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Why is having friends so important to most people?



*sigh* The more we continue to keep this thread going though by posting, the more we...

Ummmm.

Wait. Shit. I just bumped it. :facepalm2:
 
NonCon, I'm more interesting in knowing your motive for even opening up this thread. Is it really to gain insight to how we live in the real world, or is it a way to justify your way of living? If it's the latter, really you could've spared us; if it's the former then here is my answer:

Part of human nature is a need to fill a sense of belonging. We fill that with people who can enhance our lives, not cripple them. We don't have to get along all the time; to be exact, you can guarantee that at times we won't. But it's better to have them in your life then not, then you've found a true friend.

If you don't have that desire, that's okay just as long as you let anyone you closely associate with how you think and feel. I'm a firm believer in not wasting anyone's time-not mine's or theirs; if they think your theories on life and relationships are okay, more power to them. But I'm inclined to believe that mindset is held by a small minority. I would advise you to go find those who think as you do, but you all would be too narcissicistic to befriend and get along.

If you want change, then make the steps to do so. If you're gaining knowledge and perspective, that's okay too. But it is not just the knowledge, but the APPLICATION of the knowledge that gives us power in this world. Otherwise, it's just a gathering of information that never goes anywhere.
 
1. Humans are naturally gregarious.

2. I like having friends cause I get to choose them. Family your stuck with.
 
NonConTickler said:
I don't understand why having friends is so important to most people, and that if you have no friends there's something "wrong" with you. I have no friends. There are people I talk to at work and I don't count them as friends. I have come to realize that all my life I have only seen people as a means to an end, but when I was younger (I'm 35) I didn't know how to put it into words. Even if I enjoy someone's company, they are a means to an end. I am using them to make me feel good. The end result is always how I feel. I have had friends in the past, and I found it inconvenient because eventually I would do something they didn't like or vice versa. I would have to "compromise" and do things I didn't always feel like doing. I don't think there is anything "wrong" with me just because I have made the rational decision that if I have to take the bad times with the good times when it comes to having friends, that I would rather not have either. I don't think there is anything "wrong" with making the rational decision to pass up any good times with people, in order to avoid the bad times. It's just a matter of priorities. To most people I guess, the good times are a higher priority so the bad times are worth it. To me, avoiding things the feel unpleasant as much as humanly possible is my highest priority in life. To me there isn't anything "wrong" with having made that rational decision.
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hmm, you know, to me it sounds as if you do care about friendships a lot. You're not the kind of person who would care for having hundreds of 'friends' who are actually just acquaintances, but you would care for a 'real' friend and they would mean a lot to you, but you haven't been lucky so far. You've been badly hurt and you're scared to death that might happen again. I can't think of any other reason why anyone would pass up the good times just to avoid the pain.
When was the last time you were happy or had fun?
 
subtle_feather said:
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:man: It's hard to express much better.
 
Did any of the rest of you notice a pattern with noncontickler?

He makes the thread. Makes a few sparse responses to get the shit factory started.

Then he dosen't post again even if the thread baloons up to ten or more pages.

I'm just sayin' is all...
 
Why is it that most nihilists always turn out to usually just be narcissists?
 
MrMacphisto said:
Why is it that most nihilists always turn out to usually just be narcissists?
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Main Entry: ni·hil·ism
Pronunciation: \ˈnī-(h)ə-ˌli-zəm, ˈnē-\
Function: noun
Etymology: German Nihilismus, from Latin nihil nothing — more at nil
Date: circa 1817
1 a: a viewpoint that traditional values and beliefs are unfounded and that existence is senseless and useless b: a doctrine that denies any objective ground of truth and especially of moral truths
2 a: a doctrine or belief that conditions in the social organization are so bad as to make destruction desirable for its own sake independent of any constructive program or possibility bcapitalized : the program of a 19th century Russian party advocating revolutionary reform and using terrorism and assassination

When you look up narcissism it just refers you to two synonymns, egoism and egocentrism
Main Entry: ego·ism
Pronunciation: \ˈē-gə-ˌwi-zəm, -gō-ˌi- also ˈe-\
Function: noun
Date: 1800
1 a: a doctrine that individual self-interest is the actual motive of all conscious action b: a doctrine that individual self-interest is the valid end of all actions
2: excessive concern for oneself with or without exaggerated feelings of self-importance — compare egotism 2

If one believes as I do that existence is senseless and useless, one can logically see that the only thing that is going to motivate such a person is the basest drives to seek pleasure and avoid pain, or self-interest. Avoiding pain of course, is much more important to the survival of the organism than seeking pleasure.
 
WTF xion?

"Whip it Out Wednesday?????":mwahaha:

Friends are one of the world's most amazing gifts ever! Why do you need us to explain this to you? Friends are a mirror to the kind of person that you are. I always say that my friends are the world's MOST amazing people~I'm so lucky to have them. Not only do they put up with me and all my "stuff," they hug me when I'm sad, are happy for my victories and are just...always there for me...to keep me grounded, keep me feeling appreciated, they value my opinions and ask my take on things. I know I'm rambling here, sort of stream of consciousness but I would literally kill myself if I had no friends. They just mean everything to me.
XOXO

xionking said:
Who needs friends when you have WoW?
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Fuck no, somebody different from y'all, better pounce and attack before he disrupts paradise.


Why is it important to have friends? So you aren't flaming alone when somebody different posts a genuine question.

/thread
 
Leo tickles said:
Fuck no, somebody different from y'all, better pounce and attack before he disrupts paradise.


Why is it important to have friends? So you aren't flaming alone when somebody different posts a genuine question.

/thread
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Except the odds of this being a genuine question are not good in the least.
The guy is a troll. He's not different, or unique, or special, he's just a creepy sociopath that likes stirring shit up.
 
NonConTickler said:
If one believes as I do that existence is senseless and useless, one can logically see that the only thing that is going to motivate such a person is the basest drives to seek pleasure and avoid pain, or self-interest. Avoiding pain of course, is much more important to the survival of the organism than seeking pleasure.
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Yeah, but if you believe existence is truly useless, why not just kill yourself?

I'm not trying to be facetious here. If I really felt that way, I'd be dead by now.
 
NonConTickler said:
I don't think there is anything "wrong" with me just because I have made the rational decision that if I have to take the bad times with the good times when it comes to having friends, that I would rather not have either. I don't think there is anything "wrong" with making the rational decision to pass up any good times with people, in order to avoid the bad times. It's just a matter of priorities. To most people I guess, the good times are a higher priority so the bad times are worth it. To me, avoiding things the feel unpleasant as much as humanly possible is my highest priority in life. To me there isn't anything "wrong" with having made that rational decision.
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Me thinks a therapist would disagreeeeeeeee.


slacker2114 said:
Words fail me. :sowrong:
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They don't fail me. I'm just not allowed to say them. 🙁
 
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