliever, helping you feel more control in an increasingly out of control world. If you had a bad day, I would be happy to be your human stress ball to take it out on.
I hope this will help you understand where I am coming from and why I enjoy being tickled.”