Are There Really Many Women Into Tickling?

[laffmaker1234]

I always thought the tickling fetish is something guys are more into than women. Even though I've met a couple of women who were into it in my life, just through regular walks of life, not any fetish sites or places.

So if some person on this forum or other places says "Hi, I'm Suzie (or whatever female name) I love being tickled" and it's a picture of a woman posing with bare feet, I often wonder if it's really the woman or some guy roleplaying, pretending to be a woman in his life who is not into the fetish and so she wouldn't roleplay herself.

For those of you with more experience, please comment: are there really as many women into tickling as would appear from this and other sites?

 

[FFT32]

I encountered one amazing teenage girl back when I was a pre-teen who while babysitting, let me tiickle her feet because she said she really liked it.

I dated a girl back in high school who was very into it and sent my still developing "interest" into orbit as she always inisted on having her feet tickled because it was her #1 form of foreplay.

There are many others throughout the years who "became" into it enough to always indulge me.

Currently my sole-mate, Rachel who was completely vanilla before we became a couple, is now a total ticklephile. She also helped me convert her life-long bestie Jen into really enjoying tickle play.

 

[quinn65]

Based on discussions with most of my female friends 15+ years ago when we briefly ran a tickle video store...no. None of them were into being tickled specifically. But being tied up and "handled" (their term)...that's a different story. Only a couple were uncomfortable with the bondage, but most were pretty excited about it.

The fact that it all led to tickle torture was anywhere from interesting and fun to terrifying and unbearable for them.

Not speaking for all women, of course. This is a sample size of 15 or so. And it's an idea that fits with what I've seen since then: excited to be tied up, curious to dubious about being tickled.

 

[WickedTouch]

I always thought the tickling fetish is something guys are more into than women. Even though I've met a couple of women who were into it in my life, just through regular walks of life, not any fetish sites or places.

So if some person on this forum or other places says "Hi, I'm Suzie (or whatever female name) I love being tickled" and it's a picture of a woman posing with bare feet, I often wonder if it's really the woman or some guy roleplaying, pretending to be a woman in his life who is not into the fetish and so she wouldn't roleplay herself.

For those of you with more experience, please comment: are there really as many women into tickling as would appear from this and other sites?

This is kind of a difficult question for me to answer, but I’ll give some thoughts I have. There are likely more than you’d expect, but less than you’d want. Firstly, regardless of gender, there are not a lot of people fixated on tickling in the whole of the world population; It is just a rare thing. Within the group of those with the fixation, they are scattered all across the globe. Without the online factor, that makes the rarity tangibly feel even more pronounced. But we live in a world largely connected online, and in that world, it can sometimes give the illusion of the fixation being much more common than it is.

When looking at proportionality, there are almost certainly more men with the fixation than women who are active in the community. I don’t think it is easy to know how that translates to actual fixations—only participation online. Sometimes I think people get the impression that there are more women with the fixation than there actually are because of the large amount of content featuring them, but my understanding is that a sizable portion of those women are not into tickling so much as they are experimenting or taking a gig as a general kink model. Now, none of that is to take away from the fact that there are still quite a bit of women in the community, but perhaps not near as many as are represented. And as you suspected, there are definitely male-playing-female catfishers and the like. I’ve ran into many of those myself (and some others I’ve suspected but never verified with enough confidence). Another factor that can muddy the perception of the ratios is that, In my experience, women in the community by and large are much more likely to be reserved, careful, and untrusting. in online communication (and rightly so—you wouldn’t believe my wife’s and friends’ DM’s—No, what you’re imagining…it’s almost certainly worse!). But that means that more of them are less visible online, where as more of the men in the community generally tend to think less of things like predators, abuse, and other vulnerabilities. The disproportionate supply and demand also creates a heightened sense of eagerness and desperation in more men, which feeds into differences in perceived levels of engagement.

But yes, real flesh and blood women exist with real tickling fixations. I’m married to one and we have played with several who were kind enough to put their trust in us. It takes time, energy, and patience, but each of them deserve that investment from anyone they hope to share their vulnerabilities with.

 

[cj08902]

Between the catfishers and the people who are too lazy to fill out their profiles, I have my doubts.

 

[Insid-i-usStudios]

Wickedtouch summed it up. There'd be plenty more women in these spaces if it weren't for the creeps.

 

[TheMasterTouch]

Men in general are more prone to having fetishes than women. My experience is similar to Quinn65. Most women (hell, most PEOPLE) don't give tickling a second thought. But that doesn't mean they won't be willing to play along with people like us. As long as the person in question doesn't HATE being tickled, you have an opening. Many women like the "playful domination" aspect of it. Or at least, that's how I was able to introduce it to the women I've dated. 😏

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

I will say a big problem is the way a lot of people desire to tickle. I have said this before in some posts - if you ask a girl if she is willing to be tied down immobile and tickled relentlessly for hours, she will probably think of you as a dangerous creep. On top of that, if you say you will do it against her consent, you want to tickle her hard, dig into sensitive spots like belly and armpits, most girls will start avoiding you.

Why not make it playful? Why not do it for the sake of making girls laugh for fun? Don't tickle too much right away - maybe just brief 2-3 seconds some time? Also, need to make a girl comfortable enough so that she does not see you touching her as a problem. Tickling for girls is never a normal touch - it is supposed to be something beyond friendly and if a boy does it, it is the start of something sexual. Especially if you do it when in private with her, say while in a library when only two are studying.

If you can tickle a girl to make her laugh after having made her laugh through jokes or conversation, there is a bigger chance of the girl being okay experimenting with getting tickled with some tying of hands and legs (again, if she is really ticklish, this will come a lot later). But do you need to always tie her to tickle? Can you not tickle without tying? If you cannot make a girl enjoy being tickled without being tied, she will never let you tie her.

As someone who was introduced to being tickled, I can say this is my experience - I was not always into it but now I enjoy it because one boy was patient enough to help me see that there is fun for me in being tickled, not only torture.

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

I encountered one amazing teenage girl back when I was a pre-teen who while babysitting, let me tiickle her feet because she said she really liked it.

I dated a girl back in high school who was very into it and sent my still developing "interest" into orbit as she always inisted on having her feet tickled because it was her #1 form of foreplay.

There are many others throughout the years who "became" into it enough to always indulge me.

Currently my sole-mate, Rachel who was completely vanilla before we became a couple, is now a total ticklephile. She also helped me convert her life-long bestie Jen into really enjoying tickle play.

All the best! Make Rachel and her best friend enjoy laughing a lot 😀

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

Men in general are more prone to having fetishes than women. My experience is similar to Quinn65. Most women (hell, most PEOPLE) don't give tickling a second thought. But that doesn't mean they won't be willing to play along with people like us. As long as the person in question doesn't HATE being tickled, you have an opening. Many women like the "playful domination" aspect of it. Or at least, that's how I was able to introduce it to the women I've dated. 😏

I will say the opposite - most girls would know where things are going if someone is tickling them. It is about how you do it that matters.

 

[natscott6282]

tbh I always felt it was more of a girl thing to DO the tickling just cause of how much tickling is done by girls

 

[D-Tickler]

This is kind of a difficult question for me to answer, but I’ll give some thoughts I have. There are likely more than you’d expect, but less than you’d want. Firstly, regardless of gender, there are not a lot of people fixated on tickling in the whole of the world population; It is just a rare thing. Within the group of those with the fixation, they are scattered all across the globe. Without the online factor, that makes the rarity tangibly feel even more pronounced. But we live in a world largely connected online, and in that world, it can sometimes give the illusion of the fixation being much more common than it is.

I will say the opposite - most girls would know where things are going if someone is tickling them. It is about how you do it that matters.

tbh I always felt it was more of a girl thing to DO the tickling just cause of how much tickling is done by girls

I'm in line with all these good points that you 3 have shared😎

And I can make a summary of these points:

At the macro level, ppl (regardless of gender) who have their potential fixation on tickling (fetish) only count the rare minority in the global sense. And those ppl are rather scattered in real life but more likely assemble on particularly relevant online sites, such as TMF.
So, for most ppl, it's usually not easy to encounter an individual who fixates on tickling in real life.

At the micro level, within the group of ppl who have their potential fixation on tickling (fetish), females seem to occupy a relatively higher ratio of this group.

The summary above fits my personal experience & observation.

 

[FFT32]

All the best! Make Rachel and her best friend enjoy laughing a lot 😀

That is very nice, thank you. Rachel was a close friend for a very long time. I never dropped any hints about hooking up or made any moves on her and never imagined us being a couple. She was and still is my best friend. How we "discovered" each other was completely innocent, casual and natural. But wow, what a blessing! She has taken my love of tickling over the moon.

I hope all of your sessions, semi-sessions, seudo-sessions, suspect-sessions and non-sessions are filled with tiicklish joy! ;0)

 

[tangledgirl]

I’m definitely a real woman. But yeah my experience for sure is that the community is overwhelmingly men. But I have definitely met other women who like being tickled.

 

[Titillating 2.0]

I’m definitely a real woman. But yeah my experience for sure is that the community is overwhelmingly men. But I have definitely met other women who like being tickled.

I’ve had the fortune of meeting a woman from the community twice before, but the foundation of our friendship was building trust for months and I feel like a lot of people aren’t willing to do that for whatever reason. In my experience, there’s a good amount of women into tickling but the chances they live within reasonable distance to you is low lol. And then the chance of them wanting to actually meet is even lower, which a lot of guys are upset by. Nobody owes anyone anything but unfortunately it’s something I’ve seen in the community over time

 

[JohnTK]

Considering the amount of people that are 'in the closet' with this fetish, it is statistically expected that women will hide it more than men do, as unfortunately women are more easily judged regarding sexuality preferences and kink than men do.

In my life, I have met a few women who, with the right encouragement and given the opportunity, proved to be devilish ticklers or amazing -lees, when they would have not even tried it by themselves.

I specifically remember couple years ago meeting an escort girl (from brazil with cute face, black eyes, black hair and huge fake boobs), who I asked to try some tied up tickling play in our meetings. Long story short, after a few meetings and 2-3 times that I asked her to bring a friend over and try tickling 2vs1, she developed into a real -ler maniac to the point that she made it clear to me that if I have a girl over who we can tickle torture together, I should just message her and she would take a taxi and come tickle her with me without any payment (we actually did this 3-4 times and it was a huge surprise considering those sessions involved sex after the tickling and that she was a professional). I also have a good story about how she destroyed me f/m which I think was her favorite! Unfortunately this girl travels a lot but we are always in contact and I am really planning to see her more in the future.

 

[SirTristran]

There's plenty, BUT, alot fly under the radar. 90% of the lees I talk to or have seshed with have zero public presence and only use DMs. Too many creeps have scared them into hiding sadly.

 

[GigglyGothGrrl]

It's the general experience of most girls, in and out of fetish communities. From a young age, people (mostly boys and creepy men) find any excuse to touch you, whether it's putting hands on your shoulders, excessive hugging, pinching, tickling, touching your hair, playing with your clothes. Girls learn from a young age that they have to protect themselves from others people's unwanted advancements or they'll easily have their autonomy taken away, and it typically starts before they're able to vocalize their discomfort so it appears as hiding, isolating, "being shy", being quiet: whatever doesn't attract attention. Or as screaming, tantrums, rage and throwing things so to scare away attention. Basic fight or flight response.

It happens to boys too, but it happens more commonly to girls cuz we live in a society that objectifies and sexualizes the feminine and conditions us into thinking that our autonomy can be taken away at the whim of someone who values us more as a prize than a person. I'm not saying every man is like this, but every woman has had to deal with a man like this at some point in her life, and when her voice is ignored she finds other ways to keep herself safe and guarded.

In regards to the OP's original post, I'm sure there are plenty of women out there who enjoy being tickled and fantasize about it often. I've seen plenty of artwork and comics written by them exploring their fantasies. What you need to remember about them is their guard is constantly up, and it's extremely hard to get them to let it down. We're constantly vigilant towards any kind of advancement, whether it something like tickles or even something as innocent as a hug, it's always a potential threat. To gain intimacy, you first need to build trust and ensure that they're safe with you. It isn't something that you convince their mind, but their nervous system. Women work with thinking AND feeling. If she doesn't think it's safe or it doesn't feel safe, she won't risk it. Even if she's into it and wants it, she won't do it. And if it reaches past that point, you're dealing with a person in fight or flight mode and the outcome will be anything but fun.

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

It's the general experience of most girls, in and out of fetish communities. From a young age, people (mostly boys and creepy men) find any excuse to touch you, whether it's putting hands on your shoulders, excessive hugging, pinching, tickling, touching your hair, playing with your clothes. Girls learn from a young age that they have to protect themselves from others people's unwanted advancements or they'll easily have their autonomy taken away, and it typically starts before they're able to vocalize their discomfort so it appears as hiding, isolating, "being shy", being quiet: whatever doesn't attract attention. Or as screaming, tantrums, rage and throwing things so to scare away attention. Basic fight or flight response.

It happens to boys too, but it happens more commonly to girls cuz we live in a society that objectifies and sexualizes the feminine and conditions us into thinking that our autonomy can be taken away at the whim of someone who values us more as a prize than a person. I'm not saying every man is like this, but every woman has had to deal with a man like this at some point in her life, and when her voice is ignored she finds other ways to keep herself safe and guarded.

In regards to the OP's original post, I'm sure there are plenty of women out there who enjoy being tickled and fantasize about it often. I've seen plenty of artwork and comics written by them exploring their fantasies. What you need to remember about them is their guard is constantly up, and it's extremely hard to get them to let it down. We're constantly vigilant towards any kind of advancement, whether it something like tickles or even something as innocent as a hug, it's always a potential threat. To gain intimacy, you first need to build trust and ensure that they're safe with you. It isn't something that you convince their mind, but their nervous system. Women work with thinking AND feeling. If she doesn't think it's safe or it doesn't feel safe, she won't risk it. Even if she's into it and wants it, she won't do it. And if it reaches past that point, you're dealing with a person in fight or flight mode and the outcome will be anything but fun.

Best way a girl could have written this!!!

 

[dahoochman]

This is just my experiences going back to my high school days many years ago. Are there many ticklish women? Yes. Are there women that are IN to being tickled? Not many. However, I have been with women that knew I liked it and would indulge me knowing it turned me on. Does that make sense?

 

[LerLee]

I don’t think that I’ve ever known a lady with a tickle fetish. However, every single woman that I’ve gotten flirty/physical with has enjoyed tickling me. Are they “into tickling”? I would have to say no but they really seem to enjoy tickling me and my reactions.

 

[SecretSwitch]

I can only speak from personal experience, but I have met up with a couple of different women who are definitely into being tickled within the last couple of years, although no women that I have met up with knew anything about this forum. There are probably more men into tickling than women, and probably more men willing to have a profile on any platform regarding that than women, but they are definitely out there. I am not sure proportionality-wise, how many there are here vs other platforms.

 

[Silverflame3]

It's the general experience of most girls, in and out of fetish communities. From a young age, people (mostly boys and creepy men) find any excuse to touch you, whether it's putting hands on your shoulders, excessive hugging, pinching, tickling, touching your hair, playing with your clothes. Girls learn from a young age that they have to protect themselves from others people's unwanted advancements or they'll easily have their autonomy taken away, and it typically starts before they're able to vocalize their discomfort so it appears as hiding, isolating, "being shy", being quiet: whatever doesn't attract attention. Or as screaming, tantrums, rage and throwing things so to scare away attention. Basic fight or flight response.

It happens to boys too, but it happens more commonly to girls cuz we live in a society that objectifies and sexualizes the feminine and conditions us into thinking that our autonomy can be taken away at the whim of someone who values us more as a prize than a person. I'm not saying every man is like this, but every woman has had to deal with a man like this at some point in her life, and when her voice is ignored she finds other ways to keep herself safe and guarded.

In regards to the OP's original post, I'm sure there are plenty of women out there who enjoy being tickled and fantasize about it often. I've seen plenty of artwork and comics written by them exploring their fantasies. What you need to remember about them is their guard is constantly up, and it's extremely hard to get them to let it down. We're constantly vigilant towards any kind of advancement, whether it something like tickles or even something as innocent as a hug, it's always a potential threat. To gain intimacy, you first need to build trust and ensure that they're safe with you. It isn't something that you convince their mind, but their nervous system. Women work with thinking AND feeling. If she doesn't think it's safe or it doesn't feel safe, she won't risk it. Even if she's into it and wants it, she won't do it. And if it reaches past that point, you're dealing with a person in fight or flight mode and the outcome will be anything but fun.

Unfortunately, what you describe is far too common in every aspect of our lives. There is not a single female friend I know that wasn't threatened by the possibility of rape at least once in their lives. Oftentimes someone reacted to help them out and nothing bad happened, but there's always at least one creep around the corner.

I used to be active on reddit and would often preach for folks to find themselves a partner and develop a stable relationship first, where their interest in the other side is known (not harassing friends under "playful" activities but under ulterior motives). If you like someone, have the guts to tell them and risk being vulnerable and rejected. If nothing else, it helps teach you how to behave with the opposite gender and how to handle rejection. What they want is all too often a magic combination like in a video game, a series of buttons to push and get what they want, like operating a fleshy automaton. I would say that even as a man I had unpleasant experiences, but I can easily smash somenone's face in, so they don't dare become physical with me.

As for females into tickling, once the initial barrier is lowered and you develop trust/respect, I haven't met a girl that didn't respond well. Of course, some will want it to remain in the field of gentle teasing, but if they like you and feel safe around you, some girls I've known were bold enough to start outright tickling me out of the blue. My wife told me outright on our very first date she wants to tie me down and tickle me once things became more flirty and sexual in nature, and we've been very open about our fetishes and desires from the very first day.

 

[bluey1]

"Into" tickling is sometimes different to "enjoying" tickling. I actually think there are alot of women who enjoy tickling others. In fact, I know lots of women who enjoy tickling someone, men and women. But I don't think as many may have a "fetish" for it, as men do. Or they are defs not as open with it.

 

[natscott6282]

why do so many guys obsess over whether girls ‘really are into tickling’ ?

i dont think I have ever questioned whether a guy or anyone ‘really is into’ something and tbh i cant even imagine any other girls wondering that or questioning it

do guys still think we pretend ? and for what reason ? to please them ? is it an insecurity thing ? is it something we do that makes them not trust us ?

why would we even do that especially in a tickling group