My GF isn't Ticklish :(

Alright, so I've got kind of a sad story, and am open to any suggestions. My girlfriend and I have been dating on and off for about 15 months - and one of the reasons why is because I couldn't open up about my tickling fetish. This last breakup we had over the holidays was rough, and I finally decided to tell her the truth because I'd rather have her know the truth than think we broke up for other reasons. I told her about my tickling fetish, and the reasons why I never could get in a 'serious' relationship with her in the past. She didn't mind at all, and even said that she already had thought I might've had a thing for tickling.... damn, I was excited.

However, now we've tried a few times to start up the tickling sessions... and she just isn't really that ticklish! I've done research on these forums to increase sensitivity - I've tried lotion, restraint, 'tickle talk', and all different types of tickling with my fingers. I get literally NO reaction on the feet, and an occasional reaction on the underarms and sides. I truly really care for her, but it's rough knowing I can't tickle her...

At this point, we're open to really any suggestions... she's upset because she can't fullfill my fantasies, and I'm just frustrated that nothing works. PLEASE HELP!

I feel your pain because I have dated a girl that was not very ticklish and its kind of a bummer but after much experimenting the things I found to be affective were
writing on her feet with like a pencil or something but you have to be careful not to hurt them use a dull colored pencil or something. Also if you start at the heel and work your way up the outside of the foot and go across under the toes that is medically supposed to get a reflex and I find that it usually tickles.
Oddly enough she was ticklish behind her knees...I think all girls have spots they might not have been tickled before so I used to suck on the back of her knee I know that sounds silly but she would go nuts.
Third. . the inner thigh in my experience is one of the most intense places to tickle a girl. You have to kind of squeeze gently and move around from out to in to find where it gets them but there is usually some reaction.
Also I me a girl who was not ticklish at all and I used to squeeze her calf on the inside. If you pinch like an inch or two inside the calf not too hard but with decent pressure that is usually a winner. Good luck with your girlfriend and dont forget to try fast unexpected tickles I think when people arent ready it makes it worse.

Well first off, you made a bad decision by going out with her before finding out if she was ticklish. if anything, you should have tested the waters immediately before getting too deep into a relationship.

If shes not ticklish then thats just the way it is, you cannot change that.

But if you care about her THAT much, then you need to ask yourself whats more important, I would hate to see you throw away someone you care about over something like this.

Fetishes arnt everything, the girl Ive loved the most so far in my life wasnt ticklish at all either, Right now I get sessions here and there and its good but I would trade it all to be in love like I was before.

Thanks for the responses so far.

Ohmaletickler - I will definitley try some of those techniques... I need to invest in some tickle toys - because there's a possibility the vibration from an electric toothbrush will add something. I will also try writing on her soles with a dull pencil.

Maniac - I hear you, and I did somewhat. The occasional tickle on the sides usually worked, and I suppose that was 'enough' for me. Oh well, learned my lesson I guess.

Haribish - I kind of have a bad feeling about that. Luckily, I have these forums to keep me entertained for now. I've had another girl in my life during the times we broke up that I would sometimes go to who is extremely ticklish, and enjoys it. BUT, I always end up missing my gf - so I hear ya on how important love actually is. One good thing I have going for me is that she knows about my fetish, is willing to try just about anything, so I have some time to try some different things if need be. Hell, even the minor reactions I get on her sides and underarms is enough to keep me happy! Too bad I'm a foot-man though lol.

Thanks guys, still open to any other tickling suggestions to increase sensitivity - we will be trying nylons too sooner than later. I also have another idea... but it will take some time because I need my 4 other roomates out of the house before we can try it...

ohmaletickler18 said:

Also if you start at the heel and work your way up the outside of the foot and go across under the toes that is medically supposed to get a reflex and I find that it usually tickles.

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Yes, you do that by taking a sharp object and scratching the foot on the lateral side from the dorsal to the ventral side of the foot and when you reach the area under toes you continue the motion in a medial direction. This should cause the toes to curl but if you get a different response, the toes point upward, that's a sign of cerebral hemorrhage.

I have not seen any mention of nylons try sheer hose 2 hands on one foot and tickle tops and bottoms of the ties fingers moving fast but light if her foot jerks you got her. As was said earlier inner thighs do the same way if it's not tickling it should still be torment in the area of a teasing frustration and as always in restraints. the outer edge of the foot with the nylons is also a good spot if you have nails use them lightly if not grow them a bit it works and try a blindfold so she don't know where your going next.

skattman87 said:

Thanks for the responses so far.

Ohmaletickler - I will definitley try some of those techniques... I need to invest in some tickle toys - because there's a possibility the vibration from an electric toothbrush will add something. I will also try writing on her soles with a dull pencil.

Maniac - I hear you, and I did somewhat. The occasional tickle on the sides usually worked, and I suppose that was 'enough' for me. Oh well, learned my lesson I guess.

Haribish - I kind of have a bad feeling about that. Luckily, I have these forums to keep me entertained for now. I've had another girl in my life during the times we broke up that I would sometimes go to who is extremely ticklish, and enjoys it. BUT, I always end up missing my gf - so I hear ya on how important love actually is. One good thing I have going for me is that she knows about my fetish, is willing to try just about anything, so I have some time to try some different things if need be. Hell, even the minor reactions I get on her sides and underarms is enough to keep me happy! Too bad I'm a foot-man though lol.

Thanks guys, still open to any other tickling suggestions to increase sensitivity - we will be trying nylons too sooner than later. I also have another idea... but it will take some time because I need my 4 other roomates out of the house before we can try it...

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hey man, absolutely hats off. it takes a lot of courage to really be honest with someone... i think it says a lot that the two of you are trying to work through this and it seems as though each of you genuinely cares. as has been stated, there are certain erogenous zones that will usually prove to get a very good response even from those who proclaim not to be ticklish...

i just have three suggestions...

1.) be very very creative. i know that as lers we may have prefered spots to tickle but the human body (especially the female body) is loaded with tons of secret little places that can prove to be the answer to all your demonic tickle prayers. don;t be afraid to experiment with the very very unconventional... it may underneath the cleft of her buttocks or the crease of her thighs and pelvis instead of the soles of her feet that finds that happy tickle medium.

2.) tickle vids are just that. in reality all girls react differently to tactile stimulation. everyone would love to be blessed with an insanely ticklish screamer who can climax from intense bondage and tickle torture alone over and over again but i think they only made 5 or 6 of them and somehow viper found the first four... the fact that she is nurturing enough to cater to your little kink is a huge step in the big picture of things... how loud she laughs or how much she struggles may not be the biggest part of our interest... as you try to find spots where she is more ticklish i think that it is also important for you and US as lers to also take more pleasure in the more sensual side of tickle relishing in the sheer pleasure that a feather may cause the person we care about aside from just the unbearable torment that we fantasize about....


3.) CHEAT! when fingers fail that's why god made toothbrushes hairbrushes etc... vibrators are good for all occasions and certain orgfaces you never thought were allocated for OTHER endeavors might prove to be the place of greatest sensual torment for her. and if all else truly fails... there is the doomsday button. even the most frigid (when it comes to being ticklish) will express that a climax or several increases sensitivity in all parts of the body to the point of creating spontaneous ticklishness in several key areas... even if it doesn't work i am sure that it will be the most fun to try... and BLINDFOLDS are huge

Okay so i'm lost ...

You love tickling.
She's not ticklish.
This is ruining the relationship?

I understand you have a tickle fetish, I mean thats why you're here, but is this post to try and find a way to MAKE her more ticklish? Or is it simply a post saying you're sad because shes not.

I'm just having a blonde moment lol

mammers09 said:

Okay so i'm lost ...

You love tickling.
She's not ticklish.
This is ruining the relationship?

I understand you have a tickle fetish, I mean thats why you're here, but is this post to try and find a way to MAKE her more ticklish? Or is it simply a post saying you're sad because shes not.

I'm just having a blonde moment lol

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Yes, he's wondering how to make her more ticklish.

People here are often convinced that when somebody isn't ticklish, it's because they're not being tickled right Sometimes it's true, but generally it's just wishful thinking among fetishists.

Skattman, hopefully your situation falls under the "sometimes it's true" category!

LD_Tickler said:

Yes, he's wondering how to make her more ticklish.

People here are often convinced that when somebody isn't ticklish, it's because they're not being tickled right Sometimes it's true, but generally it's just wishful thinking among fetishists.

Skattman, hopefully your situation falls under the "sometimes it's true" category!

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OH!
Well in that case...

I have not a case ... I got nothin.

What is she faked it? It's better than nothing, right?

The only gf I told about my fetish was only a little ticklish. Once I told her, I noticed a suspicious increase in her reactions. She was obviously exaggerating her ticklishness for me, but bless her, it definitely worked!

Im not a believer in trying to make a person more ticklish. sure there are some techniques that might help a tad, but the bottom line is, your either ticklish or your not. period.

skattman87 said:

Haribish - I kind of have a bad feeling about that. Luckily, I have these forums to keep me entertained for now. I've had another girl in my life during the times we broke up that I would sometimes go to who is extremely ticklish, and enjoys it. BUT, I always end up missing my gf - so I hear ya on how important love actually is. One good thing I have going for me is that she knows about my fetish, is willing to try just about anything, so I have some time to try some different things if need be. Hell, even the minor reactions I get on her sides and underarms is enough to keep me happy! Too bad I'm a foot-man though lol.

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Has she ever been ticklish in her past, when younger? Its *possible* but not a garnetee, that she could get hypnotised and after time, feel at ease enuf to regain sensation once lost, if she was before, if she never was then its doubtful you will have much luck.

How many times have you tried, and do you get her nice and warmed to the situation first? Sometimes it takes the right frame of mind to pull those sensations out of someone, and soetimes that takes practise, She knows you and is comfortable with you, but has she yet become comfortable with what you are doing to her? is she comfortable with herself in that situation yet.

All things to consider, good luck with it all, I hope that it goes well whether you manage to find a way to enjoy ticlking more or whether you settle for your feelings over all else

If you love her mate, then her not being ticklish is definitely not a good enough reason to break up. Believe me, you will know it when she's gone.

Wow - first off, thanks for all of the support! I have definitley been enlightened about my situation along with some new ideas and explainations for things....

MasterPaladin - Nylons have absolutely escaped my mind! I had tried the lotion, but I bet the nylons give a different sensation. I have tried the pelvic region with success, but I will try the inner thighs if she is comfortable with that. I suppose my real upset is the feet because I'm a footman - so I hope the nylons will help!!! I will also go for different areas of the feet with different techniques/tools!

Monster - Thanks for the kind words, it took me 15 months to open up to her about it, and I don't regret it at all! When I was without her, I was just missing her, and I have realized love is more important than tickling. I have taken advantage of those other creative spots, and can almost always get a reaction out of her underarms and pelvic bone/hip region. I need to realize that is a blessing in itself. I suppose I'm just caught up on the feet not being ticklish because I'm a footman. I will definitley try to cheat and invest in some tickle tools, along with possibly going for the doomsday button. It's funny you bring up Viper, because he is the man, and truly puts my fantasies into video. I would really like to tie her up/blindfold, please her, and then tickle her - but she is still new to this, so I'm going slow. I know for a fact that the doomsday button makes her ultra sensitive, so I have a lot of hope in that theory. I will also have to get a blindfold! Understandably, I have only come out in the open about 2 weeks ago, so we haven't had too many sessions, and guess I just wanted some advice. You definitley assured me in my efforts! Thank you!

Mammers - Yes, I thought I could MAKE her more ticklish/sensitive, but I'm beginning to believe it's more of a comfort/care/love thing first, and then tickling play comes after! Because the fact that she's so open and comfortable with my fetish to begin with, I'm very grateful and appreciative!

LDTickler - Because we are both relatively new at actually doing this, I do still have hope of her being ticklish. She said she was very ticklish as a child under her arms, and her mom would take advantage of that - so I'm hoping to spark that back up. There is a possibility I'm not doing it as well, but I have had 3 past girlfriends since high school who were easily ticklish without any restraint or special attention. Over the past 15 months we've been dating, I THINK I have caught her faking it, especially when intoxicated - laughing uncontrollably and giggling... and yes, that definitley did it for me too, haha. If all else fails, I'm sure she'll understand and occasionally let me tie her up and she'll 'fake' it, but I still have hope!!! Thanks for the suggestion!

Maniactickler - that could be the case, but I will not give up hope. She used to be ticklish when she was younger, and I can usually get a ticklish reaction out of her underarms and pelvic bone/hip region. I guess I'm just bitter about her feet not being ticklish...

Haribish - You have definitley put a different perspective on things for me. In my past gfs, I never really had to put much effort into setting the scene because they were so very ticklish and I didn't need restraint (and was too shy to suggest it). In this case, it has only been 2 weeks since we've actively been tickling, and we've only had about 3 actual sessions. She said she used to be very ticklish when she was younger, and her mom used to torment her underarms (I can easily get a reaction here), but she was a soccer player/CC runner, so I'm thinking maybe that had tarnished her ticklishness on her feet? I need to warm her up into the right mindset, and make sure she is comfortable in this situation. I'm thinking of letting her tie me up and tickle me so she knows that I'm completely comfortable with her and the situation - and maybe also to show her how aroused I get over it! lol. Thank you for your insight, and I will keep updating this post.

Sean - I've definitley realized love is more important than tickling, but I won't just give up my fetish all together! I need to compromise, if all else fails, at least she lets me play with her and gives it her all!

Thanks again to all of you for your support! I will keep this open to further suggestions, but I really want her to read these posts/replies to maybe give her some more insight on where I'm coming from and hopefully not freak her out! I'm not sure if she understands how supportive and caring all of these members are! I will keep this updated, and maybe even introduce her into the community once she feels comfortable about it! One thing that is always good, is she likes tickling me

il look forward to hearing about your progress