Another question: Group or one-on-one tickling?

[dvnc]

Hi all,

Gettin' back to focusin' on the reason for this fine forum, I figured I'd ask another question. Shake the tree a little, and see what falls.

The question of the moment is this: Do you prefer group tickling or one-on-one tickling?

I personally like 'em both, for different reasons. In both cases, the implication, to me, is serious tickling play, as opposed to the casual innocent stuff where my friend's daughter asks to be tickled. The innocent stuff is appropriately innocent. This concerns the stuff beyond innocence, to me. May not, for others. Contradict me, and show your perspective, where it's different, too. I wanna know what's thought, here.

In the serious play, I prefer the one-on-one stuff for the eroticism, though I prefer the group stuff for it's novelty, strangeness, and social value. I'm friends with nearly all the 'lees with whom I'm fortunate enough to play. It's delightful. I really dig group play, even though there's no sexuality being exploited there.

Contribute, if you please. Thanks!

dvnc

 

[Sandman]

HATE group. Reason is because part of the reason I LOVE to tickle is to find out there worst spots... Say I run my fingers up and down the girls arms and she is going nuts with laughter, but a buddy of mine is tickling her feet and sides at the same time. Now I have no clue which spot is truley making her go nuts. I like it one on one so I can find them all myself.

 

[Haltickling]

As dvnc says, one-on-one tickling seems to improve the eroticism and intimacy of the action.

I've only had 5 'group' sessions so far, two girls and me taking turns as ticklee. Only the first of them was in a private circle (in a hotel room in Cairo/Egypt of all places), the others happened with well-paid girls at BDSM studios. All of these encounters were highly erotic for me, and there's nothing like a good four-handed tickling. I enjoyed them tremendously!

Still I wouldn't have liked a 3rd or 4th partner in the tickling sessions I used to have with my former wife. We were such a good team, understanding each other even without words. We both knew exactly when to stop, and how to push the limits. That's reserved for a good one-on-one partnership only, I guess.

 

[dodger]

Most definitely prefer one on one. Very sensuous that way. The ticklee's entire world at that moment is devoted to what the tickler does. Awesome. Very sexual!

 

[terorizer]

A HA!!!! Finally Found ONE!

A thread with few enough posts that I could reply without having to make a list of who said what! LOL I am going to have to start checking in more often or just start my own threads!

In terms of spontaneous tickling, I have no preferences. When a ticklefight or tickle test breaks out in a room full of my friends, I'm thinking it's pretty awesome. When I go out with a woman and it happens without me initiating it... (and sometimes without me even thinking about initiating it! YIPPEEE!!! hehehe), I think that's equally awesome. As far as actual tickle "play", (something organized or agreed upon), I never have any desire for group play. I only actively desire one on one.

Nevertheless, I do enjoy experiencing group play. While I may not have the desire to participate, I love to see people receiving pleasure in such a unique and special way. To echo DVNC, there's also an incredible energy that inhabits a place and space when Lees and Lers get together and do what comes naturally. An insatiable Lee + 4 eager Lers = some of the most hilarious commentary, utterances, reactions, sounds and one liners you've ever heard! LOL

 

[TickledToDeath]

Hmmmm interesting question.
Each has its advantages or excitement.
There are times when I prefer one over the other depending on the situation. Each scenario is very exciting whether I am the tickler or the ticklee.



TTD

 

[SoleProprietor]

Group is a lot of fun to be a witness of...how I do love to watch. 🙂
And while I am not averse to joining others go to town on some poor 'Lee, I prefer the more personal touch of one on one. Just you, your partner....your wiggly fingers, and a vast and intimidating array of implements.

Very sensual indeed.

 

[hawkikim]

All for one or one for all or one for one or....

Another really good question, DVNC. My initial reaction is "Well, I like both equally", but then giving it more thought, I agree with a lot of the other replies that each has a different place for me. One on one isn't necessarily more erotic, I have been tickled by a single 'ler without there being anything sexual about it.

But, where it IS for erotic intent, it DEFINITELY would have to be one-on-one. I would find those reactions far too....um...embarrassing in a group situation.

But what can I say....I just like being tickled.

Kim

 

[Purvis]

What Tero said. 🙂


Purvis

 

[Tickler2001]

Interesting topic

One on one tickling speaks for itself.
However gang-tickling does add a great humiliation thing into it. Most victims would probably find it more embarrassing to be involitarily losing total control in front of a group of people. Especially if it is a spur of the moment thing. I really love this sort of tickling as well.
As far as an actual tickle gathering, I don't think its my thing. Not with a room full of somewhat strangers anyway. Maybe if all my trusted friends were into tickling it would be more appealing.

 

[njjen3953]

Oh No. Revealing yet another of my secrets.

First, I agree with most of you that one on one with that special someone is the most erotic form of tickling.

But.....

Being the exibitionist I am, I have found that as a ticklee in a group, my sensativity increases by almost double. I have been at parties where Master Pete and I are in a one on one scene and a crowd appears. Pete is very generous and will always offer a part of me to interested on lookers. 😱
All of a sudden, I am in a state of frenetic hypersensativity.

Bottom line, I love both.

Jen

 

[Joe98]

If 3 people on 3 different ocasions tickle 1 woman 1 person at a time, then when they tickle her as a group, they will already be familiar with her body. Another way is for 1 person to tickle her while the others watch. Later when the group joins in, each person will know how ticklish she is where they touch her.

 

[QBWeaver]

Group or one/one

Both are terrific but there are degrees.

It seems that during a group scene I'm able to internalize my feelings. The sexuality that is so linked with my ticklishness is subdued. I don't let it surface and yet the fire inside builds and builds still.

When I'm in a one on one it can, but doesn't always have to be, very sexual for me. It depends on the guy and what level of play we want. I have a play partner that I can play with and get VERY sexual with. That's the BEST! It's my fantasies all come true.

And then there are guys I play with where it's only tickling and nothing more. This is actually the majority of my one on one tickling.

All three are incredibly satisfying to me and although I'm exhausted afterwards... it still leaves me anxious for more. That feeling is so foreign to me because I truly HATE being tickled. Yet I love it too. I fight like a caged animal to get away so bondage is almost always a must. But there's one guy who's able to hold me down and get me. I haven't hurt him yet but I've come close. He's just too darned strong!

So... if I had to decide between one on one and group... I'd just say Yes!

 

[QBWeaver]

You got it right Babe... sexual but not erotic.

 

[Oddjob0226]

I prefer one on one (or two on one, one on two, whatever) as a 'ler AND a 'lee - easier to communicate with your partner; in theory, easier to trust one person than a group if things get too intense; and the psychology of one person tormenting another and no one to stop it...Oh, my! This is where one's fantasies and what was (or supposedly was) historical reality kind of meld.... the dependence on one person's trust to let you know that too much is too much ( as a 'ler ) or that it will go far, but not too far (as a 'lee)..plus it's easier to concentrate on the verbal teasing/torment. It just seems more psychologically tormenting & intimate, if you want that. I do, in both roles.

But as far as pure physical torment goes, as a 'lee, being at the non-exsistant mercy of a group can definately be fun, at best, or give you an incredible test of endurance at worst... ALL that tickling at once! All the different voices tormenting your mind! I've had some good experiences as a 'lee like this, and want more....this is where pure fantasy takes over (you're stranded on an uncharted island and three warrior women kidnap you...etc...!!!!)

I just don't like a group scene as a 'ler, and I hate to be wathced in either role - & this has kept me from having even more fun in the past... it's kind of a mental stumbling block for me, I guess, but I feel like - hello? I'm doing something here - why are you lingering around? ( I actaully have a kind of 'stage fright' or performance anxiety in either role when being watched; even have trouble asking to join in or get a scene going if people are just there, hanging out, which I guess goes back to the years of shame of hiding this AND the sensual/sexual/erotic connection tickling can pose...I don't perform foreplay in front of others, I don't perform sex in front of others - while tickling isn't the same thing, it just feels wierd to me to have others there wathcing as a dom, or worse, when I sub).

 

[njjen3953]

I just don't like a group scene as a 'ler, and I hate to be wathced in either role - & this has kept me from having even more fun in the past... it's kind of a mental stumbling block for me, I guess, but I feel like - hello? I'm doing something here - why are you lingering around?

Mike,
Make sure you and Marc can get me there in the spring. You will see the benefits of having anaudience.😀

Jen

 

[TicklingIsLife]

Hmmm....interested question!
I guess if I am the tickler, group tickling would be more torturous, but then if I am the only tickler it would always feel that I am in charge of everything
If I am the ticklee I would wet my pants if I had 50 fingers all over my helpless body, but with one tickler I would be thinking about what he/she will be doing next, she would be in control of me 🙂




So i guess this could go either way! 🙄 😕

 

[QBWeaver]

I just remember, although through a fog, that there were about 8? 10? Oh I don't know. But many people around the table at my first NEST tickling NON stop and I never had a second where someone wasn't tickling me somewhere. I was laughing VERY hard and I don't know how long it took (seemed an eternity) but I passed out! I warned them that I could. And they were prepared! LOL

The problem I have now is that our local group can tell when I'm about to fade out so they give me a breather. So the tickling goes on for longer periods of time... Darn it anyway! LOL

But just to see that many hands and fingers coming my way puts me over the edge into panic city which makes me even MORE ticklish!

 

[dvnc]

That's just 'cause we love ya, Jan, and it's for your own good. 😉

I now want to be there when evilqueen succumbs to the temptation of a group tickling, as 'lee or 'ler. It's good to have goals in life. 😀

Oddjob, performance anxiety is somethin' everyone gets, at first. Fourth or fifth gathering later, you forget about anything but where you're tickling, until that bad ole DVNC tell's ya t'stop, 'cause Jan's tryin' t'pass out. Seriously, brother, it's somethin' t'which you acclimate. Once you're used to it, it's nearly impossible to remember why it bugged you at all.

dvnc

 

[Oddjob0226]

"Oddjob, performance anxiety is somethin' everyone gets, at first. Fourth or fifth gathering later, you forget about anything but where you're tickling..... Seriously, brother, it's somethin' t'which you acclimate. Once you're used to it, it's nearly impossible to remember why it bugged you at all."

DVNC


I hope so! Watching you, Jan, Pervis and the other people from your neck of the CA woods at The NEST last year- it was like watching a show! Amazing! Part of it I supposed stems from how I got into all this, too... besides hiding my interest for so long, I was a member of PEP, th B&D/S&M group. But I was the only person who had this interest, so I kind of sat by the wayside as people into the heaver stuff got whipped, beaten, branded, flogged, killed, frapped, whatever turned them on. I tried to blend in in this area, too, and get involved, but it was not me; so trying to play with people not into what I was into again kind of reinforeced that stumbling block of people just watching me..... If I'm gonna be whipped and it's my first time and it's only out of curiosity, I'd rather not have a crowd. Well, even though I'm into tickling, I still have that block, or whatever. Still, I know in the long run it's a comfort thing, so, true, I'll work it out. But until I over come it, I'll be at the back....

 

[dvnc]

That's part of what's so cool about gatherings, sir. They're always like that for us. When y'wonder why I do monthly mailings, and all the screenings, and arrangin' for houses, meeting with the nervous folk ahead of time, cleanin' up, draggin' my gear with me, and supervisin' a lot of play that I'd rather be doin', solo, THAT'S why.

Playing with a crew like that, on a 'lee like that, for a room of folks so clearly diggin' what they're seein', is a rush. Doin' it monthly is a regular rush, and a fine thing.

That many are friends of mine, that I see repeatedly, throughout the year, is ANOTHER bonus.

Don't get me wrong, though. One-on-one play has all KINDS of advantage, but it ain't the same.

Hope t'see ya at the next NEST, brother. With any luck, we'll find a way t'perform together. There's always folks that WANT to play. It's just a matter of asking, in that scene. Can't offend folks in a NEST or gathering by asking. Indeed, there's folks that don't play 'cause no one offers them a safe and comfortable way to play.

My $0.02,

dvnc

 

[QBWeaver]

so I kind of sat by the wayside as people into the heaver stuff got whipped, beaten, branded, flogged,

I know what you mean Mike. I always chuckle at this stuff because some of the BDSM types I've met at other types of gatherings always called TICKLING sick. But as far as I'm concerned... whatever rocks you boat!

 

[Oddjob0226]

Oh, I'm not against the whipping, beating etc., thought it isn't me, but I found it strange that people who could really get into the pain stuff either didn't take tickling seriously ( ie; while it could be tormenting it wasn't painful in the pure form that they needed..) or - get this - they couldn't take it because they were too ticklish! A nipple pierced slavegirl with fresh cat marks on her butt about to undergoe a round of electricity play finding tickling to be too much.... what a world!

 

[jd58]

for me, i have to say one on one.
to me tickling is like sex. it;s a privite thing between two people.
call me boring!!!

 

[Iwant2Btickled]

i completely cannot even begin to fathom a group thing. it would definetly have to be one on one for me. i'd feel too weird somehow... I just think it should be between 2 people who can communicate and feel safe and have loads of trust. i could never relax and enjoy it any other way... no way. to each his own though... i'd never say its wrong, it just isnt' right for me...