Anyone else uncomfortable seeing your significant other get tickled?

[ashbabe410]

You should try encouraging them to let you take his place!

LOL yeah right he would be livid. He would never allow that. He is very dominant and doesn't share well at all. He doesn't even like for other men to look at me.

 

[eddyderf]

Lol well they are definitely older than 15. They range from 20-25 years old. My boyfriend is a very straight guy too, but this is just something he and his friends do. He only became the main target of it when they realized it makes me blush and leave the room. I don't necessarily feel "disgusted" about it. It's more like...just uncomfortable and embarrassed at his strong reactions to it when he is usually stoic and can resist all kinds of pain and pretty much anything except being tickled like that.

He asked me about it bc he did notice that it made me uncomfortable even though I didn't come out and say it bc it's pretty obvious by my leaving the room and my inability to look at him during or directly after. I was too embarrassed to discuss it even with him even though tickling is something we're both into and something we do in the bedroom. I don't want him to bring it up to his friends really bc I'm pretty sure they'll just do it more and then they'll also tease me mercilessly about it if they know for sure it bothers me and I can't handle being called out on this, lol.

Quite frankly I would be extremely embarrassed too. I would never allow (politely of course) a girlfriend to be tickled by another man, and certainly not in front of me. Unless that man was a sibling, in which case that really would be none of my business. However I would love to have a girlfriend be tickled by another woman because that would give me an excuse to definitely tickle that other lady.
When I was in high school, my girlfriend was tickled at her house by her classmate right in front of me, and I didn't do shit other than growing a "you know what". But it was early in our relationship and I was a certified wimp back then. I did use it as an excuse to tickle my GF real good later that afternoon. Although she laughed hard, her laughter seemed heartier when tickled by her classmate and I clearly remember that making me jealous. Over the next few years I sometimes fantasized about tickling that classmate as she was super hot, and probably bisexual. Ahh, I pray I never get Alzheimer's.

 

[eddyderf]

Also if your BF actually liked being tickled like that, then hate to break it to you but he gay. Or gay adjacent . Just kidding. Nothing wrong being gay from a secular perspective, just thought you would want to know 🙂.

 

[ashbabe410]

Also if your BF actually liked being tickled like that, then hate to break it to you but he gay. Or gay adjacent . Just kidding. Nothing wrong being gay from a secular perspective, just thought you would want to know 🙂.

LOL I don't think he did like it. He seemed very embarrassed and he did try to get away, but they were holding him down. He's definitely not gay lol. One of the guys was his older brother and the other 2 were guys he's known since high school. They just like to embaraas him (and me)

 

[hiphophooray4]

Also if your BF actually liked being tickled like that, then hate to break it to you but he gay. Or gay adjacent . Just kidding. Nothing wrong being gay from a secular perspective, just thought you would want to know 🙂.

"Gay Adjacent"? Lmao

 

[Rollo9]

My evil side says you and your man need some intensive therapy with an expert tickler to work through these feelings.

Jk (maybe) 😈

 

[ashbabe410]

My evil side says you and your man need some intensive therapy with an expert tickler to work through these feelings.

Jk (maybe) 😈

Nooo not if they're going to tickle him! I most definitely can't handle that lol

 

[FFT32]

Seeing your SO tickled by someone else is going to be viewed differently from person to person.

I havent had any exposure to a stranger or casual associate tickling my SO to honestly know how I would feel. However, I do know for a fact that I LOVE watching Jen tickle the shit out of Rachel.

 

[eddyderf]

My evil side says you and your man need some intensive therapy with an expert tickler to work through these feelings.

It's because of great advice like this one I strongly believe shrinks are way overrated. You should get an honorary degree! 😀

LOL I don't think he did like it. He seemed very embarrassed and he did try to get away, but they were holding him down. He's definitely not gay lol. One of the guys was his older brother and the other 2 were guys he's known since high school. They just like to embaraas him (and me)

On a serious note, for our learning benefit, were you able talk it through with him or hash things out? For instance did you, after asking him to talk to his boys to make sure that doesn't happen again (especially in front of you), offer yourself up to him for hot makeup sex after a good tickling session? If no, did you at least threaten to have a random TMF member tickle you if he didn't clean up his act with the boys? I mean we're all routing for your happiness! 😎

 

[Blxcknyte]

My boyfriend's friends and brother seem to have a thing for tickling him in front of me. They've done it 3 or 4 times in the last couple of months to the point I almost get anxiety about us being around them.

He's my dominant so it kinda makes me cringe watching him get wrecked. I don't mean a poke to the ribs either. They literally pin him to the floor, hold his arms above his head and tickle the hell out of him until he's screaming and begging them to stop. He always says "baby don't watch" when it's clear that's what they're going to do, but I think me leaving the room every time is making them do it even more bc I'm a cringing, blushing mess every time and desperately looking anywhere except at my big strong man getting tickle wrecked right in front of me.

I know some people love seeing their partner be tickled, but surely I can't be the only one who gets uncomfortable watching her normally dominant, alpha male boyfriend turned into a giggling, begging mess! Anyone else?

In context, I definitely understand that being weird to witness.

For myself, I'm the only one who actually tickles my wife with intent. But her feet are wicked ticklish, so it is entertaining watching her get a pedicure at the nail salon because she just turns into a fidgety giggling mess as she tried to suppress her laughter.

 

[TicklerKoops]

You know, I'm feeling like this is a trend, you also had a post about the tattoo, now I'm starting to think you are being a bit overly possessive. This is his friends, and I'm going to just blindly assume he's known these guys longer than you, and probably sees them as his brothers. Either he slipped and accidentally confessed he likes tickling and tickling you and they are just teasing him, or this is just something they like to fuck with him over.

Until he decides to put his foot down about it, on his own accord, I feel like you dictating what he does with relationships outside of you two is a bit overreaching, unless it's a coworkers of his that he doesn't know THAT well or a random girl, obviously. But it sounds like these are friends that have known him for a while. You can correct me if I'm wrong, and I can revise my thoughts.

TL;DR: I think you are looking a bit too much into his relationship with these guys and unless HE comes to you saying he has an issue with it, I just to feel like it's your place. The Tattoo one I thought it was innocent and obviously not intentional, but I understood it. This one, on the other hand, feels a bit possessive, and I'm sure he loves that about you, just try not to come off as too brash about it.

 

[D-Tickler]

Also if your BF actually liked being tickled like that, then hate to break it to you but he gay. Or gay adjacent . Just kidding. Nothing wrong being gay from a secular perspective, just thought you would want to know 🙂.

Tbh, I'm somewhat in line with your word "gay adjacent".

According to my observation, quite a few ppl actually have somewhat fluid romantic orientation.
They appear to be predominantly straight in most time (thus are likely assume themselves to be simply straight), but can become somewhat attracted by the same gender in some or certain situations (that arouse their some levelled attraction to the certain same-gendered individuals).

As I argued in #12, @ashbabe410 's BF & his brother & friends may not be completely straight. Their some levelled attraction to the certain same-gendered ppl may just be aroused in the certain situations, which prototypically include the one of her BF getting tickled.

On the other hand, such a fluid of romantic attraction may not be that abnormal.
Just on this site, I've also found that some men who claimed to be straight also would like to tickle certain same-gendered individual(s), which shows the certain situation that their interest in the certain same-gendered individual(s).

 

[ashbabe410]

It's because of great advice like this one I strongly believe shrinks are way overrated. You should get an honorary degree! 😀


On a serious note, for our learning benefit, were you able talk it through with him or hash things out? For instance did you, after asking him to talk to his boys to make sure that doesn't happen again (especially in front of you), offer yourself up to him for hot makeup sex after a good tickling session? If no, did you at least threaten to have a random TMF member tickle you if he didn't clean up his act with the boys? I mean we're all routing for your happiness! 😎

LOL! Cheeky.

Yes I did (eventually) talk it out with him. I didn't ask him to say anything to his friends though because if he did, these guys would tease me relentlessly about it and I couldn't handle that, lol 🤷🏼‍♀️ and yes, we did have hot makeup sex, but not the night that it happened bc I was uncomfortable that I'd just watched my dom writhe on the floor laughing/begging for help while being held down. I could barely look at him, much less have sex! Lol. He thought it was funny and cute that it bothered me bc he knows it's bc it messed with my image of him as this immovable guy that can never be made to submit. Since then, there has been "the tattoo incident" (which I wrote about in another post) where I went with him to get a tattoo colored in, the artist was female, he had a ticklish reaction to it (it was very near his armpit) and I was jealous and ended up going out to the car bc I couldn't watch.

 

[ashbabe410]

You know, I'm feeling like this is a trend, you also had a post about the tattoo, now I'm starting to think you are being a bit overly possessive. This is his friends, and I'm going to just blindly assume he's known these guys longer than you, and probably sees them as his brothers. Either he slipped and accidentally confessed he likes tickling and tickling you and they are just teasing him, or this is just something they like to fuck with him over.

Until he decides to put his foot down about it, on his own accord, I feel like you dictating what he does with relationships outside of you two is a bit overreaching, unless it's a coworkers of his that he doesn't know THAT well or a random girl, obviously. But it sounds like these are friends that have known him for a while. You can correct me if I'm wrong, and I can revise my thoughts.

TL;DR: I think you are looking a bit too much into his relationship with these guys and unless HE comes to you saying he has an issue with it, I just to feel like it's your place. The Tattoo one I thought it was innocent and obviously not intentional, but I understood it. This one, on the other hand, feels a bit possessive, and I'm sure he loves that about you, just try not to come off as too brash about it.

Possessive?? Lol I never said I was mad about it or was jealous of his friends at all! They are my friends too and like brothers to me. We've all known each other forever. I have a jealousy kink actually, which he's aware of and uses it to tease and play with me all the time. I understand you don't know us as a couple though but nah. He LOVES when I get this way over him. This was more just like a "he's my dom so watching him held down in a position where he could do nothing to stop it etc" was weird for me. I'm not jealous of other guys, lol, like I said, he's not gay or bi so that wouldn't make sense.

 

[ashbabe410]

You know, I'm feeling like this is a trend, you also had a post about the tattoo, now I'm starting to think you are being a bit overly possessive. This is his friends, and I'm going to just blindly assume he's known these guys longer than you, and probably sees them as his brothers. Either he slipped and accidentally confessed he likes tickling and tickling you and they are just teasing him, or this is just something they like to fuck with him over.

Until he decides to put his foot down about it, on his own accord, I feel like you dictating what he does with relationships outside of you two is a bit overreaching, unless it's a coworkers of his that he doesn't know THAT well or a random girl, obviously. But it sounds like these are friends that have known him for a while. You can correct me if I'm wrong, and I can revise my thoughts.

TL;DR: I think you are looking a bit too much into his relationship with these guys and unless HE comes to you saying he has an issue with it, I just to feel like it's your place. The Tattoo one I thought it was innocent and obviously not intentional, but I understood it. This one, on the other hand, feels a bit possessive, and I'm sure he loves that about you, just try not to come off as too brash about it.

If you knew my BF, you'd know how ironic it is to call ME possessive when he is probably the most possessive person I have ever met. Another man can't even glance at me without him demanding to know what they're looking at. I can't wait to tell him. He'll love it! 😊

 

[ashbabe410]

Tbh, I'm somewhat in line with your word "gay adjacent".

According to my observation, quite a few ppl actually have somewhat fluid romantic orientation.
They appear to be predominantly straight in most time (thus are likely assume themselves to be simply straight), but can become somewhat attracted by the same gender in some or certain situations (that arouse their some levelled attraction to the certain same-gendered individuals).

As I argued in #12, @ashbabe410 's BF & his brother & friends may not be completely straight. Their some levelled attraction to the certain same-gendered ppl may just be aroused in the certain situations, which prototypically include the one of her BF getting tickled.

On the other hand, such a fluid of romantic attraction may not be that abnormal.
Just on this site, I've also found that some men who claimed to be straight also would like to tickle certain same-gendered individual(s), which shows the certain situation that their interest in the certain same-gendered individual(s).

I think y'all are looking for the word heteroflexible but nah he isn't that. He's all the way straight. These are just guys we've known forever that love to embarass us. This isn't a gay thing at all. Not that it would be a big deal to me if he was heteroflexible (I have an ex that is) but he's not.

 

[D-Tickler]

I think y'all are looking for the word heteroflexible but nah he isn't that. He's all the way straight. These are just guys we've known forever that love to embarass us. This isn't a gay thing at all. Not that it would be a big deal to me if he was heteroflexible (I have an ex that is) but he's not.

Probably your BF is so straight as you assume (though I personally still have a little bit doubt about it).
Even in this case, his brother & friends are liable to be heteroflexible/gay adjacent, because they're so obsessed with embarrassing your BF in that gay-like way!

And you said that your BF is a very possessive guy.
However, from my perspective, he doesn't seem to be possessive enough about his own body & self-esteem.

I may not say that your BF is less straight compared to me.
But as a really way straight adult man, I definitely see any other same-gendered individuals' obsession on doing sth that is too bodily close to me (prototypically including tickling) as a serious kind of infringement on me!
Even if a man who (does the thing above to me) is my very close friend or relative, I would definitely scold him as gay-like and set some boundary with him (though I may choose to remain the bare relationship with him)!
(And if he keeps teasing me because of my intolerance of his deed onto me, I would be likely to just break up with him)

Comparatively, you seem to be more possessive about your self-esteem, which has triggered you to post so many here.
And if you dare, you may do the similar thing(s) as I would do!

 

[TicklerKoops]

If you knew my BF, you'd know how ironic it is to call ME possessive when he is probably the most possessive person I have ever met. Another man can't even glance at me without him demanding to know what they're looking at. I can't wait to tell him. He'll love it! 😊

I mean this is all me assuming, I don't know you or him at great length, but just the impression I'M getting is of that. Nothing against you, I'm sure you are a wonderful person, but the two posts I've seen from ya, just comes across as such, is all I'm saying lol

 

[eddyderf]

Tbh, I'm somewhat in line with your word "gay adjacent".

According to my observation, quite a few ppl actually have somewhat fluid romantic orientation.
They appear to be predominantly straight in most time (thus are likely assume themselves to be simply straight), but can become somewhat attracted by the same gender in some or certain situations (that arouse their some levelled attraction to the certain same-gendered individuals).

As I argued in #12, @ashbabe410 's BF & his brother & friends may not be completely straight. Their some levelled attraction to the certain same-gendered ppl may just be aroused in the certain situations, which prototypically include the one of her BF getting tickled.

On the other hand, such a fluid of romantic attraction may not be that abnormal.
Just on this site, I've also found that some men who claimed to be straight also would like to tickle certain same-gendered individual(s), which shows the certain situation that their interest in the certain same-gendered individual(s).

Interesting. It seems like there are more than "some", or is it just the vocal minority? I sometimes wonder if what we see on this site reflects the real world out there. I keep flipping back and forth.

 

[eddyderf]

LOL! Cheeky.

Yes I did (eventually) talk it out with him. I didn't ask him to say anything to his friends though because if he did, these guys would tease me relentlessly about it and I couldn't handle that, lol 🤷🏼‍♀️ and yes, we did have hot makeup sex, but not the night that it happened bc I was uncomfortable that I'd just watched my dom writhe on the floor laughing/begging for help while being held down. I could barely look at him, much less have sex! Lol. He thought it was funny and cute that it bothered me bc he knows it's bc it messed with my image of him as this immovable guy that can never be made to submit. Since then, there has been "the tattoo incident" (which I wrote about in another post) where I went with him to get a tattoo colored in, the artist was female, he had a ticklish reaction to it (it was very near his armpit) and I was jealous and ended up going out to the car bc I couldn't watch.

Comment of the year so far. This site is BAACKKK !!!

 

[eddyderf]

Possessive?? Lol I never said I was mad about it or was jealous of his friends at all! They are my friends too and like brothers to me. We've all known each other forever. I have a jealousy kink actually, which he's aware of and uses it to tease and play with me all the time. I understand you don't know us as a couple though but nah. He LOVES when I get this way over him. This was more just like a "he's my dom so watching him held down in a position where he could do nothing to stop it etc" was weird for me. I'm not jealous of other guys, lol, like I said, he's not gay or bi so that wouldn't make sense.

@TicklerKoops
Even a man who is not "alpha" (most men aren't anyway) is expected to be dominant (or protective at a very minimum) by most women. There are so many M here begging/super excited to be tickled by F that many don't realized how frustrating and vexing it can be from the perspective of a naturally submissive lady to see her man be subdued like that or begging to be tickled when the lady expects to on the receiving end. Not sexy at all. Some baseball hitters may be great pitchers but they are not really expected to be.
Similarly I've always felt that male producers that allow themselves to be tickled (that is, dominated) by their models are breaking the healthy employer/employee power dynamic that's supposed to exist between the two. Has always rubbed me the wrong way, even though I genuinely try to understand.

 

[yinzer]

@TicklerKoops
Even a man who is not "alpha" (most men aren't anyway) is expected to be dominant (or protective at a very minimum) by most women. There are so many M here begging/super excited to be tickled by F that many don't realized how frustrating and vexing it can be from the perspective of a naturally submissive lady to see her man be subdued like that or begging to be tickled when the lady expects to on the receiving end. Not sexy at all. Some baseball hitters may be great pitchers but they are not really expected to be.
Similarly I've always felt that male producers that allow themselves to be tickled (that is, dominated) by their models are breaking the healthy employer/employee power dynamic that's supposed to exist between the two. Has always rubbed me the wrong way, even though I genuinely try to understand.

I agree with this, at least viscerally, this is how I feel about it. I've definitely considered the idea that not being willing to be a 'lee is selfish of me, but you've articulated why I don't' do it. It would really bother me if I did and it's just not who I am, but I'm all for any guy that wants it and doesn't have the issues with it like me. I just try to avoid seeing it (including producers like you mention that do it), but I think they should do what they want to do if that's their thing.