Ann wrote this before TMF came into being...

[lovedemfeet]

From an old Ann Landers article I kept (for obvious reasons!)---dated 8-29-93:

Bud the "tickling maniac" has some screws loose

Dear Ann Landers:
Please settle our first fight. "Bud" and I have been dating for four months, and I really love him. The problem is that lately he has become a tickling maniac. At first I thought it was funny, but now, he's driving me crazy.

Last night, he actually tied my hands and held me in a chair while his best friend took off my shoes and hose and tickled the bottom of my feet with a feather for what seemed like an eternity.

When they finally untied me, I used some words I didn't know I knew. Now Bud is mad at me and says I made a big scene over nothing. I claim that what he did was not normal. He says I'm the one who's loony.

It took me months to get this guy to notice me and ask me out. This first fight is killing me. What do you make of it?
Still Rattled

Dear Still Rattled: Your "dreamboat" has a streak of sadism an inch thick and a yard wide. To tickle for fun, for a few seconds, is OK. But to tie a girl's hands and invite a buddy as part of the act is pretty sick stuff, and you'd better recognize it now before the kook graduates to whips and chains.

What would YOUR answer to her have been? Be serious or funny. (and any ladies who'd like to recreate the scene to test Ann's theory---contact me via my Yahoo ID.)

 

[Tickler Bart]

If he did this without her consent or prior knowledge, then I would have a problem with that.
I am NOT a fan of REAL non-consenual ANYTHING.
He probably already knew that she would never go for it, so he 'suprised' her.
To be honest . . . he DOES seem to have a problem with control.
This, of course, is only MY opinion.

 

[the wiz]

Dear Still Rattled:

Ann Landers is an old out dated heck who needs to go someplace and expire. (i forgot she is dead)

I would say that he was wrong for tying you down, and allowing his friend to tickle you without your permission. However, tickling do not make him sick. Your meat loaf does.

BTW; when can i get a shoot at your ticklish soles. 😀

 

[Dandy Jack]

The guy just likes tickling!

Dear Still Rattled:

Ann Landers is an old out dated heck who needs to go someplace and expire. (i forgot she is dead)

I would say that he was wrong for tying you down, and allowing his friend to tickle you without your permission. However, tickling do not make him sick. Your meat loaf does.

BTW; when can i get a shoot at your ticklish soles. 😀

I personally see nothing wrong with it. Ann Landers was behind the times, misinformed and gave some improper advice. If she wanted to date that guy she would have to learn to enjoy being tickled.

Although being tied up can cause some issues... he introduced her to his world. If she could not handle it then perhaps they were not right for each other.

She may have liked being a tickle victim. Maybe.

I think the guy did the right thing. Take a shot at what you enjoy in life.

I have a girlfriend who wants no part of tickling. I think it is selfish and leaves her in a position where a willing ticklish girl will have the edge.

She may have to go. There is no substitute for passion. I have a passion for tickling and all of it's aspects.

Dandy Jack

 

[labgirl73]

Dear Still Rattled:

we either accept things and work through them or we don't. if you want to continue your relationship, the two of you need to have a conversation about what's acceptable to both of you. it sounds to me like there's been some consensus since he feels it's ok to tickle you. besides, pushing limits can be a great thing. the only issue i see is having the best friend involved, but again, a conversation would clarify your personal boundries. (even if the consensus conversation means you get no say so) 😉

 

[milagros317]

My answer would have been:

Dear Rattled,

You must have a talk with your boyfriend about tickling so there will be no surprises in the future. Make it clear what your boundaries are: whether you will accept bondage in future or not, whether you want his buddies to participate or not, and what time limit you want. It would be good to use a "safeword," that is, a word that you say when and only when you want to stop IMMEDIATELY.

If he won't respect your boundaries or let you use a safeword, then break up with him right now.

 

[the wiz]

I personally see nothing wrong with it. Ann Landers was behind the times, misinformed and gave some improper advice. If she wanted to date that guy she would have to learn to enjoy being tickled.

Although being tied up can cause some issues... he introduced her to his world. If she could not handle it then perhaps they were not right for each other.

She may have liked being a tickle victim. Maybe.

I think the guy did the right thing. Take a shot at what you enjoy in life.

I have a girlfriend who wants no part of tickling. I think it is selfish and leaves her in a position where a willing ticklish girl will have the edge.

She may have to go. There is no substitute for passion. I have a passion for tickling and all of it's aspects.

Dandy Jack

ALLLLLLLL RIGHTY THEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!😀

 

[EvilTickler82]

Well, talking with your girlfriend about tickling, and then tying her up to tickle & tease her a little is one thing... even though I think she should agree on being tied up, and not be surprised and dominated by your power.
But having her tickled by a friend against her will is something totally different... that's absolutely sick, and in my opinion not tolerable!
The guy should have prepared her well for her first tickling session, and should have tried without bondage. The way he acted is absolutely inacceptable.
So for her, the only proper advice is: go get a real man, and not an asshole as that guy is!

Regards,
Tom

 

[maniactickler]

That letter was hot!

 

[comandatuba]

I would have loved to have tied up and tickled Ann Landers back in her day. I think she would have liked it.

 

[YugoScratchNSnf]

Bud the "tickling maniac" has some screws loose

Dear Ann Landers:
Please settle our first fight. "Bud" and I have been dating for four months, and I really love him. The problem is that lately he has become a tickling maniac. At first I thought it was funny, but now, he's driving me crazy.

Last night, he actually tied my hands and held me in a chair while his best friend took off my shoes and hose and tickled the bottom of my feet with a feather for what seemed like an eternity.

When they finally untied me, I used some words I didn't know I knew. Now Bud is mad at me and says I made a big scene over nothing. I claim that what he did was not normal. He says I'm the one who's loony.

It took me months to get this guy to notice me and ask me out. This first fight is killing me. What do you make of it?
Still Rattled

Dear Still Rattled:

When he finally "noticed" you, were you barefoot or wearing flip-flops by any chance? After he untied you, one of those words you used and didn't know you knew was probably Knismolagnia, which is the experience of sexual gratification from the act of tickling. That's what your "dreamboat" has. Wait, did I just say "dreamboat"? I think I'll drive to a burger joint and ask the waitress on roller skates for a milkshake. Good heavens, this guy is a KOOK! Next thing you know you'll discover some "cheesecake" magazines of his, where little trollups stand around and smile for the camera with little or no clothes on! I say you tell this guy to "hit the road, jack", before your neighbors Mildred and Ethel are gossiping over some tea about the screaming and laughing they hear coming from your house! Goodness gracious what is this world coming to??

 

[drew70]

Dear Still Rattled,

Listen to Ann. Her advice is sound. This guy is more interested in getting his rocks off than meeting any needs you might have. This is likely not to change for the better at any time in the forseeable future.

Dump him and find a man that actually cares about YOU.

 

[nostradamas]

Dear Still Rattled

It's not real.

The feather, the fantasy. Yeah, right.

No one on earth submits to bondage without consent.
Do you know how hard it is to tie someone up against their will??
It's really hard...believe me.

If she hated it that much then she would have called the cops. For Real.


Someone is fucking with you, Ann.

Wake up and smell the coffee.

Sincerely,

Tickled Pink in Michigan

 

[Iishieboo]

I'm kind of offended that it would be called "sick".... I mean some research done on the subject would have been nice and well deserved. A person shouldn't write on what they know nothing of.

Haha! But I guess everyone has his or her own opinion.. and opinions are like... something. 😛

I think that if the lady agreed upon it then it's all good... if not, well, then she should be wary. *nod nod*

P.S. Serves you right, Still Rattled, for being so desperate to get your hands on him anyway. Don't you think you should talk about this kind of stuff before you get into a relationship and especially before an intimate/sexual relationship? I mean... common sense. XP

 

[tickleking]

Dear Still Rattled:

Next time ditch the hose before you get to his house. Rumor has it that it makes the tickling much more torturous.

Kitchy Kitchy Koo!

 

[rhiannon]

Digging out dead threads again? 🙂

Anyways, some answers in this thread make me hope the people are just joking!

 

[tickleking]

Digging out dead threads again? 🙂

Anyways, some answers in this thread make me hope the people are just joking!

Sorry for the bump. I actually googled the original Ann Landers article and found it here. I don't recall ever reading this thread, and some of the responses were so funny I had to respond 🙂

 

[WorkInProgress]

I think Ann Landers' response was very reasonable. If the guy were capable of respecting boundaries, I don't think the incident would have happened. The fact that he teamed up with a friend, without the woman's consent, shows that he regards the woman as a toy to be shared among friends. How Ann Landers would have responded to a letter about consensual fetish tickling is hard to gauge, unless someone can find one, but since she was presented with a nonconsensual act here, I think she responded reasonably. Moreover, the fact that the guy was unmoved by the woman's anger and insisted that she was making a big deal out of it proves that he has no respect for her feelings. Maybe whips and chains won't be next, but what he did was bad enough. She would be making a horrendous mistake to stay with him.

 

[Babbles]

^What he said, only he was much more civilized.

Ann Landers was too kind, I'd have told the victim she should file a police report for unlawful imprisonment, cruel & unusual assault, etc., whatever possible. Especially if the FREAK --- and yes, that bastard's a FREAK ---
taped it.

--- Tying her against her will just to begin ----

--- Sharing her like #@$%ing merchandise with a buddy

--- Ignoring her additional discomfort with tickling/torture No safeword, no consent ---

--- Mocking her distress/anger afterward WTF??? THIS IS A "BOYFRIEND?" Not.

== TWO Massive ASSHOLES who need to learn force is inappropriate, ideally in a small cell with two MUCH LARGER assholes. Or I hope she comes from a Family that can assist her with appropriate payback 😀

As far as those who actually think this is funny (any year), well, I hope you spend your quality time with internet porn rather than the women you clearly have no respect for either.

 

[asutickler]

That letter reads in what I'd consider to be a highly suspicious manner. It sounds an awful lot like some guy hoping to get Ann Landers to publish his tickle fantasy, and I'd sincerely question whether/why the actual victim of such an incident would write to Ann Landers instead of just dumping the guy and calling the police. Going on the assumption that the letter is authentic, however...

When deciding what is and is not appropriate in dealing with the opposite sex, I generally ask myself the following simple question: "Would the action that I'm about to undertake make me want to assault, maim, and/or kill someone who did it to one of my female friends or relatives?"

In the instance described in that letter, the answer is a resounding "yes."

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

OK, OK, He's a real 'lerser" and jerk!!

He used a feather, so hell yes he needs help, and not just with technique.... 😉 The trust issues, voyeur witness, bondage with lack of safeword or model release form, etc. have all been justly dealt with by the previous responses. Ann did say she of course got many fake letters and accused Yalies of having a 'lock" on those. I do remember the series of tickling issues letters she received as referrenced above. BTW, did her twin Dear Abby, not get any tickle issue letters?

 

[Knox The Hatter]

My reaction was the same as ASU's when I read it. I may not be as quick to pick out the fake in the chat as I am to sniff out bullshit letters, but, yeah, I'm good at it.

My feelings about non-consensual tickling are that it can be a form of rape, and have the same psychological effects...it's repugnant to me. So, the concept of the scenario in the letter chills me.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Asutickler could be right.

 

[Dandy Jack]

It's not that bad

Asutickler could be right.

I know this is an old tread but ASUtickler can be wrong...

I think the guy did the right thing. Take a shot at what you enjoy in life.

Unless she files charges... she is just the victim of tickling...

Can the guy warn her and say...I'm going to tickle you now please standby...

If they are having fun...where is the real harm... I see none...

When I was younger I was gang tickled many times...no one ever warned

me... the element of surprise is where the fun comes in...

Dandy Jack...

 

[Mitchell]

asu may have a point. As to the letter itself, and the situation.

Two problems I have with what the guy did. One, non consensual tickling for a long period of time. A no-no in my book. Even if I wasn't "Into tickling" as I am, it would be one thing.. to.. for instance.. playfully tickle my gf or wifes bare feet for a brief period of time every once in a while. It is quite another to tie someone up against their will, tickle them non consensually, and then, compound the incident by having someone else tickle them.. also non consensually. No.

The guy who did this has serious problems, and the girl should do one of two things. If she really loved him, tell him in no uncertain terms that if it ever happened again, they were finished. Or.. if she felt the incident was that severe enough, dump the guy immediately with no warning.

I never saw that article posted before. A very important post, in my view. Thanks to the person who posted that.

Mitch