A question or two

[Mimi]

Thanks again guys and gals, for all your words of encouragement, and all your understanding. I got to talk to njjen and jan on a more personal level this evening, and it helped even more to ease my concerns. So well, in fact, that it looks like I may be making plans to attend my first gathering!

As for you, Terr....I can only hope the day will come that I should be blessed enough to experience YOUR nimble digits roaming my body! And you'd damn well better be wearing black spandex when that time comes! You know, Darren DOES live in Sacramento, now

DVNC: Think you can croon louder then me? We shall see...hehehe.

Mimi 🙂

 

[dvnc]

I'm guessin' you'll croon louder, darlin'. I've faith in that. 😉

dvnc

 

[Dave2112]

Mimi, I for one would consider it an honor and a pleasure to tickle you.

Did I say Tickle? I meant MEET...yeah, meet, that's it.....

Seriously, if it ever happens, it will be a high point in my experience.😎

 

[terorizer]

What can I say Mims? Sac is the happening place for croonin', ticklin', and black spandex wearin'! LOL

 

[Dave2112]

Oh yeah, And I actually still own some spandex....left over from my wild '80's youth.

(Don't worry, the skinny ties and parachute pants have been long burned....😎 )

 

[Mimi]

Eesh, my spandex went into the trash receptacle a looooong time ago. Sure wish I had kept my bright blue converse's though. Now THOSE were a fashion statement 🙂

Dave2112...have faith my fellow ticklephile...You never know where I may pop up unexpectedly

Ter...I swear, I have GOT to find my way out to cali one of these days! You, spandex, wrestlers and pop stars. What a fantasy come true! *giggles*

DVNC....I wouldn't doubt it...not if YOU guys have anything to say about it, anyway...lol

Mimi 🙂

 

[Ticklish9's]

Location, Location, Location! 🙂 I'm a "starving college kid" and gas money is hard to come by as is, without missing work. Something in Buffalo, Pittsburgh, Cleveland, Erie, or other location that could be reached, enjoyed, and returned from in one day - at the most, overnight - would be attendable. Otherwise, I'd have to count myself out. On the other hand, when I get back from Basic Training next summer I'll have lots of money and then the sky's the limit. 🙂 Till then, this forum is likely all the exposure I'll have.

 

[evilqueen]

Good question Jen, and I've been thinking it over. For me, right now, it's too intimate an act to share with more casual acquaintances. And I tend to be a loner like Q. Someday curiosity may get the best of me at the same time real life offers the opportunity, but so far those two things haven't coincided.

 

[dvnc]

evilqueen, yours is not a solitary situation. Many of "us" have this as an intimate contact to them, and while they can play BDSM games until dawn in a large group, tickling play is just across that line of "good for public purposes". It's a matter of whatever works for ya, y'know?

Ticklish9's, if you can get to Cleveland, OH, you're near to the MidWest NEST, and the original NEST is in Philedelphia. Might be well worth the cost to peep at a mob of us, playin' merrily and socializin'.

Mimi, what I said to Ticklish9's applies t'you. If not my events here, those two are close, as is Chicago's CHEST, run by TickleChgo. There's many, now, and they're worth visitin', if only to socialize and meet folks like me. 🙂 That you can ask for tickling and get it is just an added bonus.

I know all three hosts, btw, and they're all good people. Chi-town's just over from ya. 'Bout a day's drive from ya.

Dave2112, Ter's brought out a new side of ya, sir. Ter's good at bringin' folks out. 😉

more change for the pot,

dvnc

 

[terorizer]

DAVE2112- You threw away the parachute pants??? But did you keep the portable tile for breakdancing on? hahaha

Hey Mimi, we'll wait for ya here, we're not going anywhere....despite the ravings of paranoid psuedo-seismologists!

 

[Dave2112]

Ter, I never had a tile....but I still have 99 Luftbaloons on vinyl....

 

[njjen3953]

Party Time

Please see the gatherings section for the announcement of my upcoming gathering in Albany, NY.

Jen

 

[Slappy McGee]

well.....

I typed a huge response to this and then proceeded to get booted before I could post...... grrrrrr....

but I'll try again..

Two words come to mind when thinking of what would cause me to go to a gathering.... TIME and COMFORT....

I have been browsing posts for years, have been posting myself for about 6 weeks, and let a little bit more of myself out as time goes by... it seemed a big deal to me to put that I was from florida in my profile, then a bigger deal to start saying I was in gainesville..... I just have to let go a little at a time.... if I rush into anything too fast , I freak out... it is like going into cold water... if I go too quick... ouch!! my balls shrink up and everything, but if I ease into it.... I adjust as I go.....

sorry for the crude analogy...

I feel that attending a gathering is as much a part of my future as growing old and paying taxes.... I just have to proceed at my own pace.

everything about this forum is cool.... there are a lot of people
I feel like I am getting to know, and a lot more I want to.... through both posting and chatting...

To answer the question of what can everyone here do to make me go to a gathering.... just keep doing what you already are doing, post honestly, post emotionally, and post openly..... I like what I see here, and am glad to be a part of it.

it just has to happen at it's own pace 🙂

 

[njjen3953]

Well Slappy.

I can assure you that my upcoming gathering will be a blast and great for first timers. Right Mimi?

Jen

 

[ktickler]

Hmmm...

I guess a motivating factor for me to attend a gathering would be location and timing. I cannot afford to leave the state on the excuse of a gathering. It would have to be at the same time and place of a business trip. Otherwise, it would have to be near the place I leave in.

Given the fact that Wisconsin is pretty much dead (besides the lovely Mimi), I pretty much out of luck.

Bye,

Knight Tickler

 

[Maria_Rose]

I'm stuck here in Southern BC Canada, and it is not close enough to any gatherings. Money is a factor also, being a university student. I am self conscious to some degree, but I think my overpowering desire to see and speak to other people who are like me would be worth it. Some day, when I get out of this little town, I am going to go to one of these. I spend my life isolated and completely alone, but I would put aside all my fears and shyness to be able to meet some of you. Of course that is assuming that I would be welcome at them...maybe I wouldn't be wanted for various reasons such as sexual orientation. But I've got a long time to save money and find friends in the community, so I'm trying not to be depressed about it lol.

 

[Maria_Rose]

I'm sorry for that last post, that sounded really pathetic.

 

[bickee]

me too

I am also new to the gathering idea. Part of me thinks, why the hell WOULDN'T I do it? When else would I have the opportunity to meet people like me? For me the safety issue is big. Being a woman, you defenitely think twice about going somewhere where you don't know anyone. Maybe I'll feel more assured after being on this board for a while. I do have a question which may seem silly...if you do attend, do you have to participate in both the lee and ler roles? Cause as much as I like to tickle, the thought of being restrained scares the hell out of me.

 

[tcrewme]

My 2 cents...Can I get some change?

Hey all,
My biggest fear was arriving at the event and running into someone I knew, or someone I knew and didn't like. As though someone would now have something to blackmail me or something. But then I realized that hey they are at the same event so it would be a double edged sword for them.
I have been to several NESTS and Hyena's Gatherings.
There was a crazy tenstion as I was walking up the flight of stairs to Max's apartment to hear laughter emminating from the top of ths stairs. I got to the top and who met me but QB and looking over her shoulder and realizing that the laughter was from the TV.
The minute I walked in I knew I had a common bond with every person in that room. And to pick up and read some tickling magazine and not even get a second look, or someone saying turn to page 18, really good shot.
A note to the shy, leave your shyness at home. You will miss SOOO many oppurtunities if you are shy. Now on the other hand don't be so bold, just find a good middle.
Of course I walk in and where do I sit but on the tickling massage table...opps. ;-)
I would stop talking but I am waiting for my change😀
As Nike says, "Just do it!!"

 

[dvnc]

Ah, that fine massage table at Max's. Annaloo can really hold onto it and be tickled for 15 minutes without letting go. Fine memories of the last big NEST event. Say, if you were there, tcrewme, then you and I likely met, even. Then again, there WERE over 50 people there at one point. 😉

Maria_Rose - there's been a gathering in Oregon, which isn't far from you, and there'll be another. I'm organizing it. If you clue us to your interest, and book a flight, we can get you from the airport. That's how I get to them, 'cause I sure don't live in Oregon.

bickee - you don't HAVE to be tied. We've done ticklings at West Coast Gatherings, MidWest NEST, Southern Gathering, and NEST that had no restraints. Some did their best to simply hold still, while others prefer to be held, instead of tied.

There are many folks running these that are known individuals, like me, for instance. Several of the event hosts are here, in the TMF. Max and I both moderate. There's safe and known places to meet, and to play.

Spewin' more gatherings info,

dvnc

 

[Maria_Rose]

Thanks for the info dvnc, and the kind offer. I just would need to do some thinking about what would be involved. I don't normally like to be tickled by males, so if that is a prerequisite, I'm afraid it wouldn't be for me. I may give it a try with one of the guys, but I want to make sure I wont be obligated to go through with it if it turns out not to be ok for me. I want to be sure of my limits before I even go, as it is not always fair to expect someone to be able to stop once they have started. If I could stick to the ladies only, then there would be no probs, but that may make some people uncomfortable, and I have no wish to do that. I guess it's just something for me to think about. Thank you for your offer though, it is much appreciated.

 

[QBWeaver]

Hi Maria Rose,

I'm also part of the West Coast Gatherings. I just wanted to reassure you that you are in NO WAY obligated to do ANYTHING here if you don't want to. The play is based on what the victim wants and that's only if they are willing to be a victim. Some folks just come to the gatherings to socialize with like minded folk. Others come to play. Some folks want to have a one on one and others want a group scene. Some ladies want the guys to tickle them and other ladies want other ladies. Some guys want the ladies to tickle them. Each person who volunteers can determine what they want and we take extreme measures to ensure all boundaries are adherred to.

So if you would like to come down to a gathering you have my personal guarantee that NOTHING would happen to you unless you want it to. If you do want to play all you have to do is to let either DVNC or I know. And if you just want to just sit around and meet the folks that's perfectly fine as well.

I do hope you'll drop down here sometime. We sure have lots of fun here both as a Lee, a Ler, or as a spectator!

Jan

 

[dvnc]

Yeah, what she said. 😉

dvnc

 

[Sunriseticklee]

The Gatherings

I was scared to death when I was in the car traveling to my very first gathering! 🙂LOL

The one thing that worried me the most was not the tickling, but wondering if I would be accepted. I wanted the freedom to be myself, and I was hoping that I would, 1) find a whole lot of new friends who enjoyed some of the same things I enjoyed. But what I was really looking for was 2) friends who, most of all, loved me for who I am on the inside. You know, it's like being a new student at a school. You are worried that you are going to be on a playground at recess and NO one wants to talk to you, and no one wants you on their team. You can end up feeling very different, very worthless... and extremely alone.

And as many times as my friend "T" assured me otherwise... I was still worried about that.

I told him afterwards that I felt foolish for wasting so much of my time worrying. My first gathering was wonderful. I actually was blessed to meet people who I had so much in common with. And I left with friendships that I hope will last a life time. I know most people meet for the play, but I am speaking honestly when I say the social aspect of the gatherings mean much more to me.

But let me break it down for you. Just because we love tickling does not make our parties and our gatherings perfect. I am not going to be the one to lie to you and paint you pretty pictures to say these things go off without a hitch and everyone leaves fully satisfied, tickled pink and happy. We are humans after all.

Gatherings are loads of work and we have different personalities and sometimes different views of everything... sometimes even tickling. The two issues that we can not afford to disagree on are safety and respect. If you can find the people who share the same ideas of safety and respect (when it comes to tickling) that you do, I promise that those are the same people you will probably want to spend your first gathering with.

I have had tons of fun with my West Coast friends and some hard times too. I was even honored to attend an East Coast gathering as well (also so so so much fun!). But the bottom line is that I have always attended gatherings where there was at least one person in attendance who I knew I could trust. (AND would kick ass if somebody got out of line). Maybe it would be a good idea to attend a gathering hosted by a trusted TK friend. It would be no problem just to watch and see what happens. Its nice to attend a gathering where you are not obligated to play, if you don't feel comfortable, or if you just don't plain feel like it. You can socialize and mingle, but you don't have to participate in the playing at all.

I guess I'm through. 🙂 Female to female... I know first hand what can go through a gal's mind. Bottomline people... wait until you are ready and HAVE FUN!


Love, Live and Tickle...
Sunriseticklee