My father did not acknowledge my birthday. Usually, for the last sixteen years, in years we were together, and years we were estranged, he always sent me a card, or letter, with a check. This year, nothing. No card.. no well wishes.. no gift. It hurts.. but.. I also realize it is the final chapter, of what he had been writing with me this year.
His 70th bday was last October 9th. I sent him an email. He had dropped out on me, with no explanation, reason, or warning, before his 70th, at a time my mom had cancer. He never expressed feelings, or told me why. On his 70th, while I did not send him a gift, I did send him an email. I told him that I was hurt that he had dropped out on me, at such a time in my life, with no explanation. I told him such was cruel. I further said that it was appropriate he celebrated his birthday with those whom he deems important. He sent me a crazed response, saying he "Was looking forward to spending the day with those who consider him a person, and not a "banker". Such is delusional, because he gives me NOTHING financially, except for the once a year gift, until this year, that is, when he didn't even do that. He has a legal obligation to my mom, but.. he is so delusional, that he thinks his alimony obligation is to me. He told me in 2009 that he "only pays alimony because of me". Sick! In other words, it would be okay if he put my cancer ridden mother in the street, a woman who stood by him, and saved his career, when he did unethical things in business.
In reality, I feel like I have myself to blame. He had been estranged from me for six years, at the time he requested to see me in 2009. Any parent who can live without seeing his child for six years, can live without them for life. In fact, when my mom was diagnosed in March, he voluntarially sent me the following "If something happens to your mother, I will take care of you". I want to make clear that I was NOT looking for him to "take care of me". However, I posted on here in the past, how he put me in harms way, with what he did to me with my taxes, and how that affected me. The man paid huge sums of money to save his ass, to clients, after he did unethical things, money that came off my mom's hide, in the divorce. In reality, he did a major amount of damage to me. So, while I told him I appreciated his offer, my mom said she felt it would be appro-po.
I know I should never have reconciled with him in 2009. A shrink I once saw told me I need to take care of myself, emotionally. I was not watching out for myself emotionally when I went back with him in 2009. In reality, he should have left well enough alone, and not asked to see me. His thing was he wanted me to suck up to his family, unconditionally, after his brother had a hand in the end of our family, and told me that he told my father not to see me, and, after my father's wife married him, not caring that we were estranged, and then shot her mouth off, that I should "Call" my estranged grandmother and uncle, without knowing the facts.
Emotionally, its over. My father has now cut the last shread. I hope God spares my mom for a long time, and I wish he and that wench hell on earth for how they have both behaved to me. Hopefully, a force greater then me will get even with him for his crimes against me.
Alan, one day I hope you burn in hell. You deserve it!
Mitch
His 70th bday was last October 9th. I sent him an email. He had dropped out on me, with no explanation, reason, or warning, before his 70th, at a time my mom had cancer. He never expressed feelings, or told me why. On his 70th, while I did not send him a gift, I did send him an email. I told him that I was hurt that he had dropped out on me, at such a time in my life, with no explanation. I told him such was cruel. I further said that it was appropriate he celebrated his birthday with those whom he deems important. He sent me a crazed response, saying he "Was looking forward to spending the day with those who consider him a person, and not a "banker". Such is delusional, because he gives me NOTHING financially, except for the once a year gift, until this year, that is, when he didn't even do that. He has a legal obligation to my mom, but.. he is so delusional, that he thinks his alimony obligation is to me. He told me in 2009 that he "only pays alimony because of me". Sick! In other words, it would be okay if he put my cancer ridden mother in the street, a woman who stood by him, and saved his career, when he did unethical things in business.
In reality, I feel like I have myself to blame. He had been estranged from me for six years, at the time he requested to see me in 2009. Any parent who can live without seeing his child for six years, can live without them for life. In fact, when my mom was diagnosed in March, he voluntarially sent me the following "If something happens to your mother, I will take care of you". I want to make clear that I was NOT looking for him to "take care of me". However, I posted on here in the past, how he put me in harms way, with what he did to me with my taxes, and how that affected me. The man paid huge sums of money to save his ass, to clients, after he did unethical things, money that came off my mom's hide, in the divorce. In reality, he did a major amount of damage to me. So, while I told him I appreciated his offer, my mom said she felt it would be appro-po.
I know I should never have reconciled with him in 2009. A shrink I once saw told me I need to take care of myself, emotionally. I was not watching out for myself emotionally when I went back with him in 2009. In reality, he should have left well enough alone, and not asked to see me. His thing was he wanted me to suck up to his family, unconditionally, after his brother had a hand in the end of our family, and told me that he told my father not to see me, and, after my father's wife married him, not caring that we were estranged, and then shot her mouth off, that I should "Call" my estranged grandmother and uncle, without knowing the facts.
Emotionally, its over. My father has now cut the last shread. I hope God spares my mom for a long time, and I wish he and that wench hell on earth for how they have both behaved to me. Hopefully, a force greater then me will get even with him for his crimes against me.
Alan, one day I hope you burn in hell. You deserve it!
Mitch
