Accidently outing yourself

[Pghtkltorture]

I was thinking about this story recently, I was wondering if anyone else had any similar stories.

At some point during college I was starting to become ok with the idea of people knowing I had a foot and/or tickle fetish. I figured I wouldn't make it totally public knowledge, but if someone heard something or asked about it I wouldn't deny it anymore.

So o joined a foot fetish group on Facebook. I figured if someone combed my profile and found it then I would be ok with talking to them about ot. This also seemed like a good opportunity to maybe meet some people with similar interests through the group.

At midnight, literally like an hour after I joined the group, Facebook debuted a brand new feature. Newsfeed. Plastered on all of my friends newsfeeds was "------- joined the group I Love Feet!"

Luckily this was back when Facebook was all still college students and for most people it got lost in the shuffle. I did take a little flak from a few people who noticed it.

Looking back I think my bad luck and timing was hilarious, but at the time I was mortified!

I would love to hear similar stories!

 

[chicago]

Someone from here found my real Facebook page, made a fake profile, and messaged links to my TMF profile to friends, family, and coworkers. I didn't leave my apt for a few days and was pretty terrified of everyone knowing, but no one treated me different and in the long run, it made me realize that the tickling thing is really no big deal.

 

[The Internet]

Someone from here found my real Facebook page, made a fake profile, and messaged links to my TMF profile to friends, family, and coworkers. I didn't leave my apt for a few days and was pretty terrified of everyone knowing, but no one treated me different and in the long run, it made me realize that the tickling thing is really no big deal.

That makes me sick, I'm so sorry to hear that.

I have a few instances, but one funny one that I can tell. (the others are more mortifying and embarrassing!).

I was working as a temp many years ago at the corporate headquarters of a bank, and I was basically doing a massive archiving of a room full of a files. So I was always walking to and from with a box, and over the time I was there, the only person who I'd talk to was this pretty assistant, who was very nice and helpful. Unfortunately, she had a habit of slipping in and out of her shoes all day long (like most girls, heh). So when I'd be walking past, I'd always have to sneak a glimpse of this ticklish area that was practically taunting me to touch.

She caught me. One day she says, "Are you a foot man?"

My stomach dropped. "What?" I said, feigning complete confusion as to what she was asking.

She leaned in and gave me this look as if to say, "I know, buddy, stop the act".......and said, slowly...."Are....you...a....FOOT....man....."

Beat. My response was brilliant.

"No, I'm a temp.", I said, with a bewildered look on my face, like "what is she asking me this for"....and walked away. She just raised her eyebrows and looked down, grinning as if to say "Ok, you want to play dumb?" Ha.


My ex found out in a REALLY embarrassing way. When we moved in together, i got my VCR. Before we had started going out, I had gone to a porn store....first time in my life.....and bought a tickle video, the only one in the place, I couldn't even believe such a thing existed! When I got it home....it was horrible! Terrible! Fake! Unattractive people! Just.....a waste of money!

But it sat in my VCR, I must have moved soon after, and it was in storage for a few years. Now, I'm moving in with my girlfriend, and one day, soon after we've shacked up together.....I come home to find the apartment STREWN with ripped out videotape, all over the place, like they were streamers. I looked around and said....":What the.....?" when all of a sudden she came charging out of the room and hurled the videotape at me...."Here's your street girls!" She was crying. Ha. I'm laughing now. And she became completely understanding and really indulgent about the fetish over the years, but that day, wow......I had to do some fast talking!!!!! She had put the VCR on (I hooked it up, why didn't I check it?!!!), and the tape was in there, so she got a surprise. "So THAT'S what my new boyfriend is into?? Eeeeew!"

To be caught is bad enough....but to be caught with BAD material..........that's the worse. She thought THAT was what turned me on. How could I convert her with THAT tape? And my girl was fifty times prettier than the girls in the tape, who were really worn out LA boob-job 80s hair......about a year later, she asked me to show her a tape (after I had explained the fetish, and explained away that lame tape).....I remember I showed her a tape of Darla Crane tickling gorgeous brunette Ariele Cole......"aw, she's pretty!" was the first thing she said when I put the tape on, in a happy tone of voice.....and as she's watching it, she starts saying "ok, it's hot.....it's hot, I see......ok....." ha, like it was getting her seal of approval. Very funny. After that, she'd report ticklings she'd seen in movies, or give me suggestive pics from her fashion mags.......so it all worked out in the end.

 

[tequila!]

Nope, my confidentiality's airtight.

I made sure to put that I'm not into tickle torture on my facebook profile. That way there's no confusion in case there was a question in anyone's head.

 

[riboflavin]

I once accidentally clicked a Share on Facebook button on Czech Tickling's "Orgasms and Tickling" Clips4Sale page... whose idea was it to put that on there anyway?

Luckily, when it posted on my wall, the privacy settings were set to "Only Me", so no one saw it and I was able to delete it.

But still... heart dropped and ass cheeks clenched.

 

[kingofkaboom]

I keep my fetish side separate from everything else. I'm not taking any chances. I'm very paranoid about that information getting out and so far I haven't had any scares online yet. I did tell a friend about it 8 or 9 years ago and that turned out to be a huge mistake. Not soon after I revealed what I was into, almost everybody that he knew knew about. It SUCKED! That was one of the worst feelings ever.

 

[Sandisk444]

Someone from here found my real Facebook page, made a fake profile, and messaged links to my TMF profile to friends, family, and coworkers. I didn't leave my apt for a few days and was pretty terrified of everyone knowing, but no one treated me different and in the long run, it made me realize that the tickling thing is really no big deal.

What the fuck? I'm surprised that's actually ever happened. It sounds like one of those things that you make up in your head to talk yourself out of uploading your picture or something.

On topic, I was in class a few weeks ago and had just finished an assignment that needed to be submitted online so I went to the dropbox and chose to upload the file. I guess the last thing I did was either share a few tickling pictures with someone or download them for whatever reason because it opened to a folder with 3 blatantly obvious tickling pictures right on my screen. I froze for a second and quickly closed the window and started working on something else. The people I was sitting beside didn't see but I have no idea about the people behind me... Now I make sure to check folders before I bring my laptop to class haha.

 

[gilmourwaters]

I was never really "in the closet" with my fetishes. Since HS I was open about it with gfs , friends who thought they heard or kinda picked up a fetish vibe who asked , I told...no biggie..part of who I am. Great majority was cool with it. Those that weren't were respectful and didn't obsess about it

 

[jujimbo]

Someone from here found my real Facebook page, made a fake profile, and messaged links to my TMF profile to friends, family, and coworkers. I didn't leave my apt for a few days and was pretty terrified of everyone knowing, but no one treated me different and in the long run, it made me realize that the tickling thing is really no big deal.

Doesn't surprise me. Many people can't control themselves on adult forums. Assholes.

 

[Pghtkltorture]

Another story. Didn't out myself here, but wanted to.

I had a friend (more of an acquaintance) who moved down to Fl a few years ago.

One day I'm scrolling through my Instagram and come across a pic she posted with none other than TAYLOR RAZ! Of course my reaction was to message her and be like "how do you know Taylor Raz!"

Being that the bulk of her work is pretty specific I am glad I pulled back on that thought.

(P.s. I know what you're thinking, maybe this friend was into our world, but she just worked at a club down there. She actually made a few "foot fetish guys are all creeps" posts so I'm pretty sure she isn't. Though I really scrutinized some of the clips sites Taylor was on at the time to see if maybe she might have popped up)

 

[Sensualswitch10]

I was working as a temp many years ago at the corporate headquarters of a bank, and I was basically doing a massive archiving of a room full of a files. So I was always walking to and from with a box, and over the time I was there, the only person who I'd talk to was this pretty assistant, who was very nice and helpful. Unfortunately, she had a habit of slipping in and out of her shoes all day long (like most girls, heh). So when I'd be walking past, I'd always have to sneak a glimpse of this ticklish area that was practically taunting me to touch.

She caught me. One day she says, "Are you a foot man?"

My stomach dropped. "What?" I said, feigning complete confusion as to what she was asking.

She leaned in and gave me this look as if to say, "I know, buddy, stop the act".......and said, slowly...."Are....you...a....FOOT....man....."

Beat. My response was brilliant.

"No, I'm a temp.", I said, with a bewildered look on my face, like "what is she asking me this for"....and walked away. She just raised her eyebrows and looked down, grinning as if to say "Ok, you want to play dumb?" Ha.

Dearest Leo,
I have to respectfully disagree with your assessment of a brilliant response. Witty, yes. Brilliant, not by a long shot. A brilliant response would have ended up with you tickling her feet. 😛

 

[toyou444]

I've had long conversations about tickling with a few close (drunk) friends. If they didn't figure it out then I don't know how else to explain it.

Other than that ex girlfriends picked up pretty quick, but I always had a hard to saying it to anyone. Even my wife. She found out by finding some mags and wasn't happy. She understand it now, but it took a long time.

~ toyou

 

[The Internet]

Dearest Leo,
I have to respectfully disagree with your assessment of a brilliant response. Witty, yes. Brilliant, not by a long shot. A brilliant response would have ended up with you tickling her feet. 😛

That's funny but with all due respect, that wouldn't have been brilliant, that would have been stupid! I would have been fired right on the spot! I have pulled off work tickles, even in offices, but that one.....no, I had to let that one pass!

When I said "brilliant", by the way, I didn't mean literally a stroke of genius...and it wasn't witty......it was something I blurted out....and it "obscured" the issue and got me out of it, my mind was racing I didn't know what to say, and when that came out...it worked.......it could have been a stammer, instead....."i'm a temp".....ok, it makes sense, the guy doesn't know what I mean by "foot man"......I got out of it unscathed. For all I know, she could have gone and complained about the foot freak to HR. Though, techinically, I'm not a "foot man" I'm a ticklish area man! If she was wearing a sleeveless dress and had her arms above her head, or was wearing a crop top, or a miniskirt with crossed legs....or even a backless dress....it would inspire a similar "stare" from me.

"I'm a temp!" Case closed. Or maybe I should have said...."I'm a temp.....and those, my dear, are very pretty feet....mind if I steal a tickle?" ha! "Guard! Remove this man!!!!!"

 

[The Internet]

Nope, my confidentiality's airtight.

I made sure to put that I'm not into tickle torture on my facebook profile. That way there's no confusion in case there was a question in anyone's head.

Tequila!, your signature image is frickin' hilarious. Now THAT'S brilliant.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

My story goes as follows. It was during my senior year of college and the last month of my junior year the guy I had been thinking was my best friend since high school basically told me to f-off and said he had only been friends with me because I was so depressed. I just gotten help with counseling and had starting taking Zoloft my junior year. During my senior year I really started to get out and about in the kink lifestyle. I had been lurking around junior year on fetish sites and this was the main one I lurked on because tickling was my first fetish. I was starting to date/play with people I met off of fetish sites the summer of junior year going into senior year(Just an FYI had never dated anyone prior because I had fallen in love with my ex-best friend, but he was not into women.). It was also during the late fall/early winter that I decided to become a fetish model. People had suggested I join the site Model Mayhem and I did, but one of my ex-best friend's roommates must have also decided to get into more regular vanilla modeling. Her profile was approved a week after mine and she found me. She left a rude comment on one of my pictures that basically was her insinuating that something must have been wrong with me and she even called me by my real name. Mind you this woman had also told me to f-off and to never bother her. I gladly had left her alone and it was due to me feeling she was the reason I was no longer friends with my ex-best guy friend. I left a comment on the picture telling her to leave me alone and then I blocked her, but the damage was already done. I am sure her, my other ex-best friend's roommate(Who also hated me), and my ex-best friend were probably giddy as school girls when they saw my Model Mayhem profile. I noticed everyone started treating me differently around campus and I would get these awful looks. No one hardly wanted to have anything to do with me. This is why I have serious trust issues when it comes to people and more specifically vanillas.

 

[Phineas]

Although I'm open with my fetishes, there are still occasions when people find out about them before I'm ready to tell them, or in ways that... aren't exactly ideal. I'd say this former post of mine is a bit of both.

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?129544-D-oh!-Outed!

...on the other hand, this community is waayyyy too preoccupied with being "outed" and worrying about "getting caught". Proof?

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?207392-I-outed-myself-to-Facebook-today

My favorite part of that thread was all the people freaking out over how "brave" I was when the whole point of the thing was to prove that it didn't require bravery, because ultimately, nobody cared. More people here freaked out than did my friends.

 

[Matheu]

I am 'out' to a handful of people, quite randomly selected but I trust that the secret is safe with them. On 2 occasions people who knew have made it clear they've forgot until it was brought up (in a round about way) in conversation and really had to think about what my fetish was.

At the moment I'm a bit worried because someone I went to college with messaged me on fetlife saying they couldn't believe we were into the same thing but they won't tell me who they are. I'm quite shy sexually and tickling is my only release and my only secret to be honest. I'm really worried about it getting out as I just think I'll feel so exposed and will want the ground to swallow me whole.

 

[Sensualswitch10]

That's funny but with all due respect, that wouldn't have been brilliant, that would have been stupid! I would have been fired right on the spot! I have pulled off work tickles, even in offices, but that one.....no, I had to let that one pass!

When I said "brilliant", by the way, I didn't mean literally a stroke of genius...and it wasn't witty......it was something I blurted out....and it "obscured" the issue and got me out of it, my mind was racing I didn't know what to say, and when that came out...it worked.......it could have been a stammer, instead....."i'm a temp".....ok, it makes sense, the guy doesn't know what I mean by "foot man"......I got out of it unscathed. For all I know, she could have gone and complained about the foot freak to HR. Though, techinically, I'm not a "foot man" I'm a ticklish area man! If she was wearing a sleeveless dress and had her arms above her head, or was wearing a crop top, or a miniskirt with crossed legs....or even a backless dress....it would inspire a similar "stare" from me.

"I'm a temp!" Case closed. Or maybe I should have said...."I'm a temp.....and those, my dear, are very pretty feet....mind if I steal a tickle?" ha! "Guard! Remove this man!!!!!"

Dearest Leo, (I love using that salutation btw)

First off, I can't believe they had a guard on duty to remove tickle pervs! I'll never bank there! Lol

I wasn't there to see her facial expression and body language. The way you described the situation sounded to me like she might have been a foot girl herself. Probably just wishful thinking. When I'm in a situation of that nature my response is usually something along the lines of, a coy smile and holding my thumb and index finger about a half inch apart to imply "maybe a little".

On topic, shortly after joining this forum, I caught myself several times almost bringing up things I read on TMF to my non tickler friends. So far I've always caught myself before I actually said anything but came pretty close a couple of times. I think it's because it's just so great to finally be able to converse with people who share my interest in tickling.

 

[mb7700]

Reading all of the posts in this thread makes three things clear to me:

1. There are a lot of close-minded, judgmental people in this world.

2. There are lot of nasty people in this world.

3. It sure is great that we have the TMF to share and discuss our love of tickling with like-minded people.

 

[FinnTickler]

So far I haven't told anyone I know IRL about my fetish. I have had some close calls tho. Once I was going to show a friend of mine a funny picture I had downloaded on my phone. Well, it just so happened that the previous night I had accidentally downloaded an image showing the soles of a girl being tickled. My phone back then was a Samsung Galaxy S3 (best phone I've ever had btw) so it had the Android OS. On Android, when you go to your gallery and choose an album like screenshots, camera, downloads etc the newest image of that album is visible from the gallery. So when I opened my gallery to show my friend the funny picture the following happened; my friend (luckily) was looking away from my screen as someone opened a door to our right. In a split second after I realized the tickling image was there I quickly opened the correct album and just slammed my finger onto the funny image, to make it grow into a fullscreen one and hide the tickling image. I showed my friend the image and my fetish wasn't revealed. Phew.

I am honestly quite afraid of what would happen if my secret was ever unveiled. As some of you might notice from either my name or my signature, I live in Finland. Finnish people aren't excactly the most tolerant and I fear that people might think of me as a pervert of some kind. It might even ruin my relationship with my family or friends or it could even cost me my future job. Luckily TMF excists and I can speak about my fetish openly with similar people.

 

[Coda]

I'm really saddened to read about some of the discomforting experiences people have had –*it's no surprise those experiences would make some people especially wary and careful when deciding who to trust and share with. I honestly don't know whether these people think or realize they're being as potentially unsettling as they are; it's hard to conceive of why people would do some of those things deliberately.

And, mb7700, yes, it's great we have the TMF. Even this place is sometimes the setting for frustrating or unsettling experiences for some people, but it's up to us to help keep it safe and enjoyable for people. (I mean, you'd think that about the world at large, too.)

 

[a7hgsir4h3jk]

My story goes as follows. It was during my senior year of college and the last month of my junior year the guy I had been thinking was my best friend since high school basically told me to f-off and said he had only been friends with me because I was so depressed. I just gotten help with counseling and had starting taking Zoloft my junior year. During my senior year I really started to get out and about in the kink lifestyle. I had been lurking around junior year on fetish sites and this was the main one I lurked on because tickling was my first fetish. I was starting to date/play with people I met off of fetish sites the summer of junior year going into senior year(Just an FYI had never dated anyone prior because I had fallen in love with my ex-best friend, but he was not into women.). It was also during the late fall/early winter that I decided to become a fetish model. People had suggested I join the site Model Mayhem and I did, but one of my ex-best friend's roommates must have also decided to get into more regular vanilla modeling. Her profile was approved a week after mine and she found me. She left a rude comment on one of my pictures that basically was her insinuating that something must have been wrong with me and she even called me by my real name. Mind you this woman had also told me to f-off and to never bother her. I gladly had left her alone and it was due to me feeling she was the reason I was no longer friends with my ex-best guy friend. I left a comment on the picture telling her to leave me alone and then I blocked her, but the damage was already done. I am sure her, my other ex-best friend's roommate(Who also hated me), and my ex-best friend were probably giddy as school girls when they saw my Model Mayhem profile. I noticed everyone started treating me differently around campus and I would get these awful looks. No one hardly wanted to have anything to do with me. This is why I have serious trust issues when it comes to people and more specifically vanillas.

Fuuuuck, I am sorry that happened to you. That sounded incredibly bitchy and immature of them, like something out of Mean Girls.

 

[ticklingj]

I never really accidentally outed myself, but it reminds me of a story... I became friends on Facebook with a girl I dated in high school. After we reconnected, all this BDSM literature started showing up in my feed. She was in these groups on Facebook and when she interacted with them, I could see it...talking about these books....about her nipple rings... I guess she forgot to do whatever she needed to do to keep it private. I was really digging it! She must have figured it out because one day it just stopped. I knew she was a bit of a kink when we dated...it was cool to see that she got deeper into it. I never said anything about it to her. I'm all mature and respectful and stuff now.

 

[Sensualswitch10]

So I accidentally outed myself the other day and I blame you guys! JK, but seriously. I can be so much more open about it with my TMF buddies, which I am extremely grateful for.

So my lady friend has been really accommodating to my desires and she's turning out to be a pretty good ler. But the other day she says to me "Have you ever dated someone who's not ticklish? I bet that would be really frustrating for you."
And I just blurt out (with a little indignation) "I would NEVER date someone who isn't ticklish! "
So she kinda cocks an eyebrow at me and I'm pretty sure I read her mind. (Wow, I could tell you were into this but I didn't realize exactly how into it) So yeah, accidental outing of self. But NBD cause we've already done a lot of tickles and she mostly already knew.

 

[Yeacomon420]

See that's why I did not let any that work with on fb page!