Almost killed your partner in a tickling session?

[mmafankennylee]

Hello all,

So recently, I tickled my girlfriend to the point where she had trouble breathing. Her armpits are super ticklish, so I like to tickler her there.

I didn't do anything out of the ordinary, I normally just play with her and it's all good and fun.

But she started choking since she was laughing so hard, so I immediately stopped. This had never happened before. It was to the point where I got really really scared since she started coughing and gasping for air. She said she had asthma when she was younger, but she doesn't use an inhaler now. She said it's totally fine and laughed it off, but I'm really scared and would like thoughts from the forum. Can this be dangerous if I tickle her too much?

 

[Leo tickles]

Air's important. If you need a forum to tell you that...oh boy.

 

[BellybTickler]

Okay .. SAFEWORDS ARE YOU FRIEND!

Use a safeword from now on! If you're worried about her being able to say it, have her hold say a quarter or some small object of which she will release to symbolize the point she has had enough and is done!

For Christ sake! Exercise more caution!

 

[rhiannon]

This is the reason why you have safewords! And if you realize she has trouble breathing, STOP IMMEDIATELY! Trouble breathing means also trouble speaking!

Same thing with coughing - someone coughs, you stop immediately, and it might be necessary to let them sit up!

 

[P[a]pi]

When I hear a cough I stop, let her get it out, then continue. If it's continuous coughing then I'd say she has an issue from the asthma (smoker's can have this too). In that case you just shouldn't tickle her as much. Give her more frequent breaks. You can still play with her, you just have to manage her differently.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

yes, it is Dangerous with a capitol D.

 

[Gothika]

safeword is always good and always watching her reactions is always good if u notice something not quite right stop

 

[nenezinho]

Everyone already said all that needs to be said about the dangers and the need to stop if she has no air left!!!

Now on the other side, if she wants to last longer, she can allways work on her stamina. People who have asthma (like me) usually have trouble working into good aerobic levels, but that doesnt mean it´s not possible, it´s only a bit harder for us and it takes a bit more effort. The thing with us is that we take longer to work into higher levels and we usually drop fast if we dont practice. Smoking is also a total killer for us, even more then for normal people.

Still, we can achieve a lot! When I was a kid I was allways told about a portuguese woman who once won a Marathon Olympic gold medal. This lady had also asthma and she had to work herself like crazy in order to achieve such a level. She was "Rosa Mota" and you can look for her online here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosa_Mota

 

[No_Style]

Okay .. SAFEWORDS ARE YOU FRIEND!

Use a safeword from now on! If you're worried about her being able to say it, have her hold say a quarter or some small object of which she will release to symbolize the point she has had enough and is done!

For Christ sake! Exercise more caution!

ahh this! thats really dangerous. I'm sure everyone will be saying this, but you need to be careful. Not only can you hurt your partner, she may not want to do it again/not trust you. safeword it up man!

 

[ElFewja]

Sorry, there isn't any evidence that a safeword was not already in play. This event could have happened with one anyway.

Although you say your partner has had asthma issues in the past this could have easily occurred from saliva going down the wrong pipe or something strange like that. Regardless if she does have asthma issues I would suggest having her inhaler nearby during sessions. Would also look into some basic first aid techniques as well. I mean, everyone should learn first aid but I would say your current case might have a higher chance to utilize those sorts of skills.

But to answer your question: no, I've never had any drastic situations during a session. A few banged heads or elbows to the gut, fell out of a bed once but that's it. Not even a bruise or a scratch.

 

[robmic]

If you can't understand distress from your 'lee and stop before they really start having problems......., maybe you shouldn't be doing this........

 

[coldneck]

Relax bud, you're doing everything right.
You're paying attention, and that's what's important here.

A safeword isn't foolproof, and I really don't believe in them, but that's another topic.

You've got a good thing going.
Stay vigilant.
Trust me, tickling a corpse isn't all it's cracked up to be.

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

"S" for safeword and Smurf blue, too. "S" for stack some heavy stones on her chest...... I have often wondered if some of the "death from tickling" stories were not respiratory ailment related. Glad we could clear the air, so to speak. ***the award for Smart"S" post goes to GT***

 

[primetime]

Wow... I don't think a safeword was the issue with the situation here. It's more like an accident. Notice the OP didn't state his girlfriend was pissed off at him. I don't think he intentionally tried to torment her. He noticed something was wrong and he stopped.

To answer his question, yes it would have been dangerous if you kept going. Good thing you recognized she was in trouble and STOPPED.

 

[robmic]

That is true primetime, but the problem is that I think he waited a little too long before he stopped. That's where you need to really pay attention.

 

[c7_assassin]

Stories about tickling someone to death have generally been labelled apocryphal around here whenever it's come up. But if she has a breathing issue, it's conceivable that you might actually be putting her in danger. Actually I might talk to a doctor.

 

[powerslideX]

If you are that inexperienced then you definitely need a safeword like everybody has said.. Besides that, part of being a good tickler is being able to take a person right to their limit and toying with that fine line but not overshooting it. It doesn't mean killing them. By using a little restraint and observation, you can use there reactions to make the experience 100% more intense for them without making it nearly as physically taxing. Tickling like you are doing is what 10 year olds do. It doesn't mean you are a super good tickler...... ALSO>>>> If you paste this fetish all over the news with the headline 'Man kills woman with tickle fetish' I and most of the people here will be violently pissed. This fetish gets enough bad publicity at times and we dont need any more. People already think we are strange, and because of that people that have this fetish may never explore it because the vanilla world thinks we tickle our girlfriends TILL THEY DIE!

 

[BellybTickler]

Relax bud, you're doing everything right.
You're paying attention, and that's what's important here.

A safeword isn't foolproof, and I really don't believe in them, but that's another topic.

You've got a good thing going.
Stay vigilant.
Trust me, tickling a corpse isn't all it's cracked up to be.

He didn't do SHIT right.

He obviously doesn't know his partner enough to NOT use a safeword.

He should use a safeword until he knows his partner inside and out.

 

[ticklemepls]

lordy..... you need to use safewords (as stated before)...
YES IT CAN BE DANGEROUS IF SHE'S CHOKING! (that was a rhetorical question I hope!)

You also probably should start slow and work up to it... you need to know her limits much better so even if she CANT safeword- you know you're pushing the limit and need to back off... learn her body and her limits and for god sake USE SAFEWORDS.

 

[ticklemepls]

He didn't do SHIT right.

He obviously doesn't know his partner enough to NOT use a safeword.

He should use a safeword until he knows his partner inside and out.

didnt read this before i posted my response but YES! this exactly!
anyone who says differently is looking through rose glasses 😛

 

[No_Style]

also, even if she had a safeword...she was either unable to say it or didn't say it in time before she had a asthma attack...maybe you went too harsh on her at first. whatever happened, you and your girlfriend should talk this out. Obviously you're getting a lot of mixed comments here.

 

[Sandisk444]

My girlfriend also has very mild asthma and doesn't use an inhaler so I'm kind of in the same boat you're in, I mean I've never pushed her that far but I'm scared about it.

 

[Mane'o]

to the OP's original question, can it be dangerous - yes and to echo Leo's comment, if you have to ask the forum, take it easy.

 

[Angel77]

Not here to judge as you seemed to have learned from what happened (let's face it, not every situation goes as planned and sometimes things happen). Thankfully it ended up ok for you guys. I'm with the others who have mentioned practicing the use of a safeword. Coughing definitely means that folks need air, whether or not they have asthma. Start of slow and learn her cues and signals. And make sure she knows it's ok to speak up and that you'll listen to her.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

You can't make an omelette unless you break a few eggs.

In other words , a tickle-partner or two may have to die before you finally perfect your technique.

Keep practicin'!