Does your SO know about the TMF?

I'm sure this has been discussed before, but I'm curious about people's experience. Mainly I'm asking people who are in serious, long-term, committed relationships - does your Significant Other know about your activity on the TMF? I imagine this is unique in every relationship and is never black and white, but maybe breaks down into categories something like this:

a) My partner is on the TMF too.

b) My partner knows about the TMF and embraces me being on it.

c) My partner knows about the TMF and doesn't like it but accepts it.

d) My partner doesn't know about the TMF but I don't really do anything "naughty" on here, it's more for community and discussion.

e) My partner doesn't know about the TMF and it's probably a good thing, because (s)he wouldn't want to know what I do on here.

I ask because I'm in a loving relationship with a wonderful girl who embraces my tickling fetish and is pretty liberal-minded when it comes to sexuality. She has said to me that she believes looking at porn is a natural, healthy thing for all human beings - men and women - and is certainly not conventional or conservative in most ways. She does, however, have a mean jealous streak, which is the main reason why I haven't told her much about the TMF.

I think she understands the "porn" piece - looking at tickling pictures and videos or reading stories - and while she may not completely be thrilled about the idea of me doing that, I think she probably has some sense that I do and is okay with that.

The "discussion/community" piece is an evolving one for me - I'm posting more these days than I used to, and am starting to see that this forum offers something in the way of self-understanding - or at least some aspect of community to discuss something that I'm incredibly passionate about and is a huge part of me, but none of my "vanilla" friends can relate to. My girlfriend would probably understand this piece too, if I explained it.

I've posted a few true stories about her and I'm not sure how she'd feel about that - I'd never ever post a pic or video or use her real name - and I basically feel driven/inspired to do it because I feel that only people who are into tickling could possibly understand how amazing some of the tickling experiences I've heard about or had are. I'm also pretty sure she would NOT like that I've occasionally posted stories about past gf's - mostly posted before I was with her, I think.

I also am pretty sure she would not be into me chatting - which she's expressed to me before - it's something I do rarely and when I do it, again, it's pretty much always about her and stories about her these days - something about that I'm just into right now. I'm never chatting to actually meet up with someone, and very rarely these days is it even to get off on thoughts about the person I'm actually chatting with. Again, it's more like community/sharing experiences....with certainly a sexual edge.

So I'm curious what others think....about your own situations, and about my situation. I'm not necessarily looking for moral counseling here, but more wanting to hear about how other genuine human relationships are working. I think I've often idealized relationships in the sense of never wanting to hide anything and always being completely true/faithful....and I still feel that way - but I also want to be realistic and not naive. On the one hand, someone could see my TMF activity as a "secret life", on the other hand, you could say it's totally normal and healthy - and fine not to share with my girlfriend.

Thanks for reading.

My wife is a member here and attends gatherings.....

My boyfriend knows about TMF and that I go on here to chat and stuff but he doesn't have an account lol. He knows about my tickling/bondage fetish too obviously.

I don't have a significant other technically, but when I did, she didn't know about TMF unless she stumbled across it on my PC and never let me know she knew. Currently, I'm single however, there's an individual that I'm pretty tight with and approaching that level per se. She knows about TMF and LOVES IT!!! Went with me to NEST and thoroughly enjoys my tickling her and participates actively on the forum. Believe you me, completely different experience from what I was doing before and TOTALLY AWESOME!!! Have surpassed anything I've ever thought I'd be able to actually experience from a tickling perspective and still going to infinity and beyond (yea I know, that was corny). Just my experience over the last few yrs, from former SO to where I'm at now.

f) My partner knows about the TMF and doesn't care whatsoever.

Well as of now my right hand AKA SO are not speaking to eachother but yes she knows about it and doesn't like all the overtime she has to put in .

My SO is a TMF member too.

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oh she knows! And posts every now and then

Ayla has been a member here a little longer than I have, LoL!

And there's no way I'd even consider going back to having a vanilla partner, not after having dated within the Tickling Community. After I wasted 13 years married to one of the most ticklish women on the planet, and being made to feel like a dirty pervert anytime tickling came up, I was blessed to discover that I'm not the only one into all this. To have someone in your life is nice, but to have someone who tolerates this about you is almost icky, compared to having someone to SHARE it all with. I can't imagine being shackled in a relationship where someone *humors* you by allowing you to indulge in this aspect of your personality. No way I'd go back. Too many wonderful and ticklish ladies here who love to laugh and actually appreciate all of this, instead of expecting you to change who you were before you met now that you're a couple. What a waste.

My significant other knows about the TMF, and while she doesn't necessarily approve of it, I think we've reached an unspoken understanding. I keep to myself (relatively), and do not totally obsess, and she ignores the fact that it exists.

On one hand, I don't think it's ideal, because I want to share more of this part of my life with her. At the same time, I don't know if I'd be exactly comfortable if she joined up tomorrow and starting chatting away. Perhaps it's best the way it is.

He knew. But when we were together, I wasnt very active on here. Once we seperated, I opened up and really joined the forum.

Lou knows that i joined, and loves it, but he has not signed up for his own account as of just yet. We did, however, both lurk here for a bit prior to taking the eventual leap and joining.

I don't have a SO which means but if I did, I would hope they would be open to joining TMF

At the present moment in time I'm not in a relationship. When I was my SO didn't know about TMF, because at the time when we were still an item, I wasn't a member. Since then I've joined and I owe great thanks to a very special friend of mine who introduced me to TMF. So obviously he's a member and he knows that I'm very active on here. We both greatly bask in the joys of tickling (me being the lee, and him being the ler) , and we also have an awesome understanding of what it means to us both. Things have and continue to be wonderful between us, so who knows what will happen next .

My girlfriend joined the TMF but only has a few posts; she almost never visits. She's attended 3 NESTs with me.

D.....My current ex at the moment had no idea about the tmf, but very well knows about my fetish

g) SO knows about it (It's on my toolbar) and hasn't checked it out as far as I know? She's the one buying bondage stuff now.