From way back when I was a kid and the compulsion to tickle females began to blossom in me, I think a large part of the appeal of it was indeed the sadistic, dominant element. The fascinating, wonderful dichotomy: to do something to a girl or a woman that was clearly uncomfortable if not unbearable for her in how she struggled desperately to escape it, yet it made her smile broadly and maybe laugh hysterically and lose her (sometimes bitchy or cold fish) composure, as TKLVR18 put it.
And accompanying was always the aspect of dominant/topping force, whether it be just my masculine strength holding her down or, as I fantasized about from early on, restraining with her ropes, straps, chains, stocks, whatever, such that she had no option, no release but to endure my tickle torture. Indeed, merely the sight of a tied-down woman is arousing for me, not as end in itself as all those bondage perverts would hold it, but just from the realization that the lady would be completely subject to my will, and man,
will I tickle her. [
Apologies for that dreadful pun; I truly mean it.]
The game-changer was my discovery in early adulthood that there indeed existed women who would enjoy having this done to them as much as I would enjoy doing it to them. Since then I have been utterly obsessed with the beautiful paradox of the character of the female 'lee; that she might delight in her total helplessness and loss of control, and beg and scream for me to stop the tickling even as inwardly she thoroughly loves it all perhaps to the point of orgasm--to conduct her to that precious state of sub-space, as Tickle_Addict mentioned, even if I had no idea to call it that for the longest time.
The knowledge that some women crave to be tied and tickled even somewhat assuages my moral quandary at being a non-switching tickle sadist. In RL, I'm a meek, mild-mannered, decent, rule-abiding wimp, the proverbial "wouldn't-hurt-a-fly" type, so the contrast between that and my secret "beast in the sheets" identity is one of the few things that make my life interesting. It's part of what drew my late wife to me, in fact; while she was not a true ticklee, she was a submissive--though in the bedroom only, another way we were Yin and Yang--who loved being tied up, and she also loved her feet played with which fit my flyalong female foot fetish just fine, but I guess I'm getting a little off topic with
that (as well as overdoing the alliteration).
As a sub I generally like to feel like the top is enjoying the hell out of making me lose my composure.
Yes, I've found it gratifying to learn how many 'lees feel similarly. I may be the exception, but my 'lering is highly other-directed; it's all about the 'lee for me and her feelings and reactions, but to know that the victim would be so appreciative and attuned to my needs too would just add to the intimacy of the dynamic which @Ticklish&InLove, you mentioned in your beginning. So kudos for starting this thread (and thereby enabling this TT noob to notice your scorchingly hot signature for the first time).
