Alright, still in the early stages of my blog about Bella's Birthday Bash...but in the meantime something else has been on my mind.
Friendships. Now I am very blessed to have a lot of great friends online and offline. And sometimes having a lot of friends can be a task. Trying to please everyone all the time. It can be not only difficult, but ultimately impossible. So it is not a bad thing to do the best you can and let the rest just fall in line.
If people can not understand the choices you make and become less friendly with you because of your choices, well what can you do.
Now understand, I will always be friends with anyone in my life, whether they only have use for me 3 hours, 3 days, or 3 months out of the year. And I am well aware that sometimes people grow apart. So I guess that is why I am ok when people I was close to decide to give the "brush off" for a while or perhaps permanently . Because I know they are still a friend, just perhaps they do not need me in the same way anymore. I will cherish the times we did have and look forward to a time where again I may be needed, or always have the memories of the time we did share.
You know some people would get upset, mad or even break off friendships. Not me. I understand completely. I may not be a smart man but I know that sometimes friendships ebb and flow depending on situations. I accept that.
I certainly know I am not the easiest person to be close to for a long time. Heck the friends I have had the longest probably have been so because we do not hang out all the time, are hundreds of miles away and over the years have adapted to my......annoyance, to put it mildly.
But in my 37 years I have learned 3 important things about friendships.
1. You can never have too many.
2. Not everyone has to know everything.
Most importantly......
3. Its not the quantity of time spent, but the quality of it.
I know there are casual friendships, close friendships and special friendships. And all 3 of them are great. And again, friendships will go all of these phases. Perhaps not all, but most.
I guess in the long run I realize that people change, feelings change and not everyone is going to see the things the same way.
And I'm okay with that.
As long as I stay true, I'm doing my part.
And when the time comes that I am needed, I'll act like nothing had ever changed, help them through what they need and cherish that time again, and hope it lasts a little longer.
Friendships. Now I am very blessed to have a lot of great friends online and offline. And sometimes having a lot of friends can be a task. Trying to please everyone all the time. It can be not only difficult, but ultimately impossible. So it is not a bad thing to do the best you can and let the rest just fall in line.
If people can not understand the choices you make and become less friendly with you because of your choices, well what can you do.
Now understand, I will always be friends with anyone in my life, whether they only have use for me 3 hours, 3 days, or 3 months out of the year. And I am well aware that sometimes people grow apart. So I guess that is why I am ok when people I was close to decide to give the "brush off" for a while or perhaps permanently . Because I know they are still a friend, just perhaps they do not need me in the same way anymore. I will cherish the times we did have and look forward to a time where again I may be needed, or always have the memories of the time we did share.
You know some people would get upset, mad or even break off friendships. Not me. I understand completely. I may not be a smart man but I know that sometimes friendships ebb and flow depending on situations. I accept that.
I certainly know I am not the easiest person to be close to for a long time. Heck the friends I have had the longest probably have been so because we do not hang out all the time, are hundreds of miles away and over the years have adapted to my......annoyance, to put it mildly.
But in my 37 years I have learned 3 important things about friendships.
1. You can never have too many.
2. Not everyone has to know everything.
Most importantly......
3. Its not the quantity of time spent, but the quality of it.
I know there are casual friendships, close friendships and special friendships. And all 3 of them are great. And again, friendships will go all of these phases. Perhaps not all, but most.
I guess in the long run I realize that people change, feelings change and not everyone is going to see the things the same way.
And I'm okay with that.
As long as I stay true, I'm doing my part.
And when the time comes that I am needed, I'll act like nothing had ever changed, help them through what they need and cherish that time again, and hope it lasts a little longer.
