I've been on this site for a short time now, but from the few discussions I've been a part of, it seems like in general that people have a much more casual relationship with their lees/lers. At least from this minuscule sample size I'm gathering from. I don’t want to stereotype. So I was wondering, is that true? Or do you all have like strong relationships with them?
In my case, every ler I have is a friend. 9 women, 1 man. We didn't all start like that, but now we're kind of all in a kink friend network I guess, lol. In fact, six of them. Are my closest friends. Two since. . . birth, the other 4 from college.
In the case of my lees though, a lot of them aren't my friends. I'm guessing this comes from the fact that I have no preference as it applies to my lers. I don't care who tickles me, as long as they know how to use their hands and are merciless! I like women, but even that's not a deal breaker. Anyway, my point is there's no search for lers. When someone wants to tickle me, there’s usually an approach from them, and I usually get to know them first before I bring them to my house(FYI I always tickle/get tickled at my house. I’ve got the room, the solitude, and EVERYTHING we could possibly need.) So there’s a bit of a connection before that, because I’m not the one whose doing the pursing in that case. Because of that, there's a much smaller pool. I guess. I'm never out at the mall, and see someone and say, "I would love if they tickled me. I have to get them to tickle me." I mean I have said that before, but very sporadically and it's usually celebrities. And usually in my dreams, "Oh my God Rihanna STOOOOPPPPPPP!!!!!!!(Me not really wanting Rihanna to stop.)"
However, when it comes to my lees, I definitely have a type. I like curvy women for example. So these encounters tend to be like, picking up someone in a bar. Very one-nightstandish. It's just that I haven't focused on any type of relationship in years, and I'm a busy woman. So it's easy for it to be just a simple action, and that's it. You'd be surprised, well actually you all probably wouldn't be surprised, by how many women are ready and willing to indulge in the kink, with no prodding. So, I've tickled an entire smorgasbord of women in NC.And another smorgasbord that I’ve flown out(I feel like some kind of gigolo everytime I say that). All of which I remember, but most of which, are just on simple speaking terms, if that. Sometimes it’s even kind of awkward. Not for me, but for them apparently. And of course there were the ones with bad sessions. But I wouldn't say most of these women are my friends. Nor did I necessarily even attempt to garner or establish that deeper connection. I don't even know why not. I can't even explain that, I just never did. Well the awkwardness is a factor, but otherwise. I don't really understand.
A few of my lers are also my lees, so I'm of course friends with them. And a few others. But the percentage is really really low, even on repeat lees.
Is that the case with the rest of you all, do you have any friends who participate in the kink with you? Or are you solely one time kind of person? Or alternatively, are you a putting your clothes on before the lee is fully out of the restraints?
In my case, every ler I have is a friend. 9 women, 1 man. We didn't all start like that, but now we're kind of all in a kink friend network I guess, lol. In fact, six of them. Are my closest friends. Two since. . . birth, the other 4 from college.
In the case of my lees though, a lot of them aren't my friends. I'm guessing this comes from the fact that I have no preference as it applies to my lers. I don't care who tickles me, as long as they know how to use their hands and are merciless! I like women, but even that's not a deal breaker. Anyway, my point is there's no search for lers. When someone wants to tickle me, there’s usually an approach from them, and I usually get to know them first before I bring them to my house(FYI I always tickle/get tickled at my house. I’ve got the room, the solitude, and EVERYTHING we could possibly need.) So there’s a bit of a connection before that, because I’m not the one whose doing the pursing in that case. Because of that, there's a much smaller pool. I guess. I'm never out at the mall, and see someone and say, "I would love if they tickled me. I have to get them to tickle me." I mean I have said that before, but very sporadically and it's usually celebrities. And usually in my dreams, "Oh my God Rihanna STOOOOPPPPPPP!!!!!!!(Me not really wanting Rihanna to stop.)"
However, when it comes to my lees, I definitely have a type. I like curvy women for example. So these encounters tend to be like, picking up someone in a bar. Very one-nightstandish. It's just that I haven't focused on any type of relationship in years, and I'm a busy woman. So it's easy for it to be just a simple action, and that's it. You'd be surprised, well actually you all probably wouldn't be surprised, by how many women are ready and willing to indulge in the kink, with no prodding. So, I've tickled an entire smorgasbord of women in NC.And another smorgasbord that I’ve flown out(I feel like some kind of gigolo everytime I say that). All of which I remember, but most of which, are just on simple speaking terms, if that. Sometimes it’s even kind of awkward. Not for me, but for them apparently. And of course there were the ones with bad sessions. But I wouldn't say most of these women are my friends. Nor did I necessarily even attempt to garner or establish that deeper connection. I don't even know why not. I can't even explain that, I just never did. Well the awkwardness is a factor, but otherwise. I don't really understand.
A few of my lers are also my lees, so I'm of course friends with them. And a few others. But the percentage is really really low, even on repeat lees.
Is that the case with the rest of you all, do you have any friends who participate in the kink with you? Or are you solely one time kind of person? Or alternatively, are you a putting your clothes on before the lee is fully out of the restraints?
, is also my best friend. 
