Almost non-consensual

[Oddjob0226]

It used to be the same way with me. But that's what safewords are for. The lee, especially if they have never experienced something like that before, should always be the one who decides when enough is enough!

There are a couple of video companies that promote their stuff here; they take "first timers" and put them through the tickling process without even informing them about safewords, taking advantage of their inexperience. No one says a thing to them.

And safewords are still a fairly new concept. True, they were developed because they were needed, but on the other hand people went for decades without them. And what they started out as and have become are two different things as well.

Plus the fact that the thread is more about a non-DBSM/fetish situation, overall. So the ultimate power (and responsibility) falls on the 'ler who is controlling the situation (rather than the "scene") while having that control willingly handed over. That person has to find that fine line between pushing a boundary.... and going to far.

And there's not really a mathmatical way for that. The 'ler just needs to be conscious and courteous of and for his plaything. But it will still be challenging for the 'lee no matter what - it's tickling.