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So my vanilla boyfriend found out about my tickle fetish.

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He was using my computer, and I left the room and did some things (basically leaving him alone). That night as we were going to bed, he was like, "So what exactly...Tickles your fancy?"

And I was like :panic: because he's normally really vanilla and doesn't like to switch things up (although he does have a foot fetish, but he only seems into videos and stuff, not too much in the bedroom. But that could just be saying something bad about myself haha).

But he ended up just teasing me and grabbed my sides a few times, and we briefly tickled each other, then ended up falling asleep. But now it's been like 2 weeks, and nothing. He doesn't ever bring it up, and even though I've tried playfully tickling him a few times, he brushes it off and just moves on.

What do I do? I was planning on telling him in my own time about my fetish, but I was nervous, and now I'm MORE nervous to bring it up lol.
 
Hmm, maybe just be a bit more assertive about it and just talk to him about your fetish. I know it's never an easy thing to bring up, but when you finally feel comfortable, just open up about it and see what his reply is. Since he has a foot fetish as is, it's quite likely that he'll be a rather open minded individual. Maybe he doesn't know the extent of your fetish yet and just sees the playful tickling as merely a form of flirting and nothing more? I wouldn't be too nervous bringing it up because if the bf loves you no matter what, he'll more than likely accept your kink for what it is and then if he's ok with it, slowly incorporate it more and more into your physical relationship! :) People who don't have alot of experience with a kink in reality tend to not bring it up, so I wouldn't take this two week break of tickling too much to heart. Just be confident in yourself, open up when you're ready, and I'm sure all will be well :)
 
I think that if he's already seen.. then you should just go for broke and broach the topic head-on. Don't be nervous as he seemed to take it lightly when he brought it up to you that night.. so you shouldn't have too much to sweat. : )
 
Yes, absolutely just tell him. Unless your boyfriend is a militant mennonite who says 'thou' on a frequent basis just tell him.

A tickling fetish is relatively mild in terms of things you could be into. And since you said he's got a foot fetish, I mean, SEGWAY!

He might be shy about it in person, and this is the perfect way for the two of you to bond. Just explain it to him honestly and try to get him to tickle your feet as a way to initiate. You say he's vanilla, but there's really a little more to him, I'm sure you'll find. :thumbsup:
 
You know what I would do?

I would walk up to him and say, "So are you gonna pin me down and tickle the hell out of me, or what?" I mean, he already knows. (Which I think is sooo cute!)

Ok- I realize that everyone is not me... sigh- :D So, I agree with the other posters too. Talk to him, let him know how much you are into it. Don't worry so much about it. I have NEVER had one guy react negatively about tickling me. Every boyfriend I have shared it with has tickled me to pieces, especially after me telling them how much I love it.

Now- the one thing that may worry him a bit is if you are a switch. He may be thinking you want to tie and tickle him, and he could be a bit scared of that. Nothing wrong with wanting to be the ler, just know that unless the guy is a ticklephile, it's gonna take a bit more convincing.

Other than that, girl... enjoy yourself! He thinks you're cute!
 
Well, this is like a "good news, bad news" situation. The good news is he now knows and didn't make a big production about it...the bad news is he now knows and brushes you off when you tickle him. My advice to you as with everyone I ever tell this to is to now sit down with him and let him know how important it is to you and see what happens. Good luck to ya ;-)

peace out,
daddy
 
Hey congrats it sounds like he is not taking it badly. From what you said it sounds like he thought it was super cute and something to playfully tease you about-you being ticklish and loving tickling. I say I don't think it really could harm anything. Since he already has kind of found out that you have a screen name on the forum -ticklemyfancy. He did not seem to freak out and that is good news. I bet he was smiling when he called you that. So it sounds promising.

I think it is going to go fine. Just take it slowly when you share and tell him about how tickling is erotic and a turn on for you-how much you love tickling. I think you will go far. Just share the details on what you feel comfortable-I would say talk about how you love tickling-be tickled and love to tickle-you to be a switch-how turn you on and find it hot to have him tickle you and you eventually to tickle /ler him that is if he feels comfortable and ok with that-then later if you wish to share be sexy to incorporate light bondage-silk scarves or velcro restrains under the bed-go for it. I think you will get more encouragement that you think or ever dreamed.

It is not only just a turn on and erotic for a woman to hear what turns a man on and what makes him hot-also very much a turn on for a man to hear and learn/know what turns a woman on-I bet your guy would love to learn and know more what revs you and makes you hot and turns you on. So I say go for it-tell him what you want and go for it-let him know what you like and what you don't like-likewise return the favor to him-find out what revs him up. It sounds like a very sexy and promising good time.

Oh and don't forget establish safewords. Universally-red means stop, yellow means take it slow and caution, starting to go too fast, need it to slow down and freak me a bit, green means go all is good comfortable and doing good. That or come up with your own safeword or safewords that will help. Something you can easily say-a word that signals you need the tickling to stop right away. However I think you already know this/read this but in case not just saying ex: panic could be a safeword to stop the tickling/or a word to make restraints and bondage stop. Basically just make sure trust is established-boundaries tickle wise/general are respected and heeded

Other than this good luck and happy tickles to the both of you.:couch::couch::couch::couch::couch::couch::couch::)
 
You briefly tickled each other? That means the non-ticklish girl found out she's ticklish? :p

but anyways, you can always talk to him about it since he brought it up and you didn't actually talk about it lol... I mean like someone said if he already knows then it's not like it's a secret anymore so it shouldn't be an uncomfortable thing. He should want to make his beautiful girlfriend happy.
 
He already knows and DID something with it, which you enjoyed. The hardest part is done with, he knows, now see what he does with it by talking to him about it.
 
Be bold! Be adventurous! Be Proud! Be HONEST! BE WHO YOU ARE!

....sorry, I believe in living without fear or regret.

You may be nervous and that makes sense. But it is a part of who you are. Now there is a chance he could be up for it. And there is a chance he might freak and avoid you for like five days. I know that isn't very encouraging, but you need to be who you are. But no matter what happens, remember you are awesome and this only makes you more interesting. If any one has a problem, Including your man (or future interests) it is important to remember this: If they are not into it fine; if he freaks, there is nothing wrong with you, there is something wrong with him.

So tell him and never look back!
 
I would SHOW him. :) Just playfully get him on the bed, straddle him, and say, "I'm going to show you what really turns me on." If he is ticklish, you'll have him there only for a couple of minutes before he flips on top of you and finishes what you started.
 
You know he has a foot fetish but he keeps it to his computer? Have you tried to indulge him in his fetish? If he actively turns away from your feet, he might think that it's wrong for partners to explore each others kinks together. Maybe he feels like he's obligated to keep his fetish to himself and expects you to do the same. I can't imagine a man with a foot fetish having consent to play with his girlfriends feet but deciding to go jack off to some foot porn instead.

He needs to read up on some Dan Savage, mainly the meaning of GGG. GGG stands for Good, Giving, and Game. It refers to meeting your partners sexual desires within a reasonable limitation. Feet and tickling fall under GGG, while more extreme fetishes do not. Talk to him, and let him know that what you both have on the computer would be much more amazing on the bed.
 
3xPIN said:
Be bold! Be adventurous! Be Proud! Be HONEST! BE WHO YOU ARE!

....sorry, I believe in living without fear or regret.

You may be nervous and that makes sense. But it is a part of who you are. Now there is a chance he could be up for it. And there is a chance he might freak and avoid you for like five days. I know that isn't very encouraging, but you need to be who you are. But no matter what happens, remember you are awesome and this only makes you more interesting. If any one has a problem, Including your man (or future interests) it is important to remember this: If they are not into it fine; if he freaks, there is nothing wrong with you, there is something wrong with him.

So tell him and never look back!
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You're really encouraging :)

I'm going to try playing around with him and tickling him (lightly of course) when we are normally being flirty, and see how he goes from there.

I'm not sure how to "bring it up" in conversation. ..."So babe, we should talk about what you found on my computer" is uncomfortable as hell lol.

And to the other questions/comments:

Thanks so much for the advise :)

He and I have done some foot play, but he really is only attracted to tiny, teeny (size 4-5) feet, and I have size 9, sooo...yea. He's told me he thinks my feet look nice, but he is only really turned on by small feet. So I'm S.O.L.

But oh well :) hopefully he'll be receptive of my fetish.

And he's super ticklish <3
 
TickleMyFancy said:
You're really encouraging :)

I'm going to try playing around with him and tickling him (lightly of course) when we are normally being flirty, and see how he goes from there.

I'm not sure how to "bring it up" in conversation. ..."So babe, we should talk about what you found on my computer" is uncomfortable as hell lol.

And to the other questions/comments:

Thanks so much for the advise :)

He and I have done some foot play, but he really is only attracted to tiny, teeny (size 4-5) feet, and I have size 9, sooo...yea. He's told me he thinks my feet look nice, but he is only really turned on by small feet. So I'm S.O.L.

But oh well :) hopefully he'll be receptive of my fetish.

And he's super ticklish <3
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I think the 2 of you will be ok!
 
super ticklish eh ? i would not like to be on the other end of your tickling fingers :)
 
Brutal is good... of course maybe not for a vanilla boyfriend.

So the bf likes small feet but he's going out with you and you have size 9(good size btw).
If I were you while in bed, rub your feet against his leg/thigh and get him worked up, then sneak in some tickles here and there, then work him up some more and throw in more tickles.

And your profile says your a ler so you might be running into the whole macho guy thing where he doesn't want to be tickled.
I don't know for sure but he probably isn't bringing it up because he doesn't want to be tickled. Bummer I know...

Cause you probably want nothing more than to tie him down and destroy him but he probably won't be up for that...
 
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