Any advice for a first time tickler?

[TickleChaos]

Hey everyone,

If everything goes as planned, I'm going to have my first experience tickle torturing someone within the next week or so. Up to now, I've only been tickled.
This is someone I met online for the sole purpose of tickling and from what I understand, it's her first experience too. Does anyone have any advice, techniques, or hints to share about what I can do to make this experience fun and memorable for both of us?
She wants to be tickle tortured, and says she'll will want revenge on me if I get her really good (or bad depending on how you look at it. ). I would be more than happy to face her wrath. Should I give her what she wants and tickle torture her really badly, or go easy so she has enough energy to get me after? I'm actually a bit more excited to get her revenge than tickle her first.

Any advice or hints to a new guy like me would be really appreciated. Hopefully I can be able to make a casual tickle partner out of this person, which seems pretty rare judging from what I've seen on the personals forum.

 

[solescratcher99]

In my experience, there are two types (I know, I'm oversimplifying) of tickle lovers: the ones who like the tickling and the ones who like the torture aspect of it. Of course, we often fluctuate between these two extremes but ultimately how you view your sexuality is going to determine how you behave in this situation. And, ironically, that's exactly the ideal. If you're more into the torture aspect of it and she's just into the tickling aspect, then you two probably shouldn't be tickle-buddies to begin with. I've met some women who were turned off by tickling (something they liked beforehand) because someone wouldn't stop, made them wet themselves, ignored safewords, etc.

I'm not saying you specifically are one of these people, but you do need to evaluate the level of intensity that you like in tickling. If you're more sadistically inclined, then just say you're more sadistically inclined. If you're more on the masochistic side, then let her know that so she has a compass to help her through it. If you just like rolling around, tickling each other, that's your bag! But you need to know where you're coming from before you start laying out a plan.

Also, lotion and baby oil are an obvious (even for vanillas). But what really gets people going are those hair brushes. I've never heard someone say, "wow, I love that hair brush."

 

[TicklingTips]

Just watch her reactions and see what she's enjoying more. ...like the deep down, fulfilling something she's always wanted kind of enjoyment. So many people just tickle away and pay little attention to their lee. ..don't be that guy. She'll thank you for it.

 

[robmic]

Just keep the "torture" parts brief... since it's her first time.

 

[TickleChaos]

I wouldn't say I'm sadistic. I'm not even really a ler either. Just a switch. Like you said, I'll keep an eye out for whether she's enjoying it or not and probably discuss beforehand how intense our play should be. She did specifically say she wanted to be tortured and get revenge on me.

Also, should I give lots of breaks or few or none. I know a main aspect of tickle torture is continuing when the lee wants to stop, but there should be some breaks so they don't get completely sore and exhausted, right?

How about aftercare? When is it necessary? Would it make her less likely to want revenge on me, because I'm really looking forward to that part.

 

[tommytikl]

Listen for coughing

I wouldn't say I'm sadistic. I'm not even really a ler either. Just a switch. Like you said, I'll keep an eye out for whether she's enjoying it or not and probably discuss beforehand how intense our play should be. She did specifically say she wanted to be tortured and get revenge on me.

Also, should I give lots of breaks or few or none. I know a main aspect of tickle torture is continuing when the lee wants to stop, but there should be some breaks so they don't get completely sore and exhausted, right?

How about aftercare? When is it necessary? Would it make her less likely to want revenge on me, because I'm really looking forward to that part.

Yes after care is necessary.
Have water and a towel ready for after play, it's just considerate.
As this a first time for both slow down or stop at coughing. Or if she is coughing just change the spots you are tickling to let h3r reset but keep the tickle atmosphere going.
Have a safe word as it's your first time together...
Have fun!!
Tommytikl

 

[SirenSimone]

Do not forget to alternate soft tickles with torture tickles. That makes everything worse hahaha. I personally think having a contest is fun and just some general talk. It's always fun (when I'm a ler or lee) to try to carry on a conversation and say "what's that? you're stuttering, I don't understand". Of course always respect her mercy word and give some breaks.

 

[knicks255]

If it's someone you've just met, definitely try to keep things on the lighter side at first, just in case. Especially if it's her first time as a 'lee, she might not totally be sure where her limits are yet, even if she says she wants the "torture" stuff, because if she hasn't tried it, it could be a lot more than she expects. So yeah, plenty of breaks, try to have two safewords, one for "Stop Immediately" and one for "Slow down a little", and try and ease your way to the more "torture"y parts after you're both sure that's what you want.

Just try and have fun, make sure she's enjoying herself as well, and it should turn out great. Maybe get dinner or something afterwards, some people think it's a lot more entertaining to do sessions with people you know well than just people you're meeting up with for tickle play and only tickle play.

 

[C.A.B.]

Agree and use a safeword (or safe-grunts, if heavy gags or enclosures are used.) Safewords are for safety, not for limit testing.

For limit testing (if any) just use the words "yellow" or "Red"

Be in tune with her responses. Watch for silent laughter, which is a state in which the Lee cannot communicate properly (especially if they are face-down)

If bondage is involved, keep a pair of safety scissors handy.

Be empathic to the lee, you will both enjoy it more. I know that sounds obvious but there are many Lers out there that are absolutely oafish and only interested in the act of tickling and not their unfortunate partner's well-being.

Most of all, have fun. You will not be graded.