31/m, only tickling, never sex

[Lousy8411]

I have a question for everyone here who cares to answer: Im a 31/m and have never had sex with a woman mainly because I have just been more interested in tickling women than having sex with them. My interaction with women has mainly been paying strippers to let me tickle their feet, me going home into the bathroom and, yknow.... I mean, even when I....yknow...I cant fantasize about having sex with a woman, only tickling her. Ive tried. Its just not as exciting to me. I mean, if I wanted sex, I wouldve paid for sex. But I just wanted to tickle, so thats what I paid for. Anyway, my question to you is this: when I do find a woman that I wanna do more than tickle, how do I explain that Ive never had sex with a woman? How do I explain that I have no stories of ex-girlfriends to talk about, or do I make some up? Or do I just take the attitude "this is me, if she finds it weird or something, the hell with her, I'll just be alone"? I mean, Im certainly used to being alone, I've always been a bit of a loner, so it would be no big deal to me. I guess maybe I never matured past the stage of just wanting to make a girl squirm and thrash around by tickling her. Just wondering if anyone here can relate at all to what Im talking about. I doubt it. lol

 

[tactillianlover]

Even if you had no intention or desire to 'ride'
your stripper/tickle toy for hire, at some time
you probably had 'lead in the pencil', right?
(comment optional)

At some point did you not sense contemplation to climb
aboard, kiss the daylights out of her or spoon
or slam or play footsie?

Have a fantasy before ...ya'know. Imagine a woman,
perhaps one you know, and she is only ticklish after
she's been sex slammed against a wall or while
she is slammed by YOU against said wall, etc.


Mentally experiment...think of a woman you admire
and respect. Think of a woman who gets on your nerves
that you wish you did not respect. Or really do not
respect. The dream police are busy at the donut shop.

Do you date-not would you- do you?

Sniff that hair. Kiss that nape. Hold her close for
just one dance- you know, torture your libido!

Hope I'm not crude, I'm just inflecting off
the cuff...

 

[BlackmoonDoll]

Just tell your furture girl when you do get ready to do more then just ''tickle her''. That this is who you are and that you 120% honest have never had sex before with any woman at all and be up front and open with her and be truthful (that is the number one key). And she can take it or see it how she likes. If the girl is not worried about it that you have never had sex before then she might be a keeper for you to get to know more better on a one on one basis. But if you makes a big deal about it and rants and raves over it that you have never had sex before in your entire life then she is not gonna be one that you want to stick around and have a relationship with.

Its about trust communication and loving one another.


If a girl is gonna think of you as gay or that something is seriously wrong with you just because you have never once had sex with a woman in your whole life. Then she is not a girl that you would want to spend a relationship with. Is she?

Proble not. Because if the girl is gonna make a big deal over you never having sex with a woman then later on down the road think of all the other really major major things you and your future girl are going to be facing. Way more hurdles and road blocks then this.


Hope my advice helped you out



ps. This is just my personal view on things. But also be truely proud for the fact that you have never had sex yet Lousy8411 (Because MOST woman and guys have) in this Sex crazed Sex sells world of ours that we live in and call home. The world preaches have sex and lots of it you will be fine because after all everybody is doing it. But if you don't want to have sex with a girl or if in your heart you are really NOT ready then don't do it. Don't follow the worlds rules and thier standards for living and being happy

 

[toneus79]

Well yes I can relate to this entirely. For me Tickling is sex as such, whereas "normal" vanilla activities such as shagging/oral sex etc. do nothing for me whatsoever. Not only is that not conducive to long term relationships, but also many women I have been friends with over the years, seem to have instinctively picked up on the fact that I am not "shagging" material (even when I have tried to pretend I am) to the extent that this has prevented most relationships ever getting physical in any form.

Similarly to what you say I have fantasised about Tickling my entire life but have never once fantasised about having straight sex.

As I have gotten older (and probably thanks ultimately to the TMF community) I have given up on purges and trying to beat myself into being something that I am not. In essence accepting that Tickling Fetish is both a blessing and a curse, try to get what little Tickling action I can whenever/wherever, and live with the fact that I am probably going to remain single.

 

[Lousy8411]

Thanks for the responses. Maybe I should clairfy something. I definitely wouldn't go so far as to say that "conventional" sex doesn't excite me AT ALL. It's simply that, compared to tickling women, I haven't made having sex a priority. And I still don't think I could (sorry if this is vulgar) reach a climax while fantasizing about sex instead of tickling. But at some point, maybe in my early 20s, I found myself being transfixed by parts of the female anatomy that have nothing to do with tickling, which up until then was totally unlike me. Such as a woman with a nice round bottom in some tight jeans, or a busty woman in a tight dress (I like women in tight stuff). And about 8 years ago, I was french kissing with this goth girl that I was on a date with (I'm not goth, she just happened to be), and found when I went to get up to leave her dorm room, I had a bit of difficulty straightening up, if you know what I mean. Anyway, what I was mainly concerned with is, how to explain this to a woman that I love someday. That I simply haven't made having relationships or even just having sex with women a priority, because all I wanted to do was tickle women and so I just paid strippers to let me tickle their feet, rather than having to deal with dating women and them thinking I was weird. But as BlackMoonDoll said, if a woman can't get past something like this, then she just isn't the one for me. Thanks again everybody.