Erotickles
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This is, probably, common to all of us: working to change our lives for the better.
It has quite a few aspects, of course, but personally, for me, for the last couple of years - these efforts have been focused on supporting my relationship with myself and my sexuality. This is strongly tied to my tickling fetish - which sets my sexuality apart from that of most other people in general (and those that otherwise could be potential partners in particular).
Tell me, do you identify with this statement?
My narrative is such – that the current reality is fundamentally broken, and needs to be fixed.
In this current reality:
In an ideal, fantastic, reality - every person who has an affiliation to the tickling fetish – would have a distinctive halo over their heads. Then, when we saw someone we liked and are attracted to – it would be for that – merely as one of many other things we were attracted to them for:
In an ideal world, experiencing and exploring out sexuality, our bodies, and touch – would be as easy as breathing.
Regretfully, this is currently( ) unattainable, however I act on the premise that we can drastically change, and even overturn this reality - if we only manage to learn to solve this problem as a community, rather than trying to solve it as individuals.
This is why I went on this endeavor, to push forward the concept of creating local communities of tickling enthusiasts (A part of which – is the Tickling Communities app as a platform).
And this is where the title of the post comes in:
I know that many of us are exhausted and frustrated with searching; It may seem that what is – is all that can be.. I know many of us have given up – or – are waiting for a miracle to turn things around for them – feeling that it will take no less than a miracle to do so; It is difficult to see a clear path of action and storm through it with unconditional confidence.
I watched this Ted Talk the other day; of the key points raised there, here is a key quote:
“So how do we crack the code on confidence? In my estimation, it takes at least three things: permission, community and curiosity. Permission births confidence,*community nurtures it*and curiosity affirms it. “
Watch the full video for the context, but I will just say this: Community – is a key aspect. TMF staff are extremely supportive – beyond my imagination. Quite a few of you signed up on the app – and it is great. Some expressed their honest appreciation and curiosity about the project – which is also great.
But all in all – I feel quite alone here. I do not feel that I have the strength of a community behind me. It is like people are sitting here, as a crowd in a lecture that they came to because their mother-in-law insisted that they go, playing with their phones, occasionally raising their eyes up to see if miraculously – something interesting happened on stage.
Please understand: I am begging for your help here. Between doing the development work, and trying to get the community’s attention, and trying to produce content for disseminating word around, and posting here and there – in English – which is not even my language(!), constantly acquiring new skills to do all these, trying, and failing, and going back to the drawing board, and coping with challenges in my own life – My brain is simply overloaded and deadlocked.
HELP!
I understand that everybody have other things in life too. You all have your lives. You all try to optimally satisfy your lives’ hungers.
But unless I am grievely mistaken – Many – if not Most - of you recognize that our situation is indeed broken. Every once in a while people talk about “past glorious days” of the community. Asking themselves and others why there are fake accounts, and a gender imbalance in the community, and the video content produced seems less and less about the connection between the lee and the ler – and more about the loudest screams, the most extreme experience, and the tightest bondage.
I think many of you want things to change – but if we keep doing things the way we do them – they will inevitably keep being the way they are!
HELP.
Did I mention “HELP!!” already..?
[video]https://www.ted.com/talks/brittany_packnett_how_to_build_your_confidence_and _spark_it_in_others[/video]
It has quite a few aspects, of course, but personally, for me, for the last couple of years - these efforts have been focused on supporting my relationship with myself and my sexuality. This is strongly tied to my tickling fetish - which sets my sexuality apart from that of most other people in general (and those that otherwise could be potential partners in particular).
Tell me, do you identify with this statement?
My narrative is such – that the current reality is fundamentally broken, and needs to be fixed.
In this current reality:
- Most of us are so deep in the closet, to the extent that finding one another is as difficult as it is.
- This leads to seclusion, to a lack of opportunity to experience and explore – for many of us.
- This, in turn, pushes many people towards a far from optimal relationship with this aspect of our sexuality: that of giving an excess weight to consuming “sexual goods” - be it video clips – or bought sex services.
- and in a soil where technicality rules – intimacy has a much harder time flourish...
In an ideal, fantastic, reality - every person who has an affiliation to the tickling fetish – would have a distinctive halo over their heads. Then, when we saw someone we liked and are attracted to – it would be for that – merely as one of many other things we were attracted to them for:
- they look at us in that way – that we know that they notice us too,
- they excite us, they impress us, they resonate with us, and they make us curious,
- they appeal to us physically,
- and oh – look at that halo – which promises that the intimacy with them will also be abundant, with wild, passionate, much desired, and exciting ticklish screams!
In an ideal world, experiencing and exploring out sexuality, our bodies, and touch – would be as easy as breathing.
Regretfully, this is currently( ) unattainable, however I act on the premise that we can drastically change, and even overturn this reality - if we only manage to learn to solve this problem as a community, rather than trying to solve it as individuals.
This is why I went on this endeavor, to push forward the concept of creating local communities of tickling enthusiasts (A part of which – is the Tickling Communities app as a platform).
And this is where the title of the post comes in:
I know that many of us are exhausted and frustrated with searching; It may seem that what is – is all that can be.. I know many of us have given up – or – are waiting for a miracle to turn things around for them – feeling that it will take no less than a miracle to do so; It is difficult to see a clear path of action and storm through it with unconditional confidence.
I watched this Ted Talk the other day; of the key points raised there, here is a key quote:
“So how do we crack the code on confidence? In my estimation, it takes at least three things: permission, community and curiosity. Permission births confidence,*community nurtures it*and curiosity affirms it. “
Watch the full video for the context, but I will just say this: Community – is a key aspect. TMF staff are extremely supportive – beyond my imagination. Quite a few of you signed up on the app – and it is great. Some expressed their honest appreciation and curiosity about the project – which is also great.
But all in all – I feel quite alone here. I do not feel that I have the strength of a community behind me. It is like people are sitting here, as a crowd in a lecture that they came to because their mother-in-law insisted that they go, playing with their phones, occasionally raising their eyes up to see if miraculously – something interesting happened on stage.
Please understand: I am begging for your help here. Between doing the development work, and trying to get the community’s attention, and trying to produce content for disseminating word around, and posting here and there – in English – which is not even my language(!), constantly acquiring new skills to do all these, trying, and failing, and going back to the drawing board, and coping with challenges in my own life – My brain is simply overloaded and deadlocked.
HELP!
I understand that everybody have other things in life too. You all have your lives. You all try to optimally satisfy your lives’ hungers.
But unless I am grievely mistaken – Many – if not Most - of you recognize that our situation is indeed broken. Every once in a while people talk about “past glorious days” of the community. Asking themselves and others why there are fake accounts, and a gender imbalance in the community, and the video content produced seems less and less about the connection between the lee and the ler – and more about the loudest screams, the most extreme experience, and the tightest bondage.
I think many of you want things to change – but if we keep doing things the way we do them – they will inevitably keep being the way they are!
HELP.
Did I mention “HELP!!” already..?
[video]https://www.ted.com/talks/brittany_packnett_how_to_build_your_confidence_and _spark_it_in_others[/video]