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Advice please!

The most roomates I ever lived with were 3 other dudes. 2 of them were buddies, and one was an acquaintance. 2 of them would never clean their own dishes and would leave them on the living room floor, etc. I got pissed that I was the only one cleaning, so I would collectthe responsible party's dirty dishes and stack them on their bedroom floor.

I had to keep non-perishable food items stored in my closet, because one of those f*ckers would get into it. I also switched to non-fat milk and wrote my name all over the milk container (the a$$hole who drank my milk didn't like non-fat). The guy who was just an acquaintance always had his buddies over who would get drunk and stay over all night. It worked out well, because their loose change always fell between the couch cushions. Often times I would collect enough change from the couch to do my weekly laundry at the laundromat across the street 😉

The acquanitance ended up letting his little bro, who was a thief, stay with him at OUR apartment. We discovered that he'd been ripping off car stereos from neighbors, so we told the roomie to lose the bro immediately, which he did.

I finally got so irritated that my one good buddy and I got our own 2 bedroom apartment and abandoned the other 2. After my buddy and I moved on to other places, I never had a roomate again.....well, I've lived with two girlfriends (one turned into a wife....then an ex-wife).

To sum it all up, if you are moving in with "friends" then state your expectations of each other right away. Come up with rules which will enable you to all respect each other, each other's space, and each other's property/food. You'll also want to have a very clear understanding of who is responsible for cleaning what and when it is to be cleaned. Set up rules about having significant others spend the night and how many nights in a week is tolerable to the others (even though one might rent a room, the apartment itself is communal and thus pains should be taken to respect that). Make sure that there is a very clear understanding on bills and that everyone is responsible for coughing up their share. Someone will need to take charge and collect the money to be paid out to utilities and the landlord. I'm sure that later I'll think of other lessons I learned 😛
 
Pets! Pets are another big issue that are best resolved in the early going. If you're going to mutually agree pets are ok, you need to put rules on what types, what sizes, or even what breeds. There obviously needs to be a limit on the number of pets, and as a ground rule they need to look after their own animals and make sure they don't ruin or destroy anything. Responsibility is a very huge consideration as is liability.

It may be a good idea to avoid pets altogether.

Of course, you may have no choice if the landlord forbids them. So check with them before you consider a pet, either way.
 
cpr1815 said:
The most roomates I ever lived with were 3 other dudes. 2 of them were buddies, and one was an acquaintance. 2 of them would never clean their own dishes and would leave them on the living room floor, etc. I got pissed that I was the only one cleaning, so I would collectthe responsible party's dirty dishes and stack them on their bedroom floor.

I had to keep non-perishable food items stored in my closet, because one of those f*ckers would get into it. I also switched to non-fat milk and wrote my name all over the milk container (the a$$hole who drank my milk didn't like non-fat). The guy who was just an acquaintance always had his buddies over who would get drunk and stay over all night. It worked out well, because their loose change always fell between the couch cushions. Often times I would collect enough change from the couch to do my weekly laundry at the laundromat across the street 😉

The acquanitance ended up letting his little bro, who was a thief, stay with him at OUR apartment. We discovered that he'd been ripping off car stereos from neighbors, so we told the roomie to lose the bro immediately, which he did.

I finally got so irritated that my one good buddy and I got our own 2 bedroom apartment and abandoned the other 2. After my buddy and I moved on to other places, I never had a roomate again.....well, I've lived with two girlfriends (one turned into a wife....then an ex-wife).

To sum it all up, if you are moving in with "friends" then state your expectations of each other right away. Come up with rules which will enable you to all respect each other, each other's space, and each other's property/food. You'll also want to have a very clear understanding of who is responsible for cleaning what and when it is to be cleaned. Set up rules about having significant others spend the night and how many nights in a week is tolerable to the others (even though one might rent a room, the apartment itself is communal and thus pains should be taken to respect that). Make sure that there is a very clear understanding on bills and that everyone is responsible for coughing up their share. Someone will need to take charge and collect the money to be paid out to utilities and the landlord. I'm sure that later I'll think of other lessons I learned 😛

Wow. I love bananas, and I started having to buy two bunches at a time. I like them fairly ripe, but my roommates would devour them all before they turned yellow. Never did find a way around that.

I took to washing my own dishes right after using them, because my roommates each had 3-4 people over per day, often making fancy messy meals and sharing them, and I would use maybe a fork all day. So I'd be damned if I was washing all those dishes that were just thrown in the sink. Eventually they'd pile up because they'd tell each other, hey, he never does the dishes, let him wash them for once. Ironic. I informed them that all of those dishes were theirs.

Dishes seem to be a major world problem.
 
Okay, here's my theory with roommates...

Roommates are usually awesome, but I don't suggest moving into a place with your best of friends, usually make it people you wouldn't mind losing eventually... the reason for this is roommates tend to argue over STUPID things all the time.
 
Thanks for everything guys! And keep it coming.

Miss Val, your suggestion was something I genuinely hadn't thought of; thank you. I own a mac, but the general principle still stands 😛 lol

Thanks again 🙂
 
Just to echo what others have said: Make sure that you know and trust these people, and that you have an advance agreement regarding guests, pets, and etc.

My little brother once found a roommate through a roommate matching service. Once they had both moved in, my brother discovered, to his extreme annoyance, that his new roommate was a raging pothead. The guy was also perpetually broke, and kept using my brother's things.

The final straw came when my poor little brother came home to find a bonafide BUM camped out on their couch. His idiot roommate had met the guy on the street, been asked for change, and offered to let the hobo crash at their apartment.



MistressValerie said:
I would suggest using a strong Windows password on your computer, and a BIOS password as well if that option is available. When away from the computer, always remember to lock it with the Windows-logo button + L.


This is very good advice. I would also place a password on your screensaver, just in case you forget to shut down or lock your computer.

Just remember that passwords are virtually worthless on certain older versions of Windows. Also, if your roommate is a really nosy creep, most BIOS passwords can be overcome by opening the computer case and removing the battery from your mobo for a few seconds.
 
Just be careful who you live with. I let someone move in when my original roomate moved out. 5 months later he raped my fiancee.

MAKE SURE YOU KNOW WHO IS COMING IN!! Don't go throught the hell my wife and endured because of that poor choice on my end....
 
Another thing to possibly consider is what your neighbors think of these people and how they interact with your roommates. If your roomies can't get along with your neighbors, then that could lead to a whole mess of problems later on, since your roomies may do spiteful little things (like blocking access to car ports, mail boxes, leaving trash lying around, etc.) to aggitate your neighbors or get back at them.

If you're aware of this activity and your neighbors are clearly at war with your roomies, you need to be able to either solve the problem or ask them them to move out. It's not your neighbor's responsibility to change unless they are the agressors.

This is especially true if you've already lived there some time before your roomies moved in. If you had a good relationship with your neighbors, but now its bad because of your roomies then they're obviously disrupting the peace and creating a hostile living place.

It's better for everyone to get a roommate(s) that isn't going to cause trouble in the neighborhood. So, in other words, their personality has alot to do with it also. Being able to just pay the bills, provide their fare share, and live by the house rules isn't enough.

They need to be dependable in all aspects and need to be emotionally stable. If you get someone with a short-fuse or someone whose a lush then you're asking for it, since all sorts of things could happen, in or around your house.

While it may seem rude to some, I'd suggest a background check.

You could be living with a pedophile for all you know, and simply being with them could get you in trouble.

Because you know who you're going to be living with, I guess this wouldn't apply to you though.
 
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