Any muslims here? Advice needed about tickling

[tkl123]

Tickling for me is a big fetish, and takes up a big part of my life.

From birth, I have been following the religion Islam, and a major part of the religion is the importance of modesty and chastity. I am now in my 20s, I know I have a massive tickling fetish and because of my religious beliefs, I have not for a very long time been able to Tickle/get Tickled.

Islam however does allow and strongly encourages sexual activities only between a wife and a husband....i.e. I need to get married! However, this is tricky in itself.

The rules of Islam are quite strict on non married males/females engaging with each other. You must not be alone with a girl, and any talking must be business like with no flirtatious speeches. And certainly, talking about tickling-a thing which is usually thought of as weird and gay will probably kill the talks off altogether.

The only chance to introduce the idea or my love for tickling would be when married. At this point, if the wife turns rounds saying, urrggh, I hate being tickled, and tickling is the most weirdiest thing ever, well there goes the big tickling dream.

So, I’d like some advice, if there are any Muslims here, how to enjoy my tickling fetish without stepping outside the boundaries of my religion.

 

[rhiannon]

I am not a Muslim, but since Christianity has the exact same rules, let me ask you this: do you really believe a book that is 1400 years old should and can still literally be transferred on today's life?

 

[LD_Tickler]

I am not a Muslim, but since Christianity has the exact same rules, let me ask you this: do you really believe a book that is 1400 years old should and can still literally be transferred on today's life?

Obviously he does, there's no need to be so rude.


Tkl, you're in a tough spot. I've seen people post this sort of thing before (not necessarily Islam, but like Rhi said, lots of major religions have identical rules for that sort of thing), and if you follow the laws of your religion, I think it's just a risk you have to take. This isn't even something that applies to fetishes only... there are lots of factors that can make sex good or bad, and if people haven't experimented with each other, they never know if they're compatible in the bedroom.

Side note: you might want to avoid using the word "gay" to refer to things that are stupid, especially around here where some people take great pride in their sexuality and alternative lifestyles. It might make some people hostile towards you.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

Easy. Confide in a close female friend your problem and have the female friend talk about tickling with the girl. Since it's same-gender it won't violate your laws. She can bring it up casually, such as talking about how she was getting a pedicure and the girl next to her was laughing and laughing from all the tickling. You know, something that will lead to your love interest saying, "Gosh, I'm so ticklish too." Then they can delve into "girl talk," which is a complete mystery to us men, but during which your love interest will learn about your interest in tickling in a completely non-threatening way.

 

[Myriads]

Do not use this thread to debate religion, or application of religious faith to modern life. Stay with the OP's question.

His question is: How does a devote Muslim handle having a fetish, and finding a suitable life partner that they are sexually compatible with?

I would say the best place to start is how do devote Muslims deal with finding out if they are sexually compatible on the basic level? Is there a mechanism in the social interactions that somehow allows for this? If there is, then that is what path will aid with finding out if tickling is an option that works. If there is none, then I can't see an option that exists within the devote structure.

I've always seen most faiths built on the foundation of some form of sacrifice in the world. And perhaps this, for Islam is one such sacrifice the devoted faithful are asked to make. Sexual pot-luck.

Myriads

 

[GQguy]

I'm not Muslim, but I've had many Muslim friends. From what I understand the way young Muslims date and court one another is highly dependant on the community in which you socialize with. I.e. Public opinion means everything. Some communities accept a more western style while other communities adhere more strictly to the standards set by the prophet. I'd date out of the more westernized pool.

Anyway like any guy in any culture you must find cues that tell you about a woman without being too invasive.

I will also add that if a woman is REALLY into you she'll do whatever it takes to please you. Good luck buddy.

GQ