A rant/small vent about my girl in college

[Butterfly wings]

I'm sure maybe some of you on here have heard me talk about my girl Jennifer on here a few times i think i have posted two posts about her since i become a member of this forum and joined. She is the girl that i met online that i am still planning on going to see and visit this summer. We want to try to have a Real Relationship together.


Well anyways....


Since Jennifer has been in college now. Her freshman year in college. Before when she was first in college and just started out with it she didn't have no one to talk to besides me i was all that she had since she is still shy with meeting new people and talking. Well besides her friends back home in real life that is. But now since she has joined a all girls sorority now on campus at her college. It just seems like she has been so busy now with everything she has told me and with a few more days of homecoming to go at her college that she attends. She has been extra busy with her sorority girls and with her home work somewhat and planning things and going to prep-rallys and doing all that sort of confusing college stuff.

I know she is busy and has things to do and that she has to get done. I understand all of that i really do. But i just feel sort of kicked to the side of the curb a little bit and left out. Now that she has been super busy and running all over the place the last few weeks and days. I know this is a stupid way for me to be feeling. But i can't help it.

So this post is my way of ranting and speaking things out.


Thank you to everybody that listened and read my post.

PS. And that is a picture of her down in my signature for thoses of you on here already that haven't seen what she looks like yet.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

The best thing you can do right now is to find a way to adapt to her world, to find a way to insert yourself into her world effectively. It won't be easy, especially since she's in a new, exciting environment. Do the homework, though, and try to find a way. Necessity is the mother of invention.
Good luck! Keep us abreast, Buttie.

 

[Butterfly wings]

The best thing you can do right now is to find a way to adapt to her world, to find a way to insert yourself into her world effectively. It won't be easy, especially since she's in a new, exciting environment. Do the homework, though, and try to find a way. Necessity is the mother of invention.
Good luck! Keep us abreast, Buttie.

Thanks Knox The Hatter. It's just really tough right now. When ever i feel something is wrong with Jennifer or with us ingeneral. Then i start worry about it and it lasts for a few days on going. It sucks.

But i'm hanging in there still. Please pray.

 

[tommytikl]

Even if she hadn't joined a Sorority she would be busy with papers and all school work, so now that she has that AND the Sorority it gets plenty busy because getting into those Faterinties can take quite a bit of time out of your day.
Hang in there buddy, once she pledges to her Sorority things should settle down a bit, it sucks for now but she will remember that you were there for her when she was lonely.

Good luck!

 

[Mephistopheles]

Good luck, but honestly man, there's just sooo many fish in the sea there aint a net big enough to catch em

 

[drew70]

You might try throttling back the attention you currently give her in the way of phone calls, emails, whatever. If she notices this reduction, it might serve to renew her interest in you. Of course, if she's okay with your lapse of attention toward her, then perhaps you need to look elsewhere.

 

[amk714]

Jennifer looks like a nice girl, and it's good you care so much about her, B.W. And from how busy she sounds it's no surprise you're feeling left out. But I have to wonder why you feel she's been neglecting you. Since this is an online relationship, I assume you two communicate by e-mail or chat primarily? Then don't e-mail her too often (and she probably doesn't have much time to chat, so don't try it), and make them short and sweet. Show her you care, but don't take up too much of her time. If she still shows an interest, keep in touch with her. But if she keeps telling you she's busy, or ignores you altogether, there are plenty of other girls (maybe some in your area who you could see) around. Bottom line, be careful or she'll break your heart. Good luck.

 

[Butterfly wings]

Jennifer looks like a nice girl, and it's good you care so much about her, B.W. And from how busy she sounds it's no surprise you're feeling left out. But I have to wonder why you feel she's been neglecting you. Since this is an online relationship, I assume you two communicate by e-mail or chat primarily? Then don't e-mail her too often (and she probably doesn't have much time to chat, so don't try it), and make them short and sweet. Show her you care, but don't take up too much of her time. If she still shows an interest, keep in touch with her. But if she keeps telling you she's busy, or ignores you altogether, there are plenty of other girls (maybe some in your area who you could see) around. Bottom line, be careful or she'll break your heart. Good luck.

Why do i feel that she's been neglecting me still?

Because well i have gave this alot of thought. And i think it's because i can't actually be there right now for her like we both want to be for each other. I can't touch her and hug her and cuddle her up close next to me when she is sad or mad. I think about her always and worry about her even when she is HAPPY. So i'm just so sad and depressed and feel neglected all at the same time because i can't be there with her right now like i want to be. It just kills her and me.

 

[steph]

Cute girl hon.
I've given this advice before, but I'd just try to stay busy, you'll be a lot less miserable and thankgiving break is just around the corner...😉
XOXO

 

[locker669]

You might try throttling back the attention you currently give her in the way of phone calls, emails, whatever. If she notices this reduction, it might serve to renew her interest in you. Of course, if she's okay with your lapse of attention toward her, then perhaps you need to look elsewhere.

I agree. Are you in college? Maybe you should get out with your friends and meet people too. For all we know she is missing you but busy with all that is college life.

 

[Butterfly wings]

I agree. Are you in college? Maybe you should get out with your friends and meet people too. For all we know she is missing you but busy with all that is college life.

No i'm not in college. I WISH that i was though. But i do have friends in real life besides Her. And i get out there and still have fun and do things.

 

[Butterfly wings]

Cute girl hon.
I've given this advice before, but I'd just try to stay busy, you'll be a lot less miserable and thankgiving break is just around the corner...😉
XOXO

Thank you steph