A serious issue I need some advice!!!!

[Private Tickle]

Ok so I am 22 years old I am your typical hard working guy in pittsburgh, and obviously I have a fetish for tickling. I duno why, but I do. I know I shouldnt feel bad about or but I just feel like I am wierd for being into something like tickling. ANYWAY! I have a beautiful girlfriend who I tickle all the time. She dosnt seem to mind, its more or less a playful thing we just roll around , she tickles back its good fun...with out getting into detail our sex life is great. she and I have both been willing to try different things for the other for the sake of keeping sex interesting...Now I'd like to possibly take tickling her to a new level..id like to see if she would be ok wil being tied up and tickled...however I have never been open about my fetish with anyone and I just dont know how to go about comming out with something like this. I just feel akward..I know it seems stupid and maybe it is..but anyone have anything to say on this that could help me??

Much love!!

 

[LD_Tickler]

Dropping hints has worked for me. Let slip one day that maaaybe I have some super secret kinky fantasy. Usually piques the girls' interests; they can't resist a good mystery. 😉

That way it's no surprise when you reveal it. Since she seems okay with tickling, you should be fine.

 

[maniactickler]

First, get her drunk. then tell her that you guys should try something different and mention bondage. dont say anything about tickling though. wait until you get her tied up. once shes tied up, go nuts!

 

[Angel77]

Maybe after a really good tickle fight, mention something about how much fun it would be to tie her up and take advantage of her (in a good way of course)! Just promise that she'll be smiling the entire time. Of course, have a safeword or something so if it's too much, she doesn't call you an asshole and give up on the idea right then and there lol. Best of luck to you! And it's nice to see a fellow peep from Pittsburgh!

 

[Private Tickle]

WOW! thanx so much for all the feedback. I will def take all of this into consideration. Angel 77 I believe your method may work the best tho. I will let you guys know how things go with it!!!

Happy holidays!!!!!

 

[-Hari-]

introduce light bondage as a seporate thign to tickling at first, dont use the work "bondage" tho, it can sound very scary to some as they autmoatically relate it to whips and chains, just say it would be fun to get some hancuffs,

Then you gradually start linking everything up.

 

[ticklemepls]

Not stupid in the least!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Many people dont "come out" to others- your best bet though is to be open and honest- tell her its fun for you and whatever else.... you may be shocked to find out that she may actually be really receptive to it...

it is always going to be akward to open up to someone about your fetish, but honestly, I've found the few people i've told, not really too weirded out by it once you explain some stuff to them- some people its more confusion and misunderstanding in which makes them uncomfortable.... but if shes into trying things, my guess is she'd be more than willing to try tied and tickling (so long as you assure her if she doesnt like it, you'll stop) 🙂

take my advice for what its worth, but i hope it helps 🙂

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Tell her how hot you think her laugh is, how hot it is when she squirms, she'll remember. Then start with maybe something really light, playful and hot like pinning her down. Then actual restraints...but simple ones. Then tickle her again. She'll put two and two together and respond.

 

[Private Tickle]

Wow i def didn't expect to get more then maybe two hits on this! these are all great...I am pulling bits and peices from everything to make my best attempt at being open with her about this. I honestly can't thank you all enough for the feedback!!!!

Happy Holidays!

 

[Libertine]

Shared pleasures are what keep couples together, especially if it's something they can only be comfortable doing with one another. A 'Romantic Secret', only for the two of you, if you want to think of it that way. No matter how you decide to introduce your preference to her, it has the potential to 'bind' (as it were) the pair of you more closely.

Given that your relationship seems pretty strong, and she enjoys your preliminary experimentation, it's not much of a risk.

It's better to try and fail, than not to try and wonder what would have happened for the rest of your life if you'd only had the courage to ask.

It certainly worked when I broached the subject to the woman to whom I'm now happily married.

 

[OscarTheMonkey]

It sounds like you can tell her pretty much straight out, but you could do something fun together like buying restraints , some toys and something sexy you'd like her to wear while tickling her.

 

[Angel77]

Tell her how hot you think her laugh is, how hot it is when she squirms, she'll remember. Then start with maybe something really light, playful and hot like pinning her down. Then actual restraints...but simple ones. Then tickle her again. She'll put two and two together and respond.

I um, would like to respond.

Yum!

 

[Marquis De Sade]

I um, would like to respond.

Yum!

😀

Good you're piecing together the advice you've gotten so far Private, and making it unique to your situation and considering her part in this.

Remember, it's how you say it. IMO, don't make it a HUGE thing. Make it playful, fun and hot - all things the kink is. I'm sure she'll be into it. Let us know. 🙂

 

[thegamesup2002]

I've now told two girlfriends about my fetish. I spent about four years with the first before I finally told her and I just wish I'd done it sooner. She was really cool about it but ultimately it only ever led to a couple of very light bondage sessions.

The next one was a lot more successful... Early on in the relationship with my current girlfriend we were talking about porn and that naturally led to me telling her that I was into tickling. It worked out great and actually enabled her to open up to me about fantasies of her own that she had. That one has led to full on strapped-to-bed tickling and it was fantastic!

My first piece of advice about it would be to be confident when you tell her. Don't waffle around the issue. She has to know that you are comfortable with your fetish and that you think it would be really hot if it could be occasionally (not every time!) incorporated into your shennanigans between the covers. I personally reckon that your girlfriend will be receptive to it because you've mentioned that the sex is great. You never know - she may find that the idea turns her on...

My second piece of advice is simple... DO IT! You seriously don't want to look back further down the line and wonder how she may have responded. There was absolutely nothing like kneeling by my hot naked girlfriend as she was strapped to my bed watching me... waiting for my touch. (I've been meaning to start posting on here - maybe I'll do a proper write-up of that session in the stories board).

I really hope it works out for you.

 

[tickleteasing]

I think the reason why we keep our love of it secret is not because its strange because in the grand scheme of things that turn people on its really not. But I think being turned on about something or anything puts you in a vulnerable position and thats why we keep it secret. The thing is if your in a relationship thats romantic your in a lot of ways on a much closer connected level with that person than anybody else. I would say to your girlfriend that being aroused about something is normal and natural and ok. By the way in my sigline I explain why I think bondage is appealing but I think I know why you want to tie your girlfriend up and tickle her. If a woman is tied up her pleasure is not her responsibility anymore its yours so the guilt can be eliminated on her part. I may be over psychoanalyzing here but thats what I think. Here is what I would do sit your girlfriend down and look her in the eyes and say its ok to say what sexually arouses her, then every time she tells you give her a kiss and tell her you love her. Even if its something that you do not share she has a right to say what turns her on. If she is more open about that than you can be more open about the tickling

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I think this is some really great advice that tickleteasing has given you about what to do to help make your gf feel at ease and to help to cause her to feel totally comfortable and to feel totally emotionally and physically safe. This was great advice tickleteasing. Hope this advice helps you, love to hear what happens, hopefully it will be a happy and rewarding positive tickle encounters with her. Please let us know and keep me updated on what happens with you and her on this. Thanks for creating this thread. I enjoyed it.

 

[nikki16.parker]

I am not sure if someone else has given this advice yet, but have you thought about her tying you first? (Obviously this would make most sense if you were ticklish).

 

[Time_of_your]

My advice

This is just me....

If you want to introduce her to it slowly, find out what she likes (ex. let's say oral) and then suggest you do that to her with bondage.

And everyone knows that foreplay involves a lot of touching. That being said, when u have her tied up - before you do that thing she likes - do a lot of the 'foreplay' touching and include some light tickling in there.

She will probably laugh, scream and say 'stop stop' a lot, but just kind of alternate between the foreplay and tickling - so she doesn't get turned off altogether.

Do that a few times and from there - you can gradually tell her you like tickling.

Take it with a grain of salt.

 

[Private Tickle]

Hey everyone!!! So I am sooo sooo soo happy to see everyone shooting me advice and tips. She and I are hannging out all day tomorrow..."my first day off in 2 weeks" loll I think I am gonna go for it. I have taken everything everyone has said into consideration with this. Ill give yall the story when I have it!!!

Hope everyone has a good monday morning!!!!

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Yeah that is definitely some great advice-like a few others have said-definitely slowly introduce her to the pleasurable feel good side of tickling-slowly gauge her reactions and be sensitive to her moods and what she enjoys and what she doesn't enjoy and what turns her on and what does zilch for her. That way you know what elements of foreplay that work and what ones will not work for your tickle session. For a brief bit try not to focus on it being a tickle session-you do that you will overstress yourself and might make yourself very nervous and that would not be good.

Instead might help just to relax, slowly introduce her to the pleasure of the things she enjoys in foreplay then slowly incorporate the tickling very slowly and go from there and gently verbally ask for feedback from her pay close attention to her body language to see if she is comfortable or not. Go from there. Hope that this helps that way if you do that-she develops a pleasant great association that when she is tickled by you-she also receives great pleasure from being tickled not just from the tickling but also from the foreplay that insues. Hope this helps.

 

[Em Es]

Private Tickle

Don't think of getting a girl to consent to bondage and tickling as akin to something dangerous or shameful. I say that because, reading between the lines of your question and comments Private Tickle, I think you are worrying too much.

Manic Tickler said to get your girlfriend drunk but I would not go that far. Just a drink (two at the most, depending on how big she is) to loosen her up will suffice. In moderation alcohol helps, but in excess, it doesn't. Anyway, with a drink or two in her start some playful tickling and drop a hint about tying her down - something as simple as, "You're so ticklish, I think I'll have to tie you to the bed to keep you where I want you." Depending on her reaction, you could make your move or wait until the next cocktails-and-tickles you share.

You could even suggest she tie you down, Private Tickle. And once she unties you, tell her, "It's my turn!"

Please let us know what happens.