armpit attacked

skeptictrial · Feb 13, 2007

my boyfriend loves to tickle me, especially my armpits. one day, he was having a bad day and decided to take it out on me. i'm only 5'3" and am definitely not very strong. he threw me on the bed and straddled me while his fingers just dug into my armpits. he had made up a safeword a few weeks earlier when i told him that he didn't know when to stop. the safeword is 'more'. however, this day, when i was screaming out 'more', he only responded with 'you always want more, well, i'm giving it to you!' it lasted about 10 minutes. after he finished, he just patted my head and said 'poor baby' while i laid there panting for breath.

daryl · Feb 13, 2007

I'm not sure "more" is the best safeword. He actually sounds a little abusive if he's taking out his stuff on you and you're not happy with it.

Mitchell · Feb 13, 2007

Welcome to the forum, Skeptictrial. Respect for safewords is a paramount rule in tickling, even in cyber sessions. When the lee screams out the safeword, the ler is supposed to stop, always. As daryl said, for your boyfriend not to respect the safeword, sounds to me like he really isnt considering your feelings. It sounds like you need to have a talk with your boyfriend, and come up with a safeword that isnt "More", and that he will respect if you shout it out. Communication is key in such a situation, and, if he isn't respecting safewords, and you are feeling sore from being tickled by him, something is wrong there. I am both ler and lee myself, so, if I were the lee in a situation like this, I would tell my female ler that I am more than happy to submit to being tickled by them, but, that they need to respect my rights, and, that if we establish a safeword, and I scream it out, that means stop, always.
Hope that advice helped. Good Luck.

Mitch