What is the best way to find a tickling partner?

[Lee Ishler]

What is the best way to find a tickling partner? As far as the TMF goes, I have been in the chatroom a lot, and many will talk to me there, but it's limited, and they often live too far away. Many there I find already have someone anyway, and are just going in the chat for a little "extra" it seems. And I recently joined Fetlife, and there are a lot of tickling groups there, but there doesn't seem to be a lot of activity. Also I'm aware of munches, I haven't been to one yet, but I'm definitely open to it. And I notice many people here talk about "sessions". Does that mean something that you pay for, or can it be two like minded people simply getting together to tickle each other? To be honest, I don't like the idea of paying for a tickling session, I need to find someone who wants to do it with me, purely out of desire. I'm not knocking it, but if I had to pay someone, that would leave me cold, knowing they're only doing it to make money. I'd rather go totally without than to do it that way. Does anyone here feel the same?

 

[Myriads]

Howdy,

This is a question that come around on a regular basis here and it's one that has no simple answer.

A long time ago as I started to answer posts like yours that involve seeking some form of ticking activity I found a simply way to snap them into a better perspective. It's simple; replace the word tickle with fuck in the question.

So your first line would become "What is the best way to find a fuck partner?"

This is a question that is a lot more approachable to answer then the fetish related one, but is EXACTLY the same problem in all other aspects. You'd do things that put you into contact with possible partners, and pursue forming a relationship of sorts, and hopefully end up in a situation where you fucked. It could be a long term thing where you date etc, or a fast thing where you hire an escort, or in-between where you hook up with someone seeking such on tinder or other fuck-buddy app.

So given that you clearly don't want the escort path, you are left with the fuck-buddy apps and building a relationship. You've sorta looked into the app side here on the forum, chatting in the room and so forth, and found some folks who might be down for it, but they are far away and not practical. That's the bummer of a fetish, the pool of people is smaller and more spread out. You found no local matches to be a 'tickle-buddy'. That sucks. So you are left with a relationship. Going out and meeting people and building a connection locally, and hope that it leads to your tickling fun.

And in most relationships if you are open about your sexual likes, your partner may well be down to indulge you even if it's not their bag. Heck you might indulge them on something that is not your bag simply because you like them and want to make them happy. So you do what everyone looking to get fucked does. Look for a partner that you can connect with, build a relationship to a level where you can introduce sex to it, and then talk and satisfy each others wants/needs.

As I said, not a simple answer. But it's what tends to lead to the most success in finding a tickling partner after the pay-to-play options.

Myriads

 

[Lee Ishler]

Howdy,

This is a question that come around on a regular basis here and it's one that has no simple answer.

A long time ago as I started to answer posts like yours that involve seeking some form of ticking activity I found a simply way to snap them into a better perspective. It's simple; replace the word tickle with fuck in the question.

So your first line would become "What is the best way to find a fuck partner?"

This is a question that is a lot more approachable to answer then the fetish related one, but is EXACTLY the same problem in all other aspects. You'd do things that put you into contact with possible partners, and pursue forming a relationship of sorts, and hopefully end up in a situation where you fucked. It could be a long term thing where you date etc, or a fast thing where you hire an escort, or in-between where you hook up with someone seeking such on tinder or other fuck-buddy app.

So given that you clearly don't want the escort path, you are left with the fuck-buddy apps and building a relationship. You've sorta looked into the app side here on the forum, chatting in the room and so forth, and found some folks who might be down for it, but they are far away and not practical. That's the bummer of a fetish, the pool of people is smaller and more spread out. You found no local matches to be a 'tickle-buddy'. That sucks. So you are left with a relationship. Going out and meeting people and building a connection locally, and hope that it leads to your tickling fun.

And in most relationships if you are open about your sexual likes, your partner may well be down to indulge you even if it's not their bag. Heck you might indulge them on something that is not your bag simply because you like them and want to make them happy. So you do what everyone looking to get fucked does. Look for a partner that you can connect with, build a relationship to a level where you can introduce sex to it, and then talk and satisfy each others wants/needs.

As I said, not a simple answer. But it's what tends to lead to the most success in finding a tickling partner after the pay-to-play options.

Myriads

Thanks very much, Myriads, I totally understand. But I guess my problem has always been I never did well with the "regular", or "vanilla" as they say here, side of things to begin with. No doubt because I've always lacked confidence. That was easier when I was younger, when I'd go to the same places other young people were at, and there were sometimes a few girls that were more outgoing than most, and would approach me. But as an older person now, those opportunities no longer exist, and traditional dating sites, from what I've found, tend to be all about credentials, which I can't say I have. Young people don't really care about that kind of thing, because many have not started their careers yet and are still in school anyway. Even in the chatroom here, the first thing many ask me is, "How old are you???" Some don't care, but a lot do.

This is why I'm thinking the munches, or gatherings, may be my best bet, in as much that people will see me and talk to me first, then ask questions later. But then like you say, there is no simple answer.

I started coming to the TMF about 20 years ago, but I was too shy to reach out, I pretty much just looked at all the videos, etc. But that would've been a good time to try to connect. As they say, you snooze, you lose. Thanks for your input!

 

[Myriads]

Meeting people for relationships is a challenge no matter what point in life one is at, and yes I'll agree it gets harder as one gets older. But unless you try to do things that will let you meet people (Joining clubs, and groups where you'll interact with folks) and so forth is still one of the best ways to meet folks and perhaps start something.

And as I said before, starting a relationship that leads to tickling, is not that different from starting a relationship that might lead to sex. It's just a change of objective.

Gatherings and munches will certainly put you in touch with others that might want to casually play and be good opertunites, but even at those you'll still need to sell yourself and be social. Why should someone pick you to play with if you sit quietly and say nothing the whole time? You still have to work at making the connections even in those situations. I see from your profile that you are male, and I have no clue of what gender you prefer or what D/s side you like (Ler lee) but if your desired partner is female you are already working against the odds. Just like with sex, women are the choosers and you need to have something to be chosen.

It's a difficult position to be in, and it's not fun or simple. It's sorta instructive as to why sex service workers exist. They are filling a roll where they get what they need (Money) in exchange for access to their bodies (which you want) neatly solving two peoples issues in one blow. But it's not everyones cuppa, as you said. But it's why such has been one of the oldet professions

Myriads

 

[Lee Ishler]

Meeting people for relationships is a challenge no matter what point in life one is at, and yes I'll agree it gets harder as one gets older. But unless you try to do things that will let you meet people (Joining clubs, and groups where you'll interact with folks) and so forth is still one of the best ways to meet folks and perhaps start something.

And as I said before, starting a relationship that leads to tickling, is not that different from starting a relationship that might lead to sex. It's just a change of objective.

Gatherings and munches will certainly put you in touch with others that might want to casually play and be good opertunites, but even at those you'll still need to sell yourself and be social. Why should someone pick you to play with if you sit quietly and say nothing the whole time? You still have to work at making the connections even in those situations. I see from your profile that you are male, and I have no clue of what gender you prefer or what D/s side you like (Ler lee) but if your desired partner is female you are already working against the odds. Just like with sex, women are the choosers and you need to have something to be chosen.

It's a difficult position to be in, and it's not fun or simple. It's sorta instructive as to why sex service workers exist. They are filling a roll where they get what they need (Money) in exchange for access to their bodies (which you want) neatly solving two peoples issues in one blow. But it's not everyones cuppa, as you said. But it's why such has been one of the oldet professions

Myriads

If I somehow find a gathering or munch to go to, no, I would not sit quietly and say nothing the whole time. Sorry you got that impression, but yes, I did say I was not good at being outgoing when I was younger. When I said that at a gathering or munch, people would see me and talk to me first, I meant, as opposed to say, the chatroom here, where they tend to ask your age right away; when you meet someone in person, they don't really ask you this, not right off the bat anyway. But no, I realize I'd have to make an effort to socialize. I'm just saying, in a situation such as this, it would be more about how I come across, personality-wise, and less about, say, how old I am, which seems to be what I am asked in the chatroom here, before the conversation even begins. Not always, but often. And I totally understand why. It doesn't mean I get rejected. Sometimes I do, but I told a few people who are OK with it. Some are close to my age anyway.

My profile here was a lot more elaborate, but after viewing a lot of other peoples' here, I began whittling it down more and more, because I thought maybe I was revealing too much. I assumed saying that I am male on my profile would indicate I am interested in females, but then maybe not. I did at one point say on it that I'm straight, but removed that thinking it wasn't needed. And it does say that I'm a switch (both), and that I lean towards being a lee, but can be a good ler too. So yeah, desiring a female I know means working against the odds. As for having something to be chosen, as you say, I don't think my profile here will indicate all that, but it will give you the basics. I do sometimes give pictures of myself to people I meet here in chat, and this was also something I had in a private album on my profile here too, but I got nervous and took it off. So yeah, I should probably make more of an effort with the profile. I'm not sure why a lot of members here have very little on their profile, in fact I find many have nothing on it at all. But then I got the impression that TMF is not exactly a dating site either, where you definitely need to have a photo, and all the rest of it. I guess this is why I asked the question about where the best places to find a tickling partner are, because after being active here for a while, I get the impression TMF is not it. But maybe it can be.

I admit I did go to a professional dominatrix for tickling, a long time ago, and realized it's not what I wanted. But it was a nice experience anyway, which I don't regret. It just made me realize it's not what I want. But that's OK. I will try different things. It may work, it may not. But at least at this point, I'm finally trying!

 

[DarylKeith]

Of course it depends on whether you are looking for a tickling partner as a 'play partner' or someone for long term relationship.

If you are just looking for a play partner, there might be some local magazines that lean toward local, off the beaten path interests. By that I mean they may cover the non mainstream local music, clubs, etc. And these publications sometimes have a section for both commercial and personal ads for people looking to get aquainted and explore various fetishes. That would tend to lead you to any local fetish action to explore for possibilities. Pitch magazine was one that was available at least a few years ago.

But in bigger metro areas, you might try the classified and personal ad sections of a major newspaper for similar ads. On vacation several years ago, we happened across an ad in a Denver newspaper in which a married couple was very up front in their desire for a live -in housekeeper/companion, with the emphasis on companionship (for both spouses. There were preferences for age, education level, being open minded etc. Benefits included a salary and use of a personal vehicle. Pretty much the only thing not mentioned was free supply of coconut oil or other personal lubricants! We had a good laugh, but I thought well, you get what you look for. Filling out a threesome is just like finding someone to fill out a foursome in golf--You want someone who is easy to play with.

 

[Lee Ishler]

Of course it depends on whether you are looking for a tickling partner as a 'play partner' or someone for long term relationship.

If you are just looking for a play partner, there might be some local magazines that lean toward local, off the beaten path interests. By that I mean they may cover the non mainstream local music, clubs, etc. And these publications sometimes have a section for both commercial and personal ads for people looking to get aquainted and explore various fetishes. That would tend to lead you to any local fetish action to explore for possibilities. Pitch magazine was one that was available at least a few years ago.

But in bigger metro areas, you might try the classified and personal ad sections of a major newspaper for similar ads. On vacation several years ago, we happened across an ad in a Denver newspaper in which a married couple was very up front in their desire for a live -in housekeeper/companion, with the emphasis on companionship (for both spouses. There were preferences for age, education level, being open minded etc. Benefits included a salary and use of a personal vehicle. Pretty much the only thing not mentioned was free supply of coconut oil or other personal lubricants! We had a good laugh, but I thought well, you get what you look for. Filling out a threesome is just like finding someone to fill out a foursome in golf--You want someone who is easy to play with.

Yes I get what you're saying here, and I'll definitely keep it in mind. But my problem is, when it comes to this whole fetish lifestyle, I'm a bit of a dork. I think I mentioned I joined Fetlife recently, and I was a bit overwhelmed by the profiles I saw there...for one thing, I saw that many people who are into tickling, are into a good deal of other things too. I can't say that I am. And yes, I always thought along the lines of a play partner being what I'm looking for. As for a long term relationship, that's a whole other kettle of fish. And isn't that a place people go for that, Plenty Of Fish? No, I don't think so, not for me. I think at this point in my life, it would have to be a play partner. So thanks, I'll keep the newspaper or magazine idea in mind. But with you having said that, I do think looking for ads, or putting one out myself, on a site like Fetlife, is a pretty good option.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

And I notice many people here talk about "sessions". Does that mean something that you pay for, or can it be two like minded people simply getting together to tickle each other?

By default, it just means two people meeting up for the sole purpose of doing kink stuff. Money doesn’t have to be involved. Whenever someone asks me for a session, I always assume they have no intention of paying and I’m correct 99.9% (recurring) of the time.

To be honest, I don't like the idea of paying for a tickling session, I need to find someone who wants to do it with me, purely out of desire. I'm not knocking it, but if I had to pay someone, that would leave me cold, knowing they're only doing it to make money. I'd rather go totally without than to do it that way.

Not trying to be rude, but considering you’re a male lee, paying is probably the most efficient way of scratching that itch. If you’d rather go without it entirely, then that’s fair enough, but it seems kind of odd to complain about no action in that case.

Also I'm aware of munches, I haven't been to one yet, but I'm definitely open to it.

Do it. It’s good that you’re open to going to a munch. One of my biggest pet peeves in this community is when guys ask me for advice on how to meet a play partner, and I tell them about munches or gatherings… only for them to pull the “b-but I’m too shy!” card. 90% of the time it’s not shyness; they just want a session handed to them on a silver platter while refusing to put any effort into meeting people.

 

[DarylKeith]

I would think if you put out the right ad, on the right site or media, you could find the right partner. I know what you mean about how many people into one kink seem to be in others as well. I've had a few opportunities to engage with friends as non romantic play partners to indulge my desires for tickling, but I was always respectful and trustworthy so no one felt awkward or anything. We discussed limits etc and everyone felt safe. I didn't present myself as the persona of some weirdo 'evil' tickler, but just as a friend with an interest in tickling, and mentioned the fun of the heightened sensitivities and sensation that I thought they would enjoy. Since I knew the people, it was luckily not that hard to sell the idea. Every experience was enjoyable for all involved. The main point is that even though we may have our own fetishes/kinks, we can introduce our ideas in a rational way and have some success at fulfilling our desires with others who are not previously involved in the same practices.

 

[Lee Ishler]

By default, it just means two people meeting up for the sole purpose of doing kink stuff. Money doesn’t have to be involved. Whenever someone asks me for a session, I always assume they have no intention of paying and I’m correct 99.9% (recurring) of the time.


Not trying to be rude, but considering you’re a male lee, paying is probably the most efficient way of scratching that itch. If you’d rather go without it entirely, then that’s fair enough, but it seems kind of odd to complain about no action in that case.


Do it. It’s good that you’re open to going to a munch. One of my biggest pet peeves in this community is when guys ask me for advice on how to meet a play partner, and I tell them about munches or gatherings… only for them to pull the “b-but I’m too shy!” card. 90% of the time it’s not shyness; they just want a session handed to them on a silver platter while refusing to put any effort into meeting people.

Hi Jezebel, thanks for clearing that up for me about what a session is.

I wouldn't say I'm complaining about not having a tickling partner, because I still haven't done anything to find one. This post is about what peoples' suggestions may be as to what the best ways are for me to go about it. And I've been given some good advice here. And I'm a switch, not just a lee. But I could be just a lee, if that's what someone wants, or just a ler. Most women I've talked to on the TMF are lees, and I'm OK with that. I did mention somewhere on this thread that I paid a professional dominatrix one time to tickle me, and realized that's not the kind of partner I want, someone doing it just for money. She even asked me to come back, to "do a double" as she put it, meaning she would have her friend join her next time for an ff/m thing. That was very tempting, but I passed.

I'm definitely open to munches, and there are others I talked with on the TMF that have suggested it. I was in a good area for that, NYC, but then covid hit, which put an end to that. Then I decided I needed to get out of there, which I did. Where I'm living now is not a major city, but I can always travel, depending on how busy I am. Yes I'd say I'm shy but I don't think that's a reason not to go to a munch. I'd just have to force myself to do it, the same as anything else. Anyway, thanks for your advice!

 

[Lee Ishler]

I would think if you put out the right ad, on the right site or media, you could find the right partner. I know what you mean about how many people into one kink seem to be in others as well. I've had a few opportunities to engage with friends as non romantic play partners to indulge my desires for tickling, but I was always respectful and trustworthy so no one felt awkward or anything. We discussed limits etc and everyone felt safe. I didn't present myself as the persona of some weirdo 'evil' tickler, but just as a friend with an interest in tickling, and mentioned the fun of the heightened sensitivities and sensation that I thought they would enjoy. Since I knew the people, it was luckily not that hard to sell the idea. Every experience was enjoyable for all involved. The main point is that even though we may have our own fetishes/kinks, we can introduce our ideas in a rational way and have some success at fulfilling our desires with others who are not previously involved in the same practices.

Hi Daryl, I think you're right, thanks for the advice. I do think putting out the right ad, on the right site or media may work. Or would at least be a good start. At least if I make an initial connection, with someone who may be interested, we can discuss it further. I am open to other fetishes besides tickling, it just depends on what it is, or how intense. So as you say, we can discuss limits, etc.

 

[Lee Ishler]

Oh, and there is the "Personals" section here which I still need to try, I forgot about that. So I think there are many options I still need to explore, thanks again for all who offered their advice.

 

[duderino84]

What is the best way to find a tickling partner? As far as the TMF goes, I have been in the chatroom a lot, and many will talk to me there, but it's limited, and they often live too far away. Many there I find already have someone anyway, and are just going in the chat for a little "extra" it seems. And I recently joined Fetlife, and there are a lot of tickling groups there, but there doesn't seem to be a lot of activity. Also I'm aware of munches, I haven't been to one yet, but I'm definitely open to it. And I notice many people here talk about "sessions". Does that mean something that you pay for, or can it be two like minded people simply getting together to tickle each other? To be honest, I don't like the idea of paying for a tickling session, I need to find someone who wants to do it with me, purely out of desire. I'm not knocking it, but if I had to pay someone, that would leave me cold, knowing they're only doing it to make money. I'd rather go totally without than to do it that way. Does anyone here feel the same?

So I posted on Fetlife a couple days ago about "how to be more outgoing and drop inhibitions" (something to that effect) and a ton of people just started parroting about getting out of my house and just meeting people. I guess that makes some sense but there's a ratio of wasted time to invested relationships, and the hard sell of a kink.

Hope that helps.

 

[Lee Ishler]

So I posted on Fetlife a couple days ago about "how to be more outgoing and drop inhibitions" (something to that effect) and a ton of people just started parroting about getting out of my house and just meeting people. I guess that makes some sense but there's a ratio of wasted time to invested relationships, and the hard sell of a kink.

Hope that helps.

Yes I understand what you mean. I don't do well with "invested" relationships, and I assume that means serious ones? Not that I was ever against it, but maybe I just wasn't in the right place at the right time. Which is why I thought I may do better just looking for a "play partner" so to speak. And I did just leave Fetlife, but only because I'm busy moving around right now, so I realized it's not a good time for me to do this. But once I get settled I may pursue it.

 

[duderino84]

Yes I understand what you mean. I don't do well with "invested" relationships, and I assume that means serious ones? Not that I was ever against it, but maybe I just wasn't in the right place at the right time. Which is why I thought I may do better just looking for a "play partner" so to speak. And I did just leave Fetlife, but only because I'm busy moving around right now, so I realized it's not a good time for me to do this. But once I get settled I may pursue it.

Well, just think of it like this: "there's more to a partner than whether or not they will share your fetish."

Whatever that means.

 

[Lee Ishler]

Well, just think of it like this: "there's more to a partner than whether or not they will share your fetish."

Whatever that means.

Well that's true. But it could lead to something more. So a fetish is a good place to start. So you get someone who's into your fetish, and something for the soul too. I'd just be starting with the fetish, that's all. It's like someone once told me, sure, a girl may like you just because you play in a rock band, but that's a way they can get to know you better.

Or something like that...

 

[duderino84]

Well that's true. But it could lead to something more. So a fetish is a good place to start. So you get someone who's into your fetish, and something for the soul too. I'd just be starting with the fetish, that's all. It's like someone once told me, sure, a girl may like you just because you play in a rock band, but that's a way they can get to know you better.

Or something like that...

But usually it's in the opposite order; meet someone, then essentially whip whatever you have out.

And as a guy who spent life in concert venues both on and off stage to the point it caused tinnitus, it's mostly time wasted.

Ever had a conversation with someone while a band was playing?

CHUCK!
yea?
HOW ARE YOU LIKING THE BAND TONIGHT?
what? Why do you want to fight?
no! I said HOW ARE YOU LIKING THE BAND TONIGHT?

And so on. See how that leads to such a productive conversation?

And yes, I know people will start grammar/ post correcting, no, I don't care

 

[Wolf]

Go to events and venues where more open-minded people congregate. What "open-minded" means is entirely up to your own criteria.

 

[TKL_M28_LI_NY]

I've found the best way is not to find ticklephiles but to train new ones.

You gotta go slow - none of this 2 hours stuff the 1st time (unless you're on the receiving end. If you are, I find the game "tickle me until I agree to perform oral on you" works nicely). 10 seconds tickling followed by 10 seconds not, or 10 seconds kissing works well. Or sometimes a single poke or a stroke During kissing.

Good hunting.

 

[Lee Ishler]

But usually it's in the opposite order; meet someone, then essentially whip whatever you have out.

And as a guy who spent life in concert venues both on and off stage to the point it caused tinnitus, it's mostly time wasted.

Ever had a conversation with someone while a band was playing?

CHUCK!
yea?
HOW ARE YOU LIKING THE BAND TONIGHT?
what? Why do you want to fight?
no! I said HOW ARE YOU LIKING THE BAND TONIGHT?

And so on. See how that leads to such a productive conversation?

And yes, I know people will start grammar/ post correcting, no, I don't care

Well first of all, I don't even play guitar anymore, I gave all that up when I had to get back to reality. But that was something someone said to me at the time. And as for meeting someone first, and whipping it all out later, I think I may have explained earlier on this thread why I didn't do it that way, because basically, I was never good at the whole dating thing anyway, for whatever reason. So I'm thinking maybe I'd have a better chance meeting someone fetish-wise. Maybe not, but I figure it's worth a try.

And my hearing is still pretty good! I could start shouting too but I don't know how you got the bigger font like that. How did you do it? I may want to do it later...

 

[Lee Ishler]

Go to events and venues where more open-minded people congregate. What "open-minded" means is entirely up to your own criteria.

Well that's a good idea too. I always did go to places like that, like art galleries, punk rock concerts, etc. So there are definitely a lot of options here. Thanks for the suggestion, Wolf!

 

[Lee Ishler]

I've found the best way is not to find ticklephiles but to train new ones.

You gotta go slow - none of this 2 hours stuff the 1st time (unless you're on the receiving end. If you are, I find the game "tickle me until I agree to perform oral on you" works nicely). 10 seconds tickling followed by 10 seconds not, or 10 seconds kissing works well. Or sometimes a single poke or a stroke During kissing.

Good hunting.

Actually I did that with someone once, I got her to like being tickled by tickling her while stimulating erogenous zones at the same time. And she didn't seem to mind tickling me either, once she knew I liked it. But that girl went west, sorry to say, because sex isn't everything, and we didn't quite connect on an intellectual level. But that's OK, because it's all in the game, as they say. Will that work someone else? Possibly.

Oh, and I'm from Long Island too. I left, but that's where my roots are, for sure. I'll always be a native New Yorker, in spirit anyway...

 

[duderino84]

Well first of all, I don't even play guitar anymore, I gave all that up when I had to get back to reality. But that was something someone said to me at the time. And as for meeting someone first, and whipping it all out later, I think I may have explained earlier on this thread why I didn't do it that way, because basically, I was never good at the whole dating thing anyway, for whatever reason. So I'm thinking maybe I'd have a better chance meeting someone fetish-wise. Maybe not, but I figure it's worth a try.

And my hearing is still pretty good! I could start shouting too but I don't know how you got the bigger font like that. How did you do it? I may want to do it later...

I hear you on the getting back to reality bit and not being good at dating. It took a long time (even in good situations) to find the right thing for me and then to work towards it. As for dating, I'd say it's a young man's game; when I was more young/ foolish I'd go for a settled down long term relationship and maybe just decide to hitch/ get off the net etc as everyone just wanted to be casual. Now? Everyone's after the old long term shit because they don't like feeling older, and I want to be casual. I look at the young bucks getting married today and the grapevine news of restlessness, I think it was smart.

I'll have to find different events to bullshit around to, but really, between work and studying for pro certifications, I don't have the same energy as a young dreamer.

Hearing isn't bad yet, but periodic 6khz ringing reminds me of why I stopped.

The font in the quote reply menu gives you an option to tweak the size away from "normal".

 

[Lee Ishler]

The site is messed up and it's not letting me reply with the quote, but this is for you, Duderino. Thanks for the info about how to get the bigger font, I may do that if I feel I need to shout, not that I see any reason I should, but you never know...the reason I was never good at dating is basically because I haven't tried enough, I admit I never had a lot of confidence, and in addition, I think we all know if you're a guy (and I am), credentials are important, and I never had a professional career, not that I haven't worked. But I think especially now, as an older guy (and I won't say how old), it's more of an issue. I'm sure there are some women willing to make exceptions, but you still have to find them, and I don't think it's easy. On a dating site they may be there, but you'd have to go through a lot of rejection first, which has happened, and that's not an easy thing to deal with. However, I'd think with a fetish partner, those credentials may be less of an issue, if at all. Seems like I may be repeating myself, but whatever, sometimes that's necessary, because who wants to read the whole post?

 

[FFT32]

What is the best way? All circumstances will be different, but a really good tried and true way is to tickle someone… ;0)