Hey guys,
I know this topic has been done to death, but I just had a bit of a heartbreaking experience and was hoping for advice.
This girl Shelly and I have been hanging out a bit recently, and she's pretty damn hot. We have history together, in that we worked together and got kinda close a few years back, but didn't progress too far, then she went over seas and so I figured nothing would come of it.
Anyway now, several years later she's back and happens to be working in the same company as me again. I'd committed to actually doing something this time, instead of letting it slide again. It's a big company we work in, and she's well removed from where I work, so it's sufficiently removed from the whole "don't screw the crew" thing - which I've always considered good advice btw.
Anyway, we were just out on a work function tonight. These things typically get pretty boozy, and this one was no exception. By about midnight, I found myself alone with Shelly in a funny little bar with 90's hip hop playing and a random assortment of punters. Anyway, I tried to kiss Shelly and she moved away slightly, but definitely in a "not now, but maybe later" kind of way. So it wasn't a complete shut-down.
So obviously being a respectful dude I backed right off and gave Shelly all the time she needed. About 30 minutes later we ended up hanging out again on these couches, and Shelley was lying back with her legs facing me. We were comfortable enough at this point to play around a little without it seeming weird, so I scooped her feet into my lap. She was wearing a pair of sandals which left most of her feet exposed, so I'd naturally been checking out her feet all night.
So then without a thought (which was weird for me, because usually I overthink everything, but I guess I was just drunk enough to not care), I slipped a finger between Shelley's sandal and the sole of her foot, and started to tickle.
There was precisely zero reaction from Shelley. Still optimistic, I moved my tickle attack up to her toes, and wiggled my finger around for a few seconds, again with no reaction. No laughter, no giggles, no pulling her foot away.
Then she said the words no tickle fan wants to hear: "I'm just not ticklish at all, sorry."
Then she made some joke about being dead to all human interaction, which was a reference to some dark conversation we'd had a couple of days prior, about how we were both undatable (definitely not true FYI, Shelley is gorgeous), and that was that, tickling opportunity over.
So I ask you fellow tickling aficionados, what do you do in this situation?
To give you some context, I'm of an age that I'm looking for a long-term partner, not just a hookup, and Shelley is the same (2 years younger.) So I'm viewing things a bit different from when I was 16.
Shelley is absolutely perfect in every other way - incredible attractive, greats face, great body, great feet. We get along incredibly well, great conversation, what I can say is genuine compatibility. Which is what I'm looking for at my age.
But the fact remains, after tonight. An ugly, inconvenient fact. She isn't ticklish on her feet. At all.
And that's a big deal for me. It's what I've been fiending for my whole life. But now I've found the perfect girl ,this one, huge thing is not working.
So I wonder - have any of you guys encountered a similar situation?
It just seems so hard for us tickle fetishists: not only do we need to find a partner we're attracted to, and who is willing to partner with us, but we also have to hope that person is ticklish. It's not like a regular person who's into tits and ass, who can see immediately if their potential partner has great tits and a great ass. We have to actually wait until we're close enough to this person to try out their ticklishness. Sometimes we strike gold. And other times, we strike out monumentally. Like I did tonight.
To be clear: Shelley was a girl I'd already started thinking we'd be great together, and all the mental future planning that entails. Whereas now I'm completely thrown off. She is literally perfect in every other way, an appropriate age for me to be dating, wants kids (as do I), get along like a house on fire any time we're together, and unless I'm massively misreading signs, she into me in a big way.
But she's not ticklish.
So what do I do???
Deep down, I know what I have to do. I can't enter into a life relationship with someone who doesn't have any potential to satisfy this one thing that I've longed all my life for. It sucks that it has to be like this, but I know that, deep down inside, if I ever partnered with or married a girl who wasn't ticklish, then I'd essentially be condemning myself to a lifetime of not ever getting what I really want.
I don't even know what I really want from typing this all out. Maybe if anyone has encountered a similar situation they could chime in? Or maybe I'm mad to turn away a girl as perfect as Shelley, despite her obvious flaws?
Doesn't it seem cruel that our own little kink is entirely at the mercy of how someone we like may, or may not, respond to what we like to do?
At this point it seems so fruitless to meet someone who I might fall madly in love with, but then who isn't responsive to tickling. Welcome to hearing views on how this isn't totally messed up though.
I know this topic has been done to death, but I just had a bit of a heartbreaking experience and was hoping for advice.
This girl Shelly and I have been hanging out a bit recently, and she's pretty damn hot. We have history together, in that we worked together and got kinda close a few years back, but didn't progress too far, then she went over seas and so I figured nothing would come of it.
Anyway now, several years later she's back and happens to be working in the same company as me again. I'd committed to actually doing something this time, instead of letting it slide again. It's a big company we work in, and she's well removed from where I work, so it's sufficiently removed from the whole "don't screw the crew" thing - which I've always considered good advice btw.
Anyway, we were just out on a work function tonight. These things typically get pretty boozy, and this one was no exception. By about midnight, I found myself alone with Shelly in a funny little bar with 90's hip hop playing and a random assortment of punters. Anyway, I tried to kiss Shelly and she moved away slightly, but definitely in a "not now, but maybe later" kind of way. So it wasn't a complete shut-down.
So obviously being a respectful dude I backed right off and gave Shelly all the time she needed. About 30 minutes later we ended up hanging out again on these couches, and Shelley was lying back with her legs facing me. We were comfortable enough at this point to play around a little without it seeming weird, so I scooped her feet into my lap. She was wearing a pair of sandals which left most of her feet exposed, so I'd naturally been checking out her feet all night.
So then without a thought (which was weird for me, because usually I overthink everything, but I guess I was just drunk enough to not care), I slipped a finger between Shelley's sandal and the sole of her foot, and started to tickle.
There was precisely zero reaction from Shelley. Still optimistic, I moved my tickle attack up to her toes, and wiggled my finger around for a few seconds, again with no reaction. No laughter, no giggles, no pulling her foot away.
Then she said the words no tickle fan wants to hear: "I'm just not ticklish at all, sorry."
Then she made some joke about being dead to all human interaction, which was a reference to some dark conversation we'd had a couple of days prior, about how we were both undatable (definitely not true FYI, Shelley is gorgeous), and that was that, tickling opportunity over.
So I ask you fellow tickling aficionados, what do you do in this situation?
To give you some context, I'm of an age that I'm looking for a long-term partner, not just a hookup, and Shelley is the same (2 years younger.) So I'm viewing things a bit different from when I was 16.
Shelley is absolutely perfect in every other way - incredible attractive, greats face, great body, great feet. We get along incredibly well, great conversation, what I can say is genuine compatibility. Which is what I'm looking for at my age.
But the fact remains, after tonight. An ugly, inconvenient fact. She isn't ticklish on her feet. At all.
And that's a big deal for me. It's what I've been fiending for my whole life. But now I've found the perfect girl ,this one, huge thing is not working.
So I wonder - have any of you guys encountered a similar situation?
It just seems so hard for us tickle fetishists: not only do we need to find a partner we're attracted to, and who is willing to partner with us, but we also have to hope that person is ticklish. It's not like a regular person who's into tits and ass, who can see immediately if their potential partner has great tits and a great ass. We have to actually wait until we're close enough to this person to try out their ticklishness. Sometimes we strike gold. And other times, we strike out monumentally. Like I did tonight.
To be clear: Shelley was a girl I'd already started thinking we'd be great together, and all the mental future planning that entails. Whereas now I'm completely thrown off. She is literally perfect in every other way, an appropriate age for me to be dating, wants kids (as do I), get along like a house on fire any time we're together, and unless I'm massively misreading signs, she into me in a big way.
But she's not ticklish.
So what do I do???
Deep down, I know what I have to do. I can't enter into a life relationship with someone who doesn't have any potential to satisfy this one thing that I've longed all my life for. It sucks that it has to be like this, but I know that, deep down inside, if I ever partnered with or married a girl who wasn't ticklish, then I'd essentially be condemning myself to a lifetime of not ever getting what I really want.
I don't even know what I really want from typing this all out. Maybe if anyone has encountered a similar situation they could chime in? Or maybe I'm mad to turn away a girl as perfect as Shelley, despite her obvious flaws?
Doesn't it seem cruel that our own little kink is entirely at the mercy of how someone we like may, or may not, respond to what we like to do?
At this point it seems so fruitless to meet someone who I might fall madly in love with, but then who isn't responsive to tickling. Welcome to hearing views on how this isn't totally messed up though.
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