some1somewhere
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I drove to see my mother's side of thefamily for thanksgiving. I didn't get there until after they ate, so I got to eat leftovers. It was nice to see the family, and my uncle came down, which was great because it has been a few years since I have seen him. After a while I noticed that something was wrong. After trying to figure out a way to get my uncle to tell me something, I just come out and ask. It turns out that he and my aunt are getting divorsed. They have been married for 21+ years. I remember when they got married, I was the little kid "ring" barer. I remember them coming to visit my mother when she was sick. I remember her consouling me after my mom had to be take to the hosipital, telling me that "it will be okay, if we don't stop crying then the world will fill up with tears and we'll drown." I remember her brother dying the night of my mother's furneral. I remember visiting them in the years that followed, in their different houses, during different times of the year, going to different places. As always time and distance does seem to cause people to not keep in touch as much. And I knew that there were problems, but you always hope for the best. Now I am being told that she has no feeling for this side of the family (she hasn't said that to me personally and I haven't called her to talk to her about this as my uncle still lives there until he closes on a house a the beginning of the year, and I hate the feeling of crossing over blood ties to talk to her). What really bothers me is that my stepmother knew before I did, and it seems that I am the last person in the family to know something important again. She told me that she wasn't supposed to tell me, but my sister already knew, and my uncle hadn't told her yet, and he thought the rest of the family would have told me, so it wasn't him that said for them not to tell me. I know it sounds childish, but found out my grandmother broker her shoulder last, my father has been in and out of the hosipital I was the last to know, my grandfather has had heart problems and it is just getting old. And perhaps I still remember the aunt of 15-20 years ago, and I don't know the one of today. Yeah I'm venting, a little angry and confused, and the more I think about the more of both I become.
