A Loss Of Innocence ?

[DannyMc]

I'm not sure if this example applies , when I was young , in my childhood I found that I liked everyone , talked with everyone and trusted everyone . Now as an adult , I like people less , I trust people less and talk with people less . I suppose the things and people that enter our lives has alot to do with how we feel , but I can't help but think something very basic and so much needed gets lost ............

 

[Saeria]

I think alot of that comes from realizing that the "bad guys" aren't just big, dark, ugly strangers that pop out in dark allies. Once one gets older, a person realizes that there are alot of kinds of "bad guys" whether they be criminals, shiesty (sp?) politicians, or even the inlaws that you can't seem to get along with. I think once a person discards the ideal that most people are 100% pious altruists they learn to keep their guard up.
This came about for me once i realized that i am a whole person seperate from everyone else. I mean, when you're a kid it's always "me and my friends" or "me and my family" or "my class". For some people it's hard to gain that trust in others back so quickly once you've dissolved these ideals that we grow up with as kids.

 

[Redmage]

I'm afraid losing that trusting nature is a necessary part of growing up. Children trust people they shouldn't, because they haven't yet learned caution. That's a skill they need to learn before it's safe to let them out on their own.

Of course it's possible to go too far the other way as well. If you find yourself mistrusting people that you should trust, then you might want to talk with someone about that.

 

[DannyMc]

As children , it seems the very first and most instinctive emotion we have is trust . As a baby growing into childhood we look and find trust in those most close to us ........ Is it , as we grow up and older , and when we find trust in ourselves , that all we have known and so much relied on changes . When we enter into the world , is it then that our trust is put to the test , even to be shattered by those who have not the love for us as those who have raised us .............. Our character , what we believe in is now open for the whole world to see , but not all those we meet will hold dear our closest qualities .