If you could get rid of your tickling fetish, would you?

Here's a question for y'all.

If you could have been born without your fetish for tickling/being tickled/watching tickling (or what have you), would you have preferred that to your current situation.

That is, you would have only normal sexual interests that would appeal to the majority of people in society. You wouldn't miss your tickling fetish in the same way that you don't miss your eyelid fetish (i.e. you don't have an eyelid fetish and would view the tickling fetish in the same way as you now view am eyelid fetish)

For me, I'd rather not have this fetish. I might be a different person without it, but this fetish is restrictive in terms of opportunities to express it.

im torn on the issue...but, this type of thing is something I have to deal with on a day to day basis anyhow, so I guess I am glad im this way. Adversity builds character.

Not in less I exchanged it for another fetish, with out a fetish sex and probably life in general would just be so boring. Ok it might not always be easy to express but most of the other entreating stuff in life like snowboarding, sky diving and paintballing are also so expensive.

Yes, I would, in a heartbeat.

Cokecan said:

Yes, I would, in a heartbeat.

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aww coke whats wrong hon? and would i? no because never having experienced it yet, i havent become addicted to it. but want to so badly and btw i'm now an expert. not bad for a bit over one month huh

isabeau

Yes, it'd be nice to just like a girl's breasts and butt like a normal guy. -_-

My Disagreement (part 1 of 2)

The question implies that

-- There is something wrong with it, or,

-- There is a disorder present within the individual


There is a very subtle undertone to the question as well: it's a behavioral problem that needs to be cured; such as criminal activity or sexual misbehavior or workplace ethics.

If it's boy meets girl, and they share secret delights, is it a disorder that needs to be cured ? Good grief, I say we need MORE of that in our society.

My Full Agreement (part 2 of 2)

I am, however, in total paralell agreement with you about wishing that I didn't have this "restriction" on me; one which eliminates probably 97% of all romantic possibilities with members of the opposite sex.

I see two or three very divergent trains of thought here.

----1---- (Most of us) Male 'Lers who want a female 'Lee

Okay, so the woman participates in a passive manner, putting up with the man's desire in order to entice him into whatever role she desires. (Hint; this doesn't ever work, but it never stops anyway.) The male balances his aggressive instinct within the bounds of unwritten (and eternally variable) social rules of polite behavior. 97% of the time, it's a failure, and there is hurt in the minds of the non-Lee woman, and the very disgruntled man.

----2---- (2nd common) Female 'Lees who want a male 'Ler

Okay, so a man asks a woman out on a date, and she would love for him to take an opportunity to tickle her. She doesn't want to mention it to him, or maybe she wants it so bad she drops hints, or puts her bare feet near him, or wears something that invites attention to her abdomen or,,, whatever. The man, in turn, ignores tickling and goes for instant sex, or takes her out for show and tell (showing off his catch to his buddies and telling her about all of his exploits) or he demands that the woman be an unpaid psychotherapist, or whatever; but whatever does happen, no fingertip ever touches her toes or abdomen or ribs, or anything. 97% of the time, she winds up feeling like a rejected prostitute who didn't make the grade, while he leaves her; complaining that women have defective brains.


----3---- (Less Common) F/M practicioners

Think and be resonable: you just about have to sympathize with the non-TK world when you consider the reaction which must be going on in the mind of, say, a non-TK woman when the guy tells the unsuspecting non-TK girl that he wants her to tie him down and tickle him. Conversely, I'm trying to imagine a non-TK man's reaction when this enticing woman tells him that her innermost desire is to place him in bondage for prolonged tickling.



So now, Let's do some common sense math...

If a dating relationship takes 3 months to exist, and it takes 4 or 5 months to find another dating relationship, and if we 'Lers/'Lees have a 3% chance of connecting through conventional real life dating, then a person will need about 18 or 19 years of dating to find a 'Ler/'Lee relationship. Now, anybody want to make this into a permanent life ? Anybody want to consider the word "marriage" as still viable on planet earth today ? Assume that you need to date 3 or 4 compatible people (meaning 'Ler/'Lee orientation matches) in order to find a spouse whom you won't divorce in 7.8 years or less, and I think the numbers work out to finding the love of your life when you are somewhere around age 80 or 90.

That is, if you begin your search early enough.

So yes, if this were not a part of me, the chances of finding a woman with whom to spend a happy life would be increased by something like, what ? 30 ? 100 ? 200 ? Whatever the numbers work out to be, you get the idea.

I have to say , this is a good question.

Tickling is a very frustrating fetish to have because you need a partner to truly enjoy the fetish. If you're a LEE , then I'm assuming that tickling yourself ( if it's possible at all) is no fun. If you're a LER ... & most of us are M/F LERS ... then it is very difficult to find someone who is willing to be a LEE.

Even if you find someone who shares a tickling fetish , there are so many variables involved : do you like their laugh/reaction? are they ticklish where you like to tickle? do they have pretty enough feet? etc. ...... or for a LEE : does the LER tickle too rough? is the tickling not intense enough? does the LER not tickle in the spot you WANT to be tickled? etc.

Also , I think about all the money I've spent to buy tickle-videos & such to help ... "satisfy" ... this want & need to experience anything tickling. Could that money have been used for something else or more responsibly? You betcha! ..... And even when you watch a tickle-video , all you want to do when your finished watching it is to have someone to REALLY tickle that much more!

However , with all the negatives & frustration that can go along with having a tickling fetish , I would have to say that I'm glad I have this fetish & if I had to do it again , I'd keep it. True , I haven't had the pleasure of tickling women nearly as much as I'd like to ( 'cause if I could have tickling in my life everyday, I would ) , but when I have tickled ... it is one of the most enjoyable experiences in the friggin' world ........ & I wouldn't trade that in for anything.

Yeah but if you were attracted to something else you could get that same feeling from something much more attainable.

Nope, I wouldn't change a thing!
XOXO

Newcastle Uni said:

Here's a question for y'all.

If you could have been born without your fetish for tickling/being tickled/watching tickling (or what have you), would you have preferred that to your current situation.

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Dude -

P50 said:

The question implies that

-- There is something wrong with it, or,

-- There is a disorder present within the individual


There is a very subtle undertone to the question as well: it's a behavioral problem that needs to be cured; such as criminal activity or sexual misbehavior or workplace ethics.

If it's boy meets girl, and they share secret delights, is it a disorder that needs to be cured ? Good grief, I say we need MORE of that in our society.

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You're a law student/lawyer, right? Or psych student? Philosophy, maybe?

i'd dump it in a heartbeat

Having this tickle fetish is torture! Especially for a guy. There is almost no chance of finding a female who is into it because the amount of guys into it so far out weigh the girls. I have been trying for years to find someone to share this with and it is just plain hopeless. If you date a girl without the fetish she thinks you are a freak, and if you PM a girl from the TMF she just thinks you are just another one of the 100s of losers PMing her. I know that if I could meet a girl from here they would see that I'm a good guy, but it is difficult to find someone that will give you a chance. That is really hard since normally I have no problems finding women to date. It is just this one thing that holds me back from having a great relationship.

In short, I'd lose the fetish in a heartbeat!

Yeah, very few girls are into being tickle dominated. And you've got really no chance of setting up a relationship with someone on this forum. So just do without it. A lot people think that all fetishes are just innate desires we can never get rid off. I used to be a total foot tickling freak, but after going out with different women I'm more turned on by a girl's stomach than by her feet. And not to tickle either, I just think they're hot. My last g/f even got me into furries. The only time I ever indulge my tickling fetish is when I post here and like I said earlier, I'd be happy to just be gone with it.

I think that if I were a Ler, my answer would be yes. I would not want a fetish that requires me to torture anybody, however mildly. But being a lee is different because many if not most women enjoy tickling guys to whom they are close, under the right circumstances.

So no, I would not give up my love of being tickled, even were it possible.

Now why in all that is good would I want to do such a thing!

LOVE it too much to want to be rid of it.

Soooooo on that note.......NOPE! I like me just the way I am.

TickledToDeath said:

Now why in all that is good would I want to do such a thing!

LOVE it too much to want to be rid of it.

Soooooo on that note.......NOPE! I like me just the way I am.

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Actually I am a Gemini so I like both of me just the way we are!

i would have to say yes. Of coarse it can't magically disappear so i just do the best i can. sometimes i fail in that, but its not all bad. Don't get me wrong.. i don't think of myself or others as odd because we have the fetish..everyone is wired different. All in all its a pretty harmless fetish that can be alot of fun. Just to answer the question though..i would chose to not have the fetish just to make things simpler, but since that isnt going to happen..i'll still be happy to contribute whenever i get a chance to.

No Way! Absolutely Not! I loved surprising my girlfriends with a foot tickle that eventually got them hugging and kissing me when they weren't expecting to. "What are you doing?" they asked while giggling. I always replied to them "I knew you'd be wrapped around me like this. I love that reaction."

Most liked it. Some loved it! They even didn't mind being tied while being tickled. Only one comes to mind who was willing and tried but really couldn't take it. (She actually had the best and prettiest feet and she was beautiful.)

I love what I describe as 'An extra dimension of sexiness.' And I'm describing both of us at the same time!

My current lady is very ticklish and never knew about foot fetishes. But she learned fast and loves every minute of it. And so do I!!!

Ray<3tiklishft said:

No Way! Absolutely Not! I loved surprising my girlfriends with a foot tickle that eventually got them hugging and kissing me when they weren't expecting to. "What are you doing?" they asked while giggling. I always replied to them "I knew you'd be wrapped around me like this. I love that reaction."

Most liked it. Some loved it! They even didn't mind being tied while being tickled. Only one comes to mind who was willing and tried but really couldn't take it. (She actually had the best and prettiest feet and she was beautiful.)

I love what I describe as 'An extra dimension of sexiness.' And I'm describing both of us at the same time!

My current lady is very ticklish and never knew about foot fetishes. But she learned fast and loves every minute of it. And so do I!!!

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See this response I like, at least they where willing to give it a go and every one lived happily ever after.

if it were only that easy to live happily ever after. seems i cant have it all o well such is life

isabeau

Newcastle Uni said:

If you could have been born without your fetish for tickling/being tickled/watching tickling (or what have you), would you have preferred that to your current situation.

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No, I would not. I prefer my current situation, which is enjoying my interest (call it a fetish if you want to). 😀

I agree with Prime that it would be tough to get rid of but if I met the right girl who is not into tickling I would try to either get rid of it or be content with the occasional play tickle.

really interesting topic

I can't even begin to answer this question right now because I've been wondering pretty much the same thing recently and my answer changes almost by the minute.

But here's a thought - does it seem that those who are able to indulge their tickling fantasies with some regularity are the ones who would not want to give it up? And, of course, those who rarely or never get to play are the ones who would want it to just go away?

The above seems like common sense, I guess, though I have to say I think there are even complex issues involved sometimes, particularly for those who are in a more or less permanent relationship with a non-ticklefile.

Ah phooey. Nice timing on this one, Uni. Where's the alcohol?

TKLMAN said:

I'd keep it. True , I haven't had the pleasure of tickling women nearly as much as I'd like to ( 'cause if I could have tickling in my life everyday, I would ) , but when I have tickled ... it is one of the most enjoyable experiences in the friggin' world ........ & I wouldn't trade that in for anything.

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Don't forget TKLMAN. You would get that SAME most enjoyable experience from a more conventional sexual interest. Think about that great experience of tickling someone. Now imagine enjoying that experience five, ten even twenty times more often because you enjoy more normal and conventional sexual interests.