Anger - How do you stop?

[Wicker Man]

Is there anyway to stop a temper? A temper is like the flame that ignites the gasoline leading to an inferno! Although the posts here have been very helpful about quelling deep seated anger, I havent seen any about handling a bad temper...especially if it seems to run in your family. 😡

 

[WorkInProgress]

The two things I would suggest are: (1.) On the surface, identify the behavior you want to diminish, and just make an ongoing mental note to catch yourself and stop when you feel yourself starting, a matter of strategy. (2.) Getting below the surface, work on discovering what it is, fundamentally, that you're angry about, because I think a hot temper is a symptom of being fundamentally angry at things in your past and in your life.

 

[Wicker Man]

Well Work, the first part of your post is very hard to do yet necessary. The second part is also necessary but also very interesting. Imagine getting to the root of the problem, you might just break down in tears. What I mean is maybe its possible that what youre really angry at...is yourself. Think about it, I did.

 

[WorkInProgress]

>> What I mean is maybe its possible that what
>> youre really angry at...is yourself. Think
>> about it, I did.


That's not necessarily a bad thing to discover. That is indeed a road I'm on. Realize, I don't just call myself Work In Progress because I'm a writer with lots of works in progress. The name also means that I'm a work in progress. So are you--and that's an empowering thought.