Anyone else?

[Emishticklish]

This question is more or less for those of you who's current Partners aren't part and/or are curious of our Community. When I first came clean about having a tickling/foot fetish to my Girlfriend of 7 months, she thought it was cute but didn't elaborate on her feelings until the first time we fooled around and more so this last time she was in the States and I could go all out with it. 🙂 I'd shown her my TMF page, because she had asked if I ever talk to other girls about it. I was honest, I had in the past, but it never went anywhere. She wasn't even upset, this coming from a normally very jealous woman, she asked many questions including why I feel like I need to discuss the fetish with other people in general, not just to women. So I explained that it can get lonely, at least for me, and it feels nice to be able to relate to others' and not feel like a Freak on the subject.

So the Question is, has your Partner ever asked you such questions? How did you explain it? I find that at least once a week she'll ask me another question about the Site, and in the past made it clear she wanted me to put her photos up on my page so other women would know I've already got someone to tickle/be tickled by. 🙂 I wonder then, if she might have a fetish for it herself? Or maybe she's just humoring me. Either way is fine with me, I've asked but she's very private and I think it might embarrass her a tiny bit.

So, anyone else?

 

[chicago]

I found that most people I dated that were not part of the community could grasp the idea of tickling as a turn on pretty easily, but could not understand the community. It was the most difficult thing about dating and tickling for me. I chose a guy and his happiness over what made me happy and missed out on a lot of fun, experiences, and more importantly, seeing my friends from here. It became important to me after that relationship that whoever I date be accepting of both aspects.

All the best to you and yours. The fact that she is asking questions and seems interested comes across as a positive thing to me here. Sounds like she wants to understand. 🙂

 

[Emishticklish]

Very good insight, thank you. 🙂 I can relate to sacrificing happiness for someone else in this department. I guess that's why I wanted her to be ok with it so much, because I love her. Thank you. I hope you're right. 🙂

 

[Oddjob0226]

I've let friends whom I've felt may have been interested in on my "secret'. They never really questioned it too much since they understand that most people have a"thing" they like or are into, and the folks I confided in, like I said, I felt were probably open to a little perviness to begin with.

A few asked what the appeal was, but there was nothing judgmental about it; more like curiosity. Then again, I made sure i told only the 'right' friends, not someone who was clearly and outwardly totally vanilla.

 

[chicago]

I've let friends whom I've felt may have been interested in on my "secret'. They never really questioned it too much since they understand that most people have a"thing" they like or are into, and the folks I confided in, like I said, I felt were probably open to a little perviness to begin with.

A few asked what the appeal was, but there was nothing judgmental about it; more like curiosity. Then again, I made sure i told only the 'right' friends, not someone who was clearly and outwardly totally vanilla.

But have you shared the community / forum with anyone that wasn't already into it?

 

[Oddjob0226]

But have you shared the community / forum with anyone that wasn't already into it?

I've mentioned it after "recruiting" them into the fold but don't know if they have ever followed up by coming here and joining.

I should say that these were friends, not ' significant others' I don't really have one if those. On the other hand, I am also at the point in my life where, for happiness of both parties, any s.o. Would have to be into it or willing to play that way. Every relationship has give and take, or compromise. Totally abandoning something that I am interested would not be contentment.

 

[chicago]

I've mentioned it after "recruiting" them into the fold but don't know if they have ever followed up by coming here and joining.

I should say that these were friends, not ' significant others' I don't really have one if those. On the other hand, I am also at the point in my life where, for happiness of both parties, any s.o. Would have to be into it or willing to play that way. Every relationship has give and take, or compromise. Totally abandoning something that I am interested would not be contentment.

What was their reaction to the site? Would you say it was negative / positive / indifferent?

 

[dr_random]

Many years ago, while we were still dating, my wife asked if I had any kinks, and I straight up said I had a thing for tickling. She smiled enthusiastically, not in a “I'm into that too” way, more of a “I've never heard of that, that's kinda neat”.
She was very cool about the whole thing and asked questions, so I gave her a tour of the site and showed her a couple of clips. Again, very cool with the whole thing. She likes that I have a community, and is stoked that I get to make comics and art for here as well.
She's indulged me a few times, but it isn't really her thing. That would be kind of a bummer, but we are also part of a kinky community in our city and we have the freedom of searching for play partners, since our kinks aren't always compatible.

I think it's really cool that your lady has so many questions. Like chicag0 said, it shows that she's taking an active interest in what you like. After all is said and done she may not be as into it as you are, but that's alright I think. Doesn't seem like it something she would hold against you. Or she might be a convert, like so many stories we've heard here before.

 

[Oddjob0226]

What was their reaction to the site? Would you say it was negative / positive / indifferent?

Mostly a positive curiosity, or maybe indifference at the worst. Certainly not negative. Since I introduced them to this play/fetish I think they were more interested purely in "doing" than a lot more of the social aspects of websites like these. Although I know for a fact that at least one friend that I got into tickling is on Fetlife now.

 

[chicago]

Mostly a positive curiosity, or maybe indifference at the worst. Certainly not negative. Since I introduced them to this play/fetish I think they were more interested purely in "doing" than a lot more of the social aspects of websites like these. Although I know for a fact that at least one friend that I got into tickling is on Fetlife now.

Very cool! Sorry for all the questions. Was curious. I haven't shared this site with many and those that I have mostly didn't understand.

 

[Angel_2]

I have not told anyone as of yet outside of TMF, not that I'm scared to it just hasn't come up in topics I've talked about with others....should it....I'm unsure of it I'd come clean I guess it would depend on who I was talking to and see how comfortable I was with that person

 

[B_nyc]

I found that most people I dated that were not part of the community could grasp the idea of tickling as a turn on pretty easily, but could not understand the community. It was the most difficult thing about dating and tickling for me. I chose a guy and his happiness over what made me happy and missed out on a lot of fun, experiences, and more importantly, seeing my friends from here. It became important to me after that relationship that whoever I date be accepting of both aspects.

All the best to you and yours. The fact that she is asking questions and seems interested comes across as a positive thing to me here. Sounds like she wants to understand. 🙂

Been in the same situation missed out on a lot because I felt like trying to get my girl to understand would be impossible and didn't want to take that risk, so I didn't even try. But now that I'm single I always wonder if I should try to be open from the Jump and if I get involved with someone should I risk the relationship by saying anything about the fetish etc. Even if they accept it, it's like would they truly understand it

 

[Oddjob0226]

Very cool! Sorry for all the questions. Was curious. I haven't shared this site with many and those that I have mostly didn't understand.

No need to be sorry! Nobody likes even low-level rejection and it can be a scary world to 'step out' there with something so different, yet personal like this. They key is that - like anything else in life - you have to know and understand your friends. I have many that would not be cool with this. I have some who would be ok with the knowledge of my tickling interest but would find the website weird or at the very least, a pointless waste of time. Some friends would be against all of it. A few, who are a bit more special to me, know about both, are totally cool with it; I just had to figure out what kind of people they might be. Even then, there is never a guarantee of acceptance, it's more a matter of making my best judgment with my friends and their personality.

With a boyfriends or girlfriends, it gets a little trickier because now something bigger and more social is being introduced into an private, intimate relationship. There will be more of an emotional risk there (remember, I'm not in a specific relationship with just one person). Still, if this is important to you, and you are important to that other person, than that other person should at least try to understand what you are doing and the appeal. Maybe even join in for the fun of it. And if folks like that don't get it, then hopefully they feel secure enough in you and the relationship as a whole where they can can at least look the other way and be tolerant about this other, website-based aspect to your tickling likes and interests.

 

[YouNeverKnow175]

I appreciate this topic so much.

It's been a real question for me that I've contemplated a lot - how to talk to my girlfriend (who also doesn't share the interest in the way I do) about the TMF, how much to say and not to say, and where those boundaries are.

I was surprised when I brought it up that she was actually very accepting of it and understanding. Since then, she really hasn't asked questions. It's still a quandary for me how much to try to share and mix these worlds.

So...no real answers right now, and maybe I'll wrote more later. But that's what came to mind.

 

[dr_random]

Maybe the thing to remember when bringing up this site, if you haven't considered it already, is that this can be a social outlet. An outsiders first reaction might be that this is just a place where you get your jollies. And sure, while that can sometimes be the case, it's not like you're visiting redtube. It's a spot with like-minded people with whom you can connect.

 

[ticklehound]

For me, I simply told my girlfriend that I like being tickled... and she took to it really well. She really likes tickling me because she thinks it's adorable to see my squirm & laugh. Then she sees how aroused it gets me, so she tickles me for that purpose too!

We've become very intimate and I feel comfortable telling her anything. I wanted to bring her into the fold here, but I was worried she would be put off by the extreme, graphic content on here. Sooo, when I told her about this website, she didn't really say anything. Then I showed her some websites, and she didn't say anything.

THEN, one day, when she had me tied up, she broke out some tickle tools on me (while I was blindfolded). When I asked her about them, she said that she got some ideas online!

But the bottom line is, when you're with a partner you truly care about, you will try to make him/her happy... I just didn't expect it to turn out like this!

 

[Thatsecretchord]

I always keep relationships separate from my fetish. I know I know I'm not indulging and I can't be fulfilled blah blah. End of the day I'm happy with this being my secret and that's all I ever want it to be. I would never show anyone this site simply because there are too many sub fetishes that weird even me out. Last time I came on here a dude was talking about eating someone's foot scrapings. How do you explain that to a vanilla?

 

[Dialon]

Everyone I have ever been with has either liked my fetish, or just thought it wasn't a big deal. Their reactions were the same to me being on a forum about it and watching videos with it. I never understood why it is so hard for people to talk about their fetish to their significant other, if you don't make a big deal about it, they won't either.

 

[piyr]

I've always felt that even if the other person isn't into "it", they should at least be curious about it and not ambivalent even if they aren't into it themselves. If they're truly into you then your pleasure should be a source of their pleasure and vice versa. Of course everyone is going to have hard limits and complete turn offs so sometimes no matter what that person thinks about you otherwise, they may never be able to bring themselves to include your particular preference in their life.

It's a wonderful sign that your partner is curious about your interests and the forum. There's no guarantee of what their conclusions will be but the fact that they are taking an interest in your happiness says so much more about that person and the relationship than it says about either of your specific sexual interests.

Personally, I can take a lesson from you on how you're introducing your partner to the forum by explaining how you feel about your preference and how interacting on what you get from the forum. I found being about to explain how I got to be the way I am and how it's completely normal despite not sitting in the meat of the bell curve of sexual preferences, has laid the foundation for further conversation. I haven't made it to the forum yet but I'm sure I will one day soon.

 

[Emishticklish]

All of these responses are awesome, thank you. It helps me see it from different points. I'm very happy that my Girlfriend is generally comfortable with me having this account. 🙂🙂

 

[gigglemakr]

My thought is that, since this fetish is important to me, I would want to find out, fairly soon after meeting someone, whether she would get enough enjoyment out of being tickled to more than just tolerate it but rather embrace it enough so that it would become a regular part of our "play". I would rather find out if she's negative early on than to get increasingly interested in her only to be disappointed later that my fetish can't be a part of our relationship. Bottom line is that I make references to tickling in texts and e-mails early to women that interest me, and if there is some playful banter in response, then I think more positively about a future relationship. And on a first date, I try to get in a tickle or two to see how she responds. I mean, why wait? If I get a nice good-night kiss and "hope to see you again" comment after I've tickled her a few times, I'm much more positive about the possibilities.

 

[FootballGuy]

I've revealed my secret to many different vanilla girlfriends before and only a few asked questions and were interested and none actually cared enough to ask about the community or forum so that is a very good sign! Good luck to you!

 

[gigglemakr]

I've revealed my secret to many different vanilla girlfriends before and only a few asked questions and were interested and none actually cared enough to ask about the community or forum so that is a very good sign! Good luck to you!

I probably wouldn't discuss TMF at all unless she were already a participant with me in our "fun". If she were, then the "community" might be of some interest to her and she could possibly become a "convert". I'd love for that to happen, but I'm not counting on it.

Did you actually tickle your "many different vanilla girfriends"? I was confused because I couldn't figure out why, if "only a few asked questions and were interested" and that none of them asked about TMF, why that was "a very good sign". Thanks for your good luck wish, though.