A Revelation

[billylee]

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Many years ago I

 

[tulipangel]

Many years ago I read a letter to the editor in Playboy about a guy who was tied up and stripped and tickled by two women, and it was a major, unfulfilled, fantasy for a long time. In the 90's I found a Cal-Star highlight video at a local store that had a couple of really nice scenes, and a few years after that I found several stores in NYC with tickling videos for sale, and then a dom/sub fetish group made up of attractive, middle class people, then I found the TMF. I have gone to Nest three times, and have been contacted by women here who are interested in meeting.

Here's the kicker: I never did ask a woman to fulfill that Playboy letter to the editor fantasy, and I threw away the Cal-Star video, and never bought other videos at that store in NYC, and I went to that fetish group just once, and I participated in Nest just once out of three times, and never met the eighteen year old girl who offered to be submissive. Recently I had extra cash and could easily have gone to a dungeon, but didn't. Yet I log on to the TMF four or five times a week.

Has this all been a colossal waste of time? Am I just a poser?

You are not a poser!

 

[Redmage]

If the turn-on is real, then you're real. However you may not be all of one mind about your fetish. Why did you throw away those videos? Why do not get involved when you have the chance? Is it truly not interesting, or are other feelings holding you back?

 

[yeayeayea]

Yes, you're definitely a poser.

(Cmon guys, how cool would it be if tickle fetishists became the new fad and people started "posing" as them? Play along!)

Nah, in all seriousness, listen to your gut. Don't worry about what you've done or haven't done, just worry about what you WANT to do, and go for it. Society can't label you for that.

 

[commander]

Look around the TMF. Read the posts long enough and you will be able to tell who is actively involved

 

[tklcouple]

Look around the TMF. Read the posts long enough and you will be able to tell who is actively involved because they are in a relationship, who is merely trolling, and - the majority - those who have a tickling fantasy and don't act on it, for whatever reason. Lots of guys seem to think this is pickup city, and leave when they find it is not. Lots of women find virtual submission appealing, but don't want the real thing. As for women ticklers, they can choose from dozens of eager prospects who are far less thoughtful than you are.

Let's be honest. You don't want to plunge into the scene, and no woman is likely to approach through this site. So I say, give up.

Ladies and Gentlemen, the TMF version of Simon Cowell!

 

[milagros317]

.... Recently I had extra cash and could easily have gone to a dungeon, but didn't. Yet I log on to the TMF four or five times a week.

Has this all been a colossal waste of time? Am I just a poser?

It took me years to finally get the courage to go to a dungeon and get tickled there. But I soon found Mistress Zara (third try) and she was able to be better than my fantasies. 😀

My advice would be, try it once or twice. If it's not to your liking, don't pursue it.

 

[maryallison]

Maybe billy has a point. I've written stories recently in the first person but I don't really want to go streaking through campus, or get caught naked in a group of men. I could drive to ticklehorror right now and they would let me get all nekkid and tied down, but I don't. maybe most of us who do this TMF thing are getting a vicarious (?) thrill out of this, but don't really mean it. After all, plenty of guys have PM'd me and don't post on the regular site.

 

[rajee]

We all wished at 1 time or another that we had chosen to tickle someone or bought tickling items.

You are not a poser.

 

[commander]

I don't think Billy uses the word "poser" in a bad way. Many people here will post and post, and then admit that they are not actually participating as a lee or a ler. Billy has a fantasy (I assume as 'ler) and has had years to achieve it, but hasn't done so. Many guys put up personals saying they want to be ler, and no one answers. Other guys pounce on any woman who posts a personal, and they can't all get a response from the ladies. Several people apparently are well known and credible (Max, LeeAllure) but rarely post. Thus, the percentage of people logging on here who actually are 'ler or 'lee is pretty small, maybe one percent. It's a fair point: Billy is wasting his time here.

 

[toneus79]

I have been thinking along these same lines myself recently. Thus whilst I can applaud all of those people who are able to make this tickling thing a part of their everday lives, this isn't the same for everyone. Some of us find things a little bit more complicated.

For my part to be a Ler with a willing Lee would probably work fine in a relationship. However I am primarily a Lee, and to be that requires a complete personality shift then the person I am in normal life. Thus this is fine in a fantasy roleplay type of scenario, but then that doesn't work if this is the same person you do your shopping (whatever) with.

It may be that for a lot of us on this forum, tickling is more of a hobby fantasy thing (like being a Trekkie) than something that can really become part of our day to day world.

Do what you feel comfortable with.

 

[isabeau]

may i ask a silly question?? she asks as a blonde.... sighs.. what is a poser?

isabeau

 

[LindyHopper]

Billy, you're the only one who knows why you spend so much time here on the TMF, yet you haven't plunged in for real-life experiences when you've had the chance. Is it shyness? Fear of rejection? Denial of having this fetish? Concern with how your life might change? Something else entirely?

My feeling is, surely this forum couldn't hold your interest if you weren't somehow into tickling. I think you need to ask yourself some deep questions about what role tickling plays in your life, and what role you'd like it to play. And, as other posters have mentioned, even if tickling isn't an active part of your life, it may still be a part of your psyche. So think about it, and get back to us, will you? 🙂

 

[Lionhart]

I know when I started growing the nerve to get out and satisfy my desire for tickling there were some girls that I met that without me ever opening my mouth about it started tickling me and I (stupid! Stupid! STUPID me!) cracked and acted like tickling was too childish for me.. Part of it was me just being very shy and not knowing how to act around a girl I obviously liked, also I viewed tickling as something weird and not normal. So i've definately been in your boat.. Maybe you can relate.. You'll all be happy to know, i'm better now..

 

[ticklefiend3000]

Can't believe no-one took the time to answer the lady!

"A poser.. my dear, is someone who makes out to be something they are not. Or one, who is shall we say, all talk and no tickles .. if you will!!"

But seriously it can also mean someone who brags a lot. But I don't think he mean't in that context. He was basically saying, am I all bravado?

may i ask a silly question?? she asks as a blonde.... sighs.. what is a poser?

isabeau

 

[MrPartickler]

Poser's too strong a word, IMHO. You haven't found the choice you want and/or when the opportunity presented itself, you just werent ready for it. If it's the former, just be happy with your choice. It's (still) the best one--for you. However, if you're looking back and saying to yourself, "Man, I should've gone for it!" Then don't worry. Next time, if you see such an opportunity, grab it. Problem solved. You can't go back, but you can make sure you at least don't have the same regrets in the future.

I have to say, Commander (a.k.a. TMF's Simon Cowell...lol), raises another point though. The number of genuine "opportunities" you're listing isn't really that substantial. The gem here isn't going to pay-to-play dungeons or NEST or fetish parties or buying videos. <i>Anyone</i> can do that anytime they like. If it's open/happening and you want to go, you just go. The only thing that you have relatively little control over is how many r/l meets you're offered from ladies here. So you <i>might</i> regret passing on those opporunities; then again you may not. You may just want more of them to choose from, so you can find the one that's right for you. To that I say: join the club. <i>Warning: The club is a major sausage fest, too.</i>

 

[knight]

One possibility to consider is whether or not you really want to make the fantasy a reality. This fetish is definitely sexual for me, and I've found that often what runs through my mind is more arousing, more fulfilling, than the reality. Maybe it's a control thing, in my mind I can make anything happen, not so in the real world. Maybe you're happy enough with posting on this forum and feel no need to try and experience tickling in the real world. Perhaps having is not quite as pleasurable as wanting.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Shhhhhhhhh don't tell anyone but hey....you're human!