In the past month I have joined multiple online dating sites. I just don't understand what I am doing wrong and need to vent. I'm a 52 year old average looking guy but I have my shit together and for all intents and purposes I am a good catch and know how to hold a decent, respectable conversation with someone online. A few days ago I was messaging with a 50 year old lady who seemed very genuine. We exchanged messages for 3 days and the flow of conversation was good. I logged in the next morning and our message history was gone which means she either blocked me, got banned or deleted her profile. Now I am sitting here thinking WTF? No explanation, just gone. Not that she owed me a thing but still frustrating and rude. I wasn't expecting this from a 50 year old lady in college studying psychology. LOL. Maybe it was some sort of experiment for her classes? Whatever.
Tonight I was on another site and messaged a lady who had a great profile. She messaged me back and we proceeded to have a nice conversation for over 2.5 hrs. Messaging on dating sites is in turtle mode. Maybe we had a dozen messages each over that time period. I finally sent her a message saying:
"I am very interested in you. What is your preference for getting to know each other a bit more? My preference would be to message for a day or two and then exchange phone numbers so we can have a few conversations and plan a date when we feel comfortable".
That was the end of that. Are you F'n kidding me? I don't get it. What was wrong with that? Ladies, please give me your thoughts. Was that pushy. I don't think it was at all.
For any of you who might be using online dating currently or have used it in the past, what is the secret to getting an actual date and not just messaging back and forth and it going nowhere? I feel if I am too laid back and wait for that one or two messages per day that she will start messaging somebody else and I lose out. On the other hand if I express my interest in a lady she flakes out and disappears.
I am talking with one lady currently and it is moving at the pace of a sloth on benadryl. She made a comment that online dating is like trying to nail jello to a wall. LMFAO. So true.
Tonight I was on another site and messaged a lady who had a great profile. She messaged me back and we proceeded to have a nice conversation for over 2.5 hrs. Messaging on dating sites is in turtle mode. Maybe we had a dozen messages each over that time period. I finally sent her a message saying:
"I am very interested in you. What is your preference for getting to know each other a bit more? My preference would be to message for a day or two and then exchange phone numbers so we can have a few conversations and plan a date when we feel comfortable".
That was the end of that. Are you F'n kidding me? I don't get it. What was wrong with that? Ladies, please give me your thoughts. Was that pushy. I don't think it was at all.
For any of you who might be using online dating currently or have used it in the past, what is the secret to getting an actual date and not just messaging back and forth and it going nowhere? I feel if I am too laid back and wait for that one or two messages per day that she will start messaging somebody else and I lose out. On the other hand if I express my interest in a lady she flakes out and disappears.
I am talking with one lady currently and it is moving at the pace of a sloth on benadryl. She made a comment that online dating is like trying to nail jello to a wall. LMFAO. So true.