A Cautionary Tale from Miss Sophia Marie

[sophiamarie]

I met him a little over a year ago.It'll actually be our 1 year on Saturday. He is sweet, is funny, and is--or actually, was--superticklish.
Which is awesome. So awesome that I tickled him all day everyday. So much so that as of nine months ago, unless he is tied up on my bed, I can't tickle him to save my life.
It all started with a poke. An innocent, catalystic poke, his finger into my side. (okay, maybe I hinted a little bit about it beforehand...) And that's where it began.
Because, of course, I had to get him back. Which I did. He was the best lee ever, giggling and curled up on my bed. Unfortunatly I couldn't stop. His sides were the best, that and his feet, and he just looked so adorable.
By Mayish, it had slowly faded away into nothing.
Not that i don't still try. I frequently try his sides, armpits, feet, stomach. Usually the only reaction is on his feet, and it's a boring one too, with too much pulling away and not enough laughing. Tied up is a different story. He goes crazy when he's tied and tickled.
Sadly, though, it's not very appropriate to bring our "bondage neckties" out in public. The plus side is that he's' an incredible ler. The negative: i can't fight back at all. The other negative: Though I love being a lee, I'd like to ler once in a while just while sitting in the living room and watching tv, or out in the mall or something like that.

This is a cautionary tale for all you lee's and ler's out there. DON'T OVERDO IT!

Moderation is key. Take it from someone who knows.

I do miss the days of tickle fighting, not just a tickle attack...maybe it'll come back someday...

 

[Fire_Sprite]

Can your sensitivity really fade just from being tickled too much? Maybe it's a annual thing. The human body does some random stuff during seasonal changes. Although I suppose he should have come around by now.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Wow sorry to hear that. I didn't think it was possible but I guess I should know better to believe that truly anything is possible. Hope things pick up again for you.

 

[lemoncake]

Maybe it could be that it is a mood thing, I know sometimes if I am having a bad day or week or whatever I don't want to be touched at all. Or could it be that he expects tickling all the time? that it is getting too normal and too much of an every day routine kind of thing? I hope that the situation improves.

 

[Adam]

Odd. I don't really think it's that possible either. Might be a mentality thing too.

I agree. I had an ex who developed a sort of a mental block as it came to tickling. Perhaps this is the same thing.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

What's a bondage necktie?

 

[Em Es]

Sophia Marie . . .

Sophia Marie, your tale reminds me a of a thought I recently had: Would it be better to have a tickle buddy on the side, someone with whom tickling is the primary connection, as opposed to hinging all one's tickling desires on a lover? I mean, what are the chances in finding a partner that compatible when tickling is such a rare special interest? I wonder how many Tickling Media Forum participants are married to or dating someone who also likes tickling or at least satisifies the desire for the sake of the relationship.

Getting back to the points you raised:

I agree that too much of anything is no good, as you imply you overdid the tickling. But does that mean you can't recapture the heights of the excitement you had with this fellow if you don't constantly try to tickle him?

At least you know your gentleman friend's archilles heel, which is being tied to the bed. Imagine if you didn't at least have that ace up your sleeve!

Perhaps the dip in tickling pleasure reflects the relationship? Or would you say he and you still get along well?

 

[xSamanthax]

"Overstimulation numbs me...."

Yeah I think it can happen - too much of a good thing. But I also think it ends up being temporary if handled right. Some of it is physical. Some of it is psychological (and the root of that will depend on the person). You just end up in defensive mode all the time and some people just end up shutting down. Or you end up feeling like the tickling defines you completely and your other qualities are not seen or appreciated. Not a fun place to be for either person.

 

[sophiamarie]

He still tickles me CONSTANTLY. He really never stops. So now I know I've "converted" him. And if I catch him by surprise, it can work. He misses it too. The mentality for him is that if he knows he can defend himself, it doesn't tickle. I've even tried just holding his arms down, but he knows he can get free because he's stronger than me, so it doesn't work.

Our realtionship is great though, and emotionally I'm happy the way it is. And I'm not gonna break up with him or anything because of this, that would be ridiculous. I just miss the good old days.

and Marquis--I just meant the neckties we use to tie each other to the bedpost.

PS: He is an AMAZING ler though. Like, seriously, professional level.

 

[RavenMoon]

While over stimulation can occur, usually it is pertaining to time within a session. What happens more often than naught, and in various types of contact relationships including the vanilla, is things become routine.

There is a healthy dose of mental aspect to our physical pleasures. When the mind knows what is coming, it prepares a defense. Overtime, if it is the same onslaught, that defense becomes strong. The fact that he still goes nuts while tied points to this. When someone is tied, there is a degree of control that is lost, which weakens defenses off the bat. Additionally, you stated that he has turned into a good 'ler, again pointing to control, which is a mind sensation.

You may consider introducing some new element into your guys' lives. (I am assuming you two are in a relationship beyond friendship here.) Find out what else turns him on. See if you share any of those desires and vice versa. By changing the sensation and focus, his high ticklishness you adore may return.

Best wishes to you and yours...

 

[Em Es]

So it CAN happen!

Despite losing a little of the tickle excitement with your boyfriend, Sophia Marie, you say, "Our realtionship is great though, and emotionally I'm happy the way it is. And I'm not gonna break up with him or anything because of this, that would be ridiculous. I just miss the good old days."

I'd liken it to having sex every day versus just two or three times a week: The former is better than the latter, but the latter ain't bad!

Your story should encourage those out there hoping to hook up with someone who is compatible as both a lover and fellow tickling enthusiast.