Advice on balancing tickling in a relationship..?

[thenewguy12]

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[nice.1]

I wouldn't mind some advice either! But this is what I can tell u/ my story.

Been seeing this girl for 3 months but been friends for ages b4 we started seeing eachother I told her that I have a thing for tickling and a foot fetish. She was fine with it and when we started seeing eachother I would bring up the topic of her feet a lot she doesn't mind but would prefer to talk about something else so I try not to bring it up as much. When we catch up she I'd almost always barefoot and told me I can play with her feet as much as I want just as long as I don't tickle them 🙁 I play with her feet a fair amount but don't just focus on them cause I know it's not her favourite place to get touched. When it comes to tickling she doesn't like it at all but I still tickle her feet a fair amount but know she'll never hate me for but does get annoyed sometimes.

What I'm trying to say is even if she has given u a golden ticket, an all access pass to tickle she's only doing it because she cares about you so don't take advantage of it and use your own judgement on when it is too much. Unless she is into tickling then tickle the crap out of her! 😛 I might have to re tell my girl how much I enjoy tickling see if she allows me to tickle her a little more but that's getting greedy cause everytime I see her I tickle her but I would love to hold her down and tickle which even she allowed me to I wouldn't do it often cause I know she doesn't like it. Hope that helps

 

[thenewguy12]

Yeah that was very helpful insight. Thanks man

 

[WorkInProgress]

I say, the important thing is to make sure you have other things to talk about besides your physical relationship, so that the relationship will have a firm foundation of emotional intimacy and common social interests. It doesn't really sound as if you have anything to worry about, but if you're looking for how to make it even more solid, that's where to look.

 

[TickVix]

It's great to see that you were able to finally share your love of tickling with your gf and though you may feel or believe that she isn't into it and that you shouldn't bring it up as much as you'd like to. I say give her a chance in terms of her warming up to it and seeing how she really feels about it. It already sounds as if she's very open and understanding to the idea and hey, she may become a true fan of it herself once you two begin really enjoying it together. I know it may be a little difficult to tickle someone who you believe isn't into it...but like I said, give her a chance and you may be happily surprised.

I unfortunately did not have that happen with me, when I shared my interests with ex's they couldn't really understand what it was all about, but you're in a good position with your gf and it sounds like she really loves you and is willing too atleast give it a go for you.

Good Luck! 🙂

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I think that there is a fine line to keeping it from imploding. If a person your dating isn't into the same fetish as you are it can be a stepping of mines. They may not understand how much you think of it. It becomes a part of one of your turn-ons. How not to take it too far. I had to realize that once i admit that I had a tickle fetish I have to make a decision to either keep myself in line realizing or date someone that is into tickling as I am. Either way...its a long journey.

 

[GC4AH]

Things like this need time mate. I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly 5 and a half years. I told her about my love for tickling quite early on and she was cool with it. I used to take advantage of it a bit and I could tell she got a bit annoyed with it although she wouldn't tell me because she's too nice. So what I did was I backed off a bit and stopped tickling her as much. The past 2 times I've seen her, because I'm in a long distance thing too, she has asked me to tickle her because I've restrained myself from doing it and it was like kind of a reward. Last time she even said that I could tie her up to stop her moving around. Just give it time, restrain yourself and good things can happen 🙂

 

[Mane'o]

yep, give it time and give it space which is another way of saying, a long term relationship usually has many facets to it and give them space to grow as well - like find out what she Really likes and spend time and energy on that as well as other things you like and hopefully lots of things you both like, none of which are tickling. If you become a one trick pony and that one trick is always and forever tickling, chances are the relationship will be shorter than longer. I don't push it 24-7 with my wife and we do lots of things and talk of lots of things and lo and behold she brings up tickling as much as I do and frequently when we are watching TV she places her bare, ticklish feet in my lap, knowing perfectly well I can't resist that. But i don't pull her feet there - she puts them there. So you have to ask yourself, is this relationship about you tickling her or is it about much more, of which tickling is just one aspect?

 

[scorpionldr]

Okay well in my recent threads I shared that I told my girlfriend everything, and she was really really cool about it all. (now keep in mind I'm stationed 7000 miles away, all these conversations are over texting and Skype) well since I told her just five days ago, and we talk nonstop 24-7 I have brought up the tickling thing here and there and she's never even remotely bothered by it. Which is all great fine and dandy however.. I dont wanna get too lax and forget that although she's cool with it, she doesn't enjoy it like I do, and constantly bring it up in conversation. Likeee I guess what I'm asking is, is there a way I can like get the idea of 'my girlfrien doesn't care and is going to let me tickle her so let me bring it up constantly' off my mind because it's all I've been thinking about lol

let's help you understand things. You're 7,000 miles away. she said "sometimes". That means if you mention it once in a while, its fine. The end.