I have read the OPs story and, to be honest, nothing about it seems paedophile to me. What I do see is that this forum is brimming with people whose mindset is that of a real brooder hen (of whatever gender). Do you REALLY THINK teenagers DON‘T KNOW about sex?! And since when is talking about sex tantamount to sex itself and to minor molestation? To be honest, this is not what I had expected from this forum. And yes, I don‘t like it at all that teenagers were called „proto-people“ here. Sorry, guys, are you saying that a person under 18 years of age is a homo erectus or something? This is ridiculous. And I feel very sad for the young man who JUST wanted to be her friend. As to the young lady, she acted like an utter coward in my view. She started a correspondence with a guy older than herself (yes, do read with your eyes, SHE started it!) and then showed her own private correspondence to her friends. This is absurd! And I don‘t agree that adults shouldn‘t talk to teenagers about sex. This is normal. This is not molestation, but enlightenment. Don‘t think teenagers are children. They are near-adults, if adulthood is 12:00, teen age is 11:55. In the USA, for example, teenagers start having sex quite early. And in Japan, a teenager dating an adult is considering normal. This is their ages-old tradition that, in this age, you are allowed to drink sake, participate in wars and get married. Whether then or now, the teen age is still considered age of consent in Japan. As, in this forum, there are plenty of people from the most different countries, such opinions like „don‘t talk to a teenager about sex“ are bigotry to me (to say the least). This is just like, for example, a psychologist sometimes needs to explain to an LGBT teenager that his sexual orientation is absolutely normal. Bottom line, ladies and gentlemen: comparing talking about sex with sexual actions is complete and utter bigotry! So allow me to take my leave. As far as I‘m concerned, I agree with the OP and am on his side.