Any advice on coming out of the tickle closet?

[TicklishKelly89]

Hi everybody,

I'm new to the forum and this is my first post.

I'm just curious if any of you have advice on how to reveal one's tickling fetish to a boyfriend.

So far, I've instigated tickle fights, but haven't yet mustered the courage to take the next step. My stumbling block has been coming up with an approach.

Attempts made in past relationships have either resulted in awkward silence or me chickening out completely.

HEEEELLLPPP!

Thanks,
Kelly

 

[TicklishKelly89]

Oops. Guess I should have read Private Tickle's post first. Looks like a bunch of you gave some great advice to him. Kudos.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Step one is to make it as awkward and uncomfortable as possible.

 

[myth77]

Step one is to make it as awkward and uncomfortable as possible.

Then if you tell him and you get the awkward silence, scream real loud,"Fine then!! I didn't want you to do that to me anyway!!!!"

Seriously though, I think it's easier for girls to reveal it then guys, but no matter what the result, just you being on this forum lets you know you are not alone. We still luv you!

 

[Tickle Fiend]

Just be straight-up and honest. Like Myth said, it's easier for girls to mention this to a boyfriend. Maybe you should try to get him to talk about something that he may not have shared with you yet.

 

[Gadilici]

Wow, Myth, that's really going on the offensive with it...lol

I bet it would work too. Any man worth his salt would pull her down, and let her have it 😀

Christopher

 

[daddy]

Hi Kelly

What you might do is instigate the tickling right around "sex" time and when he tickles you not only tell him how turned on you are by it but show him how turned on you are by it. The reward system almost always get's the point across and quite happily might I add 🙂

Pretend like it is something you "discovered" with him!

peace out,
daddy

 

[Soda Bobinski]

My advice for stepping out of any closet is this :

One foot at a time. 😉


This should work particularly well since the closet in question is of the tickle variety. 😀

 

[KrazieDog]

How does he react to the tickle fights? Does he get into it/have fun with it with you? If he does, after he's pinned and gotten you really good, just roll over to him and say "I really love when you do that to me, it's hot!" and gauge is reaction. The point is to get the gears in his head rolling that you like it and hopefully he asks questions like "Really?" or "You actually like that", etc. and get a conversation going. Good luck to you and hopefully you get what you are looking for. 🙂

 

[Maestro1874]

I just say "Well, at least I'm not into scat!" Works every time.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

What Krazie said.

 

[Private Tickle]

I'd say take Daddy's advice! Atleast for me I know that anything my G/f enjoys sexually I will meet her demand for it. I am sure A lot of other guys out there are the same.

 

[grandizer]

Just come out and say it. Go For It!! You can do it!!

 

[Bohemianne]

Well, I am bad at advice... but let me try:

Say it straight. Tell him that it turns you on direct to the point, in full detail. Then next is you can let him do "hands on" phase by phase.

What's the point of having a lover if you can't tell him anything you want? You won't get any deep if you can't make yourself comfortable on this stuff.

"It's me or the highway" thing...

 

[TicklishKelly89]

Thanks for all the advice, everyone. I really appreciate it. I'll be making my move in the New Year. Fingers crossed.

 

[fun409]

Good Luck Kelly! I think you're doing the right thing. If he really cares about you he'll want to know what makes you happy.

 

[No_Style]

a easy way is to see if he has any kinks, and go on from there.....communicate 😀