What is the DEAL with the chat room?

[bound2tickle]

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[AngelOfDarkness]

Tip: Most people don't ACTUALLY talk about tickling/meeting for playtime until they really know the person.

 

[His Divine Shadow]

The way I personally think about it is to substitute "sex" for tickling. Would you sit and talk with someone about sex for an extended period of time? Perhaps you would, and there isn't anything wrong with that. However, I'd guess most people wouldn't, even with those they are close to. We share a common interest; it brings us together. That lets us connect in other ways, ways beyond tickling.

There is a reason, I'd say, that most folks who frequent gatherings talk very little about tickling when they get to them. We make friends, and we talk to our friends about all sorts of things. To continue the sex analogy, I imagine most groups of friends wouldn't gather around each other to discuss sex, even though it certainly is an interest of most folks.

This isn't to say your position is a bad one. You just haven't found the person who wants to talk about what you do. Seek them out; you can't be the only one who wants to chat about tickling.

 

[bound2tickle]

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[LD_Tickler]

It's a bit of a paradox, yes. But I don't really think it's worth getting worked up over.

 

[TangerineTicklee]

If those people aren't in the mood to tickle talk with you, I think it's best that you leave them be instead of trying to pressure them into conversations that are not mandatory.

 

[Tidas]

I've thought along similar lines as the OP for years on this one. I don't think the topic in the chatter should always be tickling, but it seems like it is something of a taboo subject. Which brings up an interesting irony. Tickling as a fetish is a taboo topic of conversation in contemporary society, why should that also be the case in a chatroom dedicated to those who have a tickling fetish? It is quite paradoxical, and particularly annoying that those who want to discuss tickling, in a tickling chatroom, are the minority. Also HDS, guys talk about sex ALL THE TIME. I'm not sure where you get your information, but a group of guys when left to their own devices will probably end up discussing sex in some capacity. Just my empirical observation though.

 

[TangerineTicklee]

I don't think the topic in the chatter should always be tickling

Exactly.

 

[His Divine Shadow]

Also HDS, guys talk about sex ALL THE TIME. I'm not sure where you get your information, but a group of guys when left to their own devices will probably end up discussing sex in some capacity. Just my empirical observation though.

I stand corrected. I guess that's why I don't socialize too often.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Also HDS, guys talk about sex ALL THE TIME. I'm not sure where you get your information, but a group of guys when left to their own devices will probably end up discussing sex in some capacity.

How many guys PM each other, instead of women, in the chatroom
and discuss tickling? Just sayin'.

It's nice for a guy to show interest in us as people, and not objects
to use as fodder. The fastest way for me to ignore someone is for
them to bombard me with questions about how ticklish I am, what
my feet look like, and such.

 

[fireguardian]

Ok, one too many chats that have been of the "i don't want to talk about tickling" variety have officially driven me to the edge. I mean, seriously, what is the STORY?! Perhaps I have misread, but this is the "Tickling Media Forum," correct? And people come here because they share a mutual interest in tickling, correct? So why is it that the slightest explicit mention of tickling in a PC inevitably results in digitally rolled eyes and an "i'm here to meet friends and deny my fetish" response? Let's stop ignoring the elephant in the room and cut to the chase. We're all here to talk tickling. If you wanted to talk about anything else, you would call a friend, send a text, GO OUTSIDE.

If a live chatroom in a place like this can't be a place where ticklephiles indulge in the tickle fantasies that can't run amock in the physical world, then what is the point? I will not accept the response that the point is to meet wonderful people -- wonderful people are everywhere, and you don't need a tickling-focused forum to find them.

First rant ever Felt good. Won't happen again, promise.

BTT

Not everyone is comfortable being your spank off material. Most people will eventually talk about it but it's usually (at least with most of the women I know) best to actually have a real conversation with them as a person. Once they have become comfortable you may actually get answers from them. Personally if I get messages just asking where am I ticklish how ticklish am I, I tend to ignore it. Approach me as person and not as a masturbation tool and maybe you will eventually get answers to those questions. If you don't want to deal with that When you want to actually interact with humans that do have similar interests as you then try again. Best of luck to you!

 

[TangerineTicklee]

It's nice for a guy to show interest in us as people, and not objects
to use as fodder. The fastest way for me to ignore someone is for
them to bombard me with questions about how ticklish I am, what
my feet look like, and such.

Same here.

 

[Tidas]

How many guys PM each other, instead of women, in the chatroom
and discuss tickling? Just sayin'.

It's nice for a guy to show interest in us as people, and not objects
to use as fodder. The fastest way for me to ignore someone is for
them to bombard me with questions about how ticklish I am, what
my feet look like, and such.

I do so frequently actually, granted I am not the norm. I also completely agree that people should be interested in other people, and never use them as just a way to get off. However talking about a fetish does not always equal using someone in every case. I know exactly the type of people you are talking about, and I do not condone their behavior, I just think it's odd that so often it is frowned upon to talk about tickling (not even in PC's) in a tickling chatroom.

 

[Tidas]

Not everyone is comfortable being your spank off material....Approach me as person and not as a masturbation tool and maybe you will eventually get answers to those questions.

While I understand your point, and I think you are correct, I don't think it's fair to say that every guy that wants to talk about tickling is using you personally as spank material. Personally I enjoy talking to everyone about the fetish to get their individual perspective on it, to see if it is similar to my own, or how it differs. It is a common dimension amongst all of us, to a degree, and thus ought to be an ok topic of conversation. However, I do agree that many of my gender are only seeking to fire one out. I just don't think that is always the case, and personally I don't like being lumped in with them.

 

[TangerineTicklee]

While I understand your point, and I think you are correct, I don't think it's fair to say that every guy that wants to talk about tickling is using you personally as spank material. Personally I enjoy talking to everyone about the fetish to get their individual perspective on it, to see if it is similar to my own, or how it differs. It is a common dimension amongst all of us, to a degree, and thus ought to be an ok topic of conversation. However, I do agree that many of my gender are only seeking to fire one out. I just don't think that is always the case, and personally I don't like being lumped in with them.

Some people will only talk to females (or what they perceive to be females) for more reasons than just that they don't want to be tickling fodder for guys. Some females just prefer to communicate with other *said* females.

 

[Filthyweasel]

A ha! the old "I need instant gratification" whine. Not rant....whine. There is a difference. The silliest bit was when you yelled at us to go outside.

Go spend some money...I'm assuming you know about BAC, the comic artist. Go to his site, and buy Laughing Pines #2. At the bottom of page 8 there are 3 pretty good characterizations of...well...you.

A decade ago I spent hours on a chatroom in Yahoo called Fetishes:1. Before I started talking for the first time, I spent a while reading what people had to say, because it was more fun and more engaging than spam-PMing a/s/l to every name that sounded even remotely female. Then I spoke up, introduced myself and within a very short time I was talking with and trusted by every girl in there, meaning when we all got together for Mardi Gras I had great fun being personally introduced to what interested them. Even on here it took me about two days of being a real person to be spoken to as one. That was 6 months ago, been to 4 or so munches since then, I hang out with at least 6 TMFers on a regular basis, and I'm on my way to my second gathering. You're pissed off are you? It pisses me off even more when a lurker whines about how hard it is to lurk.

Mate, there is no elephant in the room that everyone's ignoring. Chat rooms get addictive for the people that like a certain one, but do they come back again and again to talk about the same damn subject? That'd be boring as shit. If multiple people at once call you creepy, or roll their virtual eyes as you say, then the problem isn't with them, and that's just simple numbers. These people are actually chatting, showing who they are, shooting the shit, are bringing something new, whereas they see you as nothing new at all. And that's exactly what goes through their minds..."Oh no not another one." Tickling is still a terribly personal thing to some people, and they won't sit there and discuss it with a complete stranger. Make some friends and show yourself to be a real person first and you'll have no problems whatsoever. It's not that bloody hard.

 

[BellybTickler]

I would pull out the "silly noob" card . . but I'm too tired . . patience is a virtue, the chatroom is like any place else; forming friendships, bonds, and most important of all, trust. And as much as some try to deny it, tickling is sexually arousing for 90% of the gentlemen and ladies who visit the TMF, myself included. Talking in the chatroom, not about tickling, but about everyday life helps because it shows others who you are (for the most part) as a person. And don't say you have, because you wouldn't be ranting, whining, etc if you had.