Advice on how to tell a gf about my fetish?

[Boyo27]

So guys, I'm still pretty new around here and was just wondering for those of you who have come clean, was there any way you approached it that made it easier, or any techniques to break it slowly. I'm just not a very subtle person-blond mohawks tend to suggest that anyway but yeah just wanted to tell my gf because i think she has a tickling fetish as well so it would help keep things going between us.

 

[Kittycupcake]

Honesty. Plain old fashioned up front bluntness. I mean she obviously know and likes your unsubtle nature so there's no point trying to be all coy and tactful, even less so if you think she might share it!

 

[Boyo27]

Honesty. Plain old fashioned up front bluntness. I mean she obviously know and likes your unsubtle nature so there's no point trying to be all coy and tactful, even less so if you think she might share it!

yeah that seems to be the only way i can think but yeah thanks 🙂 btw i love your socks haha

 

[Justboy]

If you think she has a tickle fetish then maybe playfully tickle her and see how she reacts, of she appears to enjoy it, ask her if she's enjoying it as much as you are? If it's the other way round maybe place yourself in a position where she could get you and then tell her how much you like it.

I never came flat out and told my gf about either my tickle or foot fetish. I took it slowly and made the most of moments when I could give her a slight hints. It was easier to tell her how much I loved be tickled as she adores tickling me, but I def found it harder admitting I got turned on by her feet, but she seems to have accepted it. I'm yet to fully admit how much I want to tie her up and tickle her feet...but as she's not a big fan of being tickled herself I'll keep that one to myself for now!

 

[kcantankerous]

So guys, I'm still pretty new around here and was just wondering for those of you who have come clean, was there any way you approached it that made it easier, or any techniques to break it slowly. I'm just not a very subtle person-blond mohawks tend to suggest that anyway but yeah just wanted to tell my gf because i think she has a tickling fetish as well so it would help keep things going between us.

What is the extent of your fetish? Does it include bondage, tickle torture, gags, watching others being tickled, and what not or just straight tickling? Your answers will help get you better advice.

Thanks,
K

 

[Boyo27]

You make a pretty good point, and up until now I've mostly been testing the boundaries; she says she hates being tickled only because she's so ticklish, but her reluctance to let me tickle her is mostly because she wants to take it slow and i guess it either turns her on too much or makes her uncomfortable. Either way, apart from gags im up for all the things you listed above, though in terms of participating in them with someone else, that would depend entirely on them. My preferences are open but my possibilites aren't, as im pretty much limited to just playful tickling, flirty, joking, etc.

 

[kcantankerous]

You make a pretty good point, and up until now I've mostly been testing the boundaries; she says she hates being tickled only because she's so ticklish, but her reluctance to let me tickle her is mostly because she wants to take it slow and i guess it either turns her on too much or makes her uncomfortable. Either way, apart from gags im up for all the things you listed above, though in terms of participating in them with someone else, that would depend entirely on them. My preferences are open but my possibilites aren't, as im pretty much limited to just playful tickling, flirty, joking, etc.

I think you are on the right track by taking it slow. Nice light tickles with plenty of breaks, the foot fetish aspect should be pretty straight forward. I'd just tell her that you are literally attracted to her from head to toe. My limited experience in the dating/relationship arena has taught me that women generally don't have problem with receiving attention on their feet. As long as that is not your sole fixation pun intended.

Thanks,
K

 

[Boyo27]

Thanks for that one, you made it seem easier than i thought it could be. I owe you one!

 

[kcantankerous]

Keep me posted.

Thanks,
K

 

[-Hari-]

If you dont feel comfortable letting it out just make it so obvious that she guesses and the all you have to do is nod 😛

The first time I went about this was my first major gf, i introduced the idea of a little tie up just to make things a little more fun, she went with it, and of course it spiced up the bedroom times, after aa while of that I decided stage two was ready, as she was tying me up I made a point of tickling her loads with whatever free hand I had, by the time she had finished securing me down it was clearly time for revenge... I didnt ask her to stop and that along with a few other ..factors.. helped her see the truth and then the job was done.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Limericks. Informative and sympathetic, always.

 

[mopug]

I just told my girlfriend one day and she just accepted it. She's a vanilla herself, but she indulges my fetishes enough to keep me more than happy. If your fetish is a big part of who you are, then it's important to let that be known, otherwise you're in for some big disappointments. Plus it'll probably be less embarassing to tell her yourself than to have her find out any other way.

 

[skadude]

Honestly I've always told girls about my foot fetish...as it is more common, the tickling fetish kinda falls into place with it to most vanilla people. It makes the whole convo a bit easier and ends in the same results.

 

[scorpionldr]

So guys, I'm still pretty new around here and was just wondering for those of you who have come clean, was there any way you approached it that made it easier, or any techniques to break it slowly. I'm just not a very subtle person-blond mohawks tend to suggest that anyway but yeah just wanted to tell my gf because i think she has a tickling fetish as well so it would help keep things going between us.

........well, if your reasonably comfortable, make it simple; tickle her, make her laugh, show her a hardon, she'll get the message.

 

[Boyo27]

........well, if your reasonably comfortable, make it simple; tickle her, make her laugh, show her a hardon, she'll get the message.

and ill have a little flag saying SURPRISE hanging on my knob. haha not being a dickhead but thats a bit too abrupt for me

 

[Kittycupcake]

You make a pretty good point, and up until now I've mostly been testing the boundaries; she says she hates being tickled only because she's so ticklish, but her reluctance to let me tickle her is mostly because she wants to take it slow and i guess it either turns her on too much or makes her uncomfortable.

When I as getting to know my bf, one of our very very first conversations revolved around his love of tickling. My immediate reaction? "I'm the most ticklish girl in the world, and I HATE being tickled!". And now here I am, hanging out on the TMF, figuring out better ways to tie him up to wreak my revenge upon him. Just be honest and experiment!

and ill have a little flag saying SURPRISE hanging on my knob. haha not being a dickhead but thats a bit too abrupt for me

Ahahahaha and can you do this anyway? Just for comedic value?! If she's not impressed then she's obvs not girlfriend material! 😛

 

[Kittycupcake]

I didnt ask her to stop and that along with a few other ..factors.. helped her see the truth and then the job was done.

Heh heh heh......

 

[Boyo27]

When I as getting to know my bf, one of our very very first conversations revolved around his love of tickling. My immediate reaction? "I'm the most ticklish girl in the world, and I HATE being tickled!". And now here I am, hanging out on the TMF, figuring out better ways to tie him up to wreak my revenge upon him. Just be honest and experiment!

Ahahahaha and can you do this anyway? Just for comedic value?! If she's not impressed then she's obvs not girlfriend material! 😛

well it would be a matter of which surprise she would laugh at haha

 

[JoePTickle]

One day I just asked if she'd tickle my feet. She gladly did. She's still doing it today!

 

[Kittycupcake]

well it would be a matter of which surprise she would laugh at haha

You gots to take risks for your comedy sometimes! I vote it'd be worth it, but then again it's not my cock that'd be being laughed at if it went wrong!

 

[Boyo27]

You gots to take risks for your comedy sometimes! I vote it'd be worth it, but then again it's not my cock that'd be being laughed at if it went wrong!

hahaha your funny but if she started laughing at my knob then id just join in to make it pass easier. add in the absurdity of the situation and i would probably find it genuinly hilarious

 

[Kittycupcake]

hahaha your funny but if she started laughing at my knob then id just join in to make it pass easier. add in the absurdity of the situation and i would probably find it genuinly hilarious

So laughter all round, everybody wins! Made the tiny flag yet?!

 

[WorkInProgress]

The way it seems to me, it's a question, not of whether she'll accept the fact that you have the tickling fetish, but of whether she'll let you tickle her the way you'd like to, and be getting something out of it as opposed to making a sacrifice to please you. It's a matter of negotiating the method of lovemaking. And ultimately you do need to know how much common ground you have there, because if it's a dealbreaker for either of you, you'll have to deal with that sooner or later. This all, of course, comes in the larger context of he dynamics of the relationship in general.

 

[GQguy]

Call her up and tell her you have something very important to tell her. Tell her to come over. Sit her down. Sigh. And tell her you love tickling, pausing for effect as you tell her. ur favorite tickling video as further proof of your love of tickling. It's best to get it out in the open now.

I'm joking.....I kid I kid! Do not do what I just said!

Really...the best way to tell her is to tickle her every time before you guys are hooking up. Make sure she orgasms everytime you guys hook up too.

If she's having fun no one cares. There's no need to put labels on things. She'll know intuitively what a little tickling means. And it's a good thing! I think we tickle lovers forget that we don't OWN tickling. It's been used since the beginning of time by guys and girls flirting with one another and taking their relationship to a physical level. The only difference between us and them is that we like that phase a little too much. Nothing wrong with that. My point is it doesn't need to said. Any guy that tickles a girl they're attracted to will get turned on. How is that weird or something to stress over?

that's it.

GQ

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[Boyo27]

Call her up and tell her you have something very important to tell her. Tell her to come over. Sit her down. Sigh. And tell her you love tickling, pausing for effect as you tell her. ur favorite tickling video as further proof of your love of tickling. It's best to get it out in the open now.

I'm joking.....I kid I kid! Do not do what I just said!

Really...the best way to tell her is to tickle her every time before you guys are hooking up. Make sure she orgasms everytime you guys hook up too.

If she's having fun no one cares. There's no need to put labels on things. She'll know intuitively what a little tickling means. And it's a good thing! I think we tickle lovers forget that we don't OWN tickling. It's been used since the beginning of time by guys and girls flirting with one another and taking their relationship to a physical level. The only difference between us and them is that we like that phase a little too much. Nothing wrong with that. My point is it doesn't need to said. Any guy that tickles a girl they're attracted to will get turned on. How is that weird or something to stress over?

that's it.

GQ

Send thank you letters to my visitor wall.

well thats where we are now, but while were hooking up the tickling is usually so brief she is assuming that im just teasing.